I’ve been browsing this sub as a non-redditor and made a throwaway account to post.

I realise after reading the posts here that I’ve positioned myself as a non-challenge to the men in my life. I’ve been too available, at times done the chasing, and other girls have been the “prize.” I think that men want the chase because if they get you it proves that they are “worthy.”

When I say men in my life, I mean men who will continue to be in my life, not random guys.

So, my question is, is there any way to undo the damage that has been done? I think that my mindset has changed, are there other things I can change to undo the damage, or is there no going back?