So I (20F) met this dude (21M) on tinder 3 weeks ago, automatically I clicked with him & was kinda bummed that he hadn’t really made a substantial effort to see me. I figured he just wasn’t interested and kinda stopped thinking about him as much, however he then told me that he just got his heart broken the week before by a girl he really liked but didn’t like him back. I figured i needed to remove myself from the equation bc God knows how long it takes men to heal from a heartbreak.

Anyway so we kept talking super casually (no flirting) but recently we’ve been talking every single day and he asked me if I wonder why he hasn’t asked to see me yet (in a serious way, we hung out once for like 10 minutes but that doesn’t count) I told him I figured it was bc he’s still getting over his ex, he didn’t really speak to that but said he thought of going celibate to gain clarity, before deciding against it because now he talked to the girl and apparently gained closure and the clarity he wanted. He didn’t say much about it after that, which was weird bc I didn’t really understand why he brought it up with me anyway.

My point is, I’ve been talking to this dude for a few weeks now, and I want to cut him off because I very much have a crush but I don’t want to be that girl that gives some guy all her attention and is left in the dark or has to wait for “the stars to align” I don’t really want to be his friend and idk if I would even believe him if he told me he wanted to pursue something with me because so far he’s been SO passive about it and he also admitted to liking someone else days before he met me.

I don’t want to get involved with someone who might still have feelings for another person, so I figured I could just ghost him bc I’m tired of giving him attention. However idk if ghosting is the dickhead thing to do? Do you think I should talk to him about it even though it probably won’t be productive?

TDLR: Met a guy on tinder 3 weeks ago, we talk everyday, he’s been passive about meeting me bc he told me he liked someone else that didn’t like him back a week before meeting me. I like him but I don’t think the situation is ideal, do I ghost him or talk to him about it?