Ladies, I cannot stress this enough. FOCUS ON YOURSELF!

For almost a year now I've been seeing my therapist regularly. I had been trying to understand why for the second time, my relationship went to shit.

Long story short, my first love cheated on me, got another girl pregnant, married her, and left me in the dust. I tried my hardest to move on (thought I had) when I reconnected with an old friend that I hadn't spoken to in years. I started dating him, and guess what...same thing happened. He didn't get a girl pregnant, but he did cheat and then ghosted me. I was heartbroken once again. These two guys are both LVM and never in my right mind would I give them a chance if I would have been in my right mind.

Back to my therapist...I kept trying to understand why it happened again. Why would two men, on after another cheat on me? His answer was always, "let it go, and focus that energy on yourself." Thing is, I allowed the second guy to come back into my life. I became his emotional support friend. And I completely embodied the pickmeisha title. I thought that proving myself to him by doing everything he wanted would change his mind. Of course, it didn't.

Something clicked inside me this year. I decided I was done feeling like shit. I wanted to feel and do better. So after a good year of my therapist telling me to focus my energy on myself, I finally did. Everything in my life has changed for the better. I started to love myself and really understand what that meant.

It all started with my body. I watch what I put in my body and how I treat it. I exercise everyday. I meditate, all before I even go to work. I finally understand how important it is to treat yourself with respect and love. I've lost over 40lbs since I decided to make that change. I still have more to go, but I'm getting closer and closer.

Here's the best part. Making health and fitness my priority has transcended into the rest of my life as well. It is like a cloud was lifted off my eyes, and I'm finally seeing life for what it really is.

So here's the deal, understand that your needs come first. In every aspect of your life. You need to be selfish. Take care of you first. Because at the end of the day, you are your biggest cheerleader. No one else is going to have life with the consequences of your life choices but you. So make sure that you are choosing wisely. FOCUS ON YOURSELF HEAVY. Find out what it means to love yourself. I guarantee that once you do, you'll never want to go back. Trust me, good things will start to come along, your stars will align, and you will find inner peace.