Sometimes I see texts and conversations from before i found FDS and the difference is night and day. I put up with so much negging and disrespect. I'm grateful for this community that has validated my own instincts as a woman and helped erase the bullshit and gaslighting from men.

I'm 'mainly' using OLD right now for practicing this new mindset and adjusting how I interact with men - and I also like to tell myself that I am making sure I will recognize any LVM in public that I've interacted with online.

But the truth is I am a giant weepy hopeless romantic!

The idea of finding love is so important to me. But I have read the handbook, and all of your lovely advice here and I agree.... I would 100% rather be alone than with someone that makes me feel pain, or hurts my self esteem and just keep fantasizing about the perfect partner instead of being hurt. I am not letting myself believe in hope, wishes, blaming myself, or manufacturing excuses for LVM behavior anymore.

My first relationship I found online and he treated me like a Queen. About 5 years in I realized that he was a porn addict which is why I struggled and eventually left. But he had everything else I wanted in a man. He would take me to dinner, pay for every last thing without even thinking twice, surprise me with thoughtful gifts, and he was very emotionally nurturing.

The damage his porn addiction caused reflected in all my relationships and men that I chose thereafter. But thanks to FDS I realize that I am worth so much more than the bullshit. I know I do not need to concern myself with anything else besides improving and loving myself exactly the way I hope my future partner will.

I love you all, thank you for the support.

By the way, I want to mention, I love ALL your juicy LVM screenshots and Roast-A-Scrote posts the most. So satisfying to see this shitty behavior recognized and shut down!!