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Same 😖 men are disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 01:36 AM
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Aparna came off as a little abrasive at the beginning but I think a lot of it was nerves from being on camera. She definitely chilled out as she went on more dates. But her essential nature did not change. She is a no nonsense woman who knows what she wants. She is not for everyone, but no one is so I dont really understand all the hate that she gets. Aparna just says out loud what a lot of those lawyer types are thinking. Shes just not afraid to be honest meanwhile the rest of them love artific…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 04:43 AM
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Exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 04:35 AM
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Aww this looks awesome. Thanks for the recommendation sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 04:58 PM
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Dont bring it up, itll just make him sneakier for his next poor victim. Just add it to your list of reasons to leave and leave ASAP. Say you dont have similar life goals and then block his ass. Grey rock him until it's safe to leave him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 12:22 AM
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🤣🤣🤣💯👌🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 12:03 AM
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This is too much 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 05:15 PM
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Me either sis 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 11:10 PM
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Lol I second this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 11:06 PM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣me too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 07:06 PM
1

Wow, the cautionary tale that is Shan Boody just got more depressing..... I really didnt think it was possible to be honest.😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 12:42 AM
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Ooh I havent seen this one. thanks for sending sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 12:40 AM
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The smell is making me gag 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 04:42 PM
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Sis no. It's not about men competing with women. It's about men competing with the OTHER men that we have as options. As women, we have dick getting tossed at us left , right, and center. We are spoiled for choice. If we dont have strategies we are lost. We can become paralyzed with indecision and not make any choices for fear of making the wrong one. Or we can focus on the wrong factors (e.g. charm or looks alone) and make the wrong decision. OR we can realize that the smart course of action is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 04:21 PM
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She is hilarious! But she is 100%% correct in saying that when a pickme gets tired of being used, abused, and lied to enough times she levels up and becomes a shera. But the duties/scrotes are mad because they'd rather have a woman that lives to please men at the expense of her dignity, self worth and sanity even though 99% of the time they abandon her in the end. Long live shera!, I definitely dont want to follow her advice and become a professional gold digger but I wont knock a woman for goin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 03:51 PM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 10:01 AM
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Ohmygod yes! 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 09:47 AM
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I would feel sorry for her if she didn't make her living selling her delusional lifestyle to other women. THIS! I don't give a damn what this woman wants to do in her personal life. Or what lies she tells herself to justify her husband's blatant disrespect and boundary pushing. But to pass off her relationship nonsense as something that is NORMAL? Or to be ACCEPTED? Naw B, that is NOT okay with me. 👎🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 09:46 AM
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I feel you sis. Your safety and peace of mind is the most important thing. Sorry you had to deal with such a bum, I'm sending you an internet hug 🤗❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 09:28 AM
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Ohhhhh, phew!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 09:24 AM
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I'm crying sis!!! 🤣🤣 could you imagine some desperate pickme trying this strategy out on her local tweaker? Goddamn shed be more likely to get her face eaten by a scrote on bath salts 😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 09:24 AM
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Well he probably would have slept with her but never have admitted it to anyone. I guess he could do that without directly looking at her face 🤔 so I guess you're right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 09:20 AM
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Yep, talk about a come up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 09:18 AM
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Rancid street dick! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 09:17 AM
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All we went is a decent respectful man who we can have a shared future with. Dassit! But they want to paint us as crazy money hungry Jezebels 🙄. Great post sis! I couldnt have said it any better 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 11:04 PM
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Aww sis. You've single-handedly revived my cold dead heart. Mazel tov ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 10:59 PM
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I feel you sis. But for once I'd like to see a meme like this where the guy wants to see women treated well because they are human beings. PERIOD, without making them important via their relationship to a man. That's all 🤷🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 08:06 PM
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😂🤣👏🏿👏🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 08:03 PM
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FACTSSSSS! Real talk the goal should be to treat everyone HOW YOU WOULD WANT TO BE TREATED. Why is that so hard for men to grasp?🤷🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 08:01 PM
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Sis, I was thinking the same thing! His scrawny lil arms are honestly shocking! How can he even lift the skateboard? 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 02:37 PM
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Nah, you right. Stay salty sis 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 02:18 PM
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Lol seems petty but definitely understandable. I'm not sure what to advise here. Maybe just tell your closest girlfriends? The ones that are closer to you rather than to him and her. Instead of blasting it to everyone? That's what I'd do 🤷🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 02:13 PM
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Awww no sis you definitely deserve a HVM. You're just not ready for one yet. You are smart for taking a break from dating. You would only attract LVM/predators at this point. Im sorry you had such a garbage dude. Just focus on yourself and healing. You'll make it through stronger and happier than you were before, I just know it! 🤗❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 02:08 PM
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Preach the facts sis!👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 03:14 AM
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Oh sis, she took me there too on a one way trip. I'm trying to get back from the slap of truth that is this destination 😫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 12:45 AM
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Girl I'm all out of patience too 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 12:19 AM
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You're 100%% correct. My ex told me flat out that he would never be the man I deserved but that he was happy with how he was (yet was constantly depressed/anxious 🙄) and would never change. In my mind my pickmeisha ass was like: "ok challenge accepted!" 🤦🏿‍♀️ God I was such a fool. Well never again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 12:16 AM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣 I'm screaming sis!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 12:08 AM
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Oh sis I've been there. Fell for a love bomb at 32 (I'm 33 now🤣) he asked me to be exclusive that week and then bam! Trauma bonded like a motherfuck3r 🤦🏿‍♀️ but thanks to FDS I dropped him like a bad habit and have been No Contact since 😎 But it doesnt matter where we've been sis, only where we're going 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 12:07 AM
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Lots of people have said it but I have to repeat: PLEASE DO NOT GET PREGNANT!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 11:32 PM
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Yep, this checks out 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 07:54 PM
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Hahahahahahahaha real talk. These LVM really be on some jekyl/hyde shit. 🤦🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 07:50 PM
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That was hilarious 😂😂😂😂 especially the end👌🏿👌🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 07:49 PM
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Right??????? Why ask for a number you wont use?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 07:22 PM
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☝️THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 06:48 PM
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😂😂😂 sis right?!?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 06:47 PM
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Yeah honestly it sounds like some sick fetish thing to me too. But I'm open to the fact that I could be wrong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 06:20 PM
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I loved this ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 12:31 PM
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Aww sis welcome home! We are happy to have you. I really dont understand why some men dont think about what they have to offer a woman. And instead of whining about it, why they dont just level up so that they can get the type of woman they want. But no, they want to be accepted, nay CHASED, for being bummy weed smoking, videogame playing unemployed losers. Smh scrote logic hurts my head 🤦🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 12:14 PM
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Lol ok that makes sense then. But dude still sounds like hes up to something shady sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 12:06 PM
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Liar liar pants on fire....look at how hes trying to flip the script. He is most likely doing some dirty shit on snapchat. As an aside, I dont trust ANY MAN who has snapchat. I am 33 though so take that into consideration.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 04:06 AM
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☝️ OP listen to this advice right here. I'm so sorry you have to go through this, but please dont let on that you know what's up just yet. Gather as much evidence as you can first. Stay strong queen ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 03:59 AM
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I scrolled down looking for this comment. Sounds hella suspect to me too 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 03:57 AM
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Well that was a great read, I mean it sucks what you went through but hey, at least he's gone! And I really appreciate you writing this. I definitely found myself lowering my standards a lot because I'm in my 30s but those guys were so disappointing. So you're right its waaaaay worse being in a bad relationship than it is being alone. Thanks for the reminder sis! I wish you nothing but happiness from here on out ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 01:02 AM
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Sis I hear ya. I'm shocked that these mid 30s fuckbois are still ok with meaningless relationships. It's sad 😪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 09:01 PM
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Yeah I assume the same. Which turns me right off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 09:00 PM
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I second this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 03:46 PM
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Yay!!! Sucess! I'm so happy for you sis. Enjoy your new life without that anchor weighing you down. ❤🥳💃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 03:43 PM
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Yay!!! Sucess! I'm so happy for you sis. Enjoy your new life without that anchor weighing you down. ❤🥳💃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 03:42 PM
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The jokes REALLY DO write themselves 😂😂😂 thank you for the laugh today!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 02:02 PM
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😂😂😂😂😂 sis I'm screaminggg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 02:00 PM
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Oooooh really?? Ok then I'll try again 😂 good looking out sis 👌🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 01:57 PM
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Yeah, i was really enjoying it but her Italian love interest triggered me hard. Reminded me of my ex and brought up the few good memories we had so I had to stop watching it in case it prompted me to reach out🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 01:17 PM
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This honestly broke my heart. I feel so bad for the wife, and it really makes me never want to go near a man tbh. 💔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 01:03 PM
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Excellent. This is the FDS content I like to see. A+ QUEEN. A+
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 02:36 AM
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Sad to say but that’s why I used to be so easily deeply attracted to men who were simply...clean. Ohmygod me too!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 02:08 AM
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😂😂 sounds like a plan sis. Count me in!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 02:07 AM
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Real talk. Having a dad bod without having an actual kid is disgraceful. Women have all the excuses in the world to carry extra weight. 1) hormones, 2) periods, 3) pregnancy and 4) 8x as many fat receptors on our cells compared to men. Our bodies store fat and dont like to let it go. Even with supreme discipline weight loss is a challenge. A man on the other hand can do THE BARE MINIMUM and still loose weight more easily than a woman on a strict diet and exercise regimen. They'd rather just shit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 02:06 AM
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God I hate the shirtless in bed pictures. Actually i hate shirtless photos PERIOD. Even if the guy has a gorgeous chest (which is my weakness not gonna lie) the vanity puts me right off him. And teah OLD is a surefire way to guarantee depression. You're not alone sis, dont worry. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 01:59 AM
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🤭 Imagine thinking you're important enough to even register as anything but a blip in a womans life. This scrote really thought 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 12:20 AM
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Ohmygod right!?!?!?! I'm sorry you had to deal with a mother with BPD, I suspect my aunt has it and she is a nightmare. Her kids are lovely but definitely have some issues because of her. And I have an inkling that my ex bad a cluster b personality disorder with some narc tendencies. I would tell him that he should go to therapy and sort himself out but he would always say that it was bullshit, yada yada 🙄 meanwhile he's torching relationships up and down, burning bridges left and right and hati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 12:16 AM
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😂😂😂😂😂 a mess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 11:59 PM
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My problem is that the fine ass men I seem to come across are fuckboys....excuse me, are fuckmen (we are talking 30+ year olds here). Or are not quite as established as I am either financially or academically. I tried "dating down" and it was a nightmare. He was constantly insecure and felt like I could do better, questioned why I even wanted him and I had to reassure him endlessly....it was exhausting. But then the guys that have their shit together usually don't look as good IMO and are insecu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 11:28 PM
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Ohmygod this is too funny! I agree with the other post though. Make the numbers lower 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 11:14 PM
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Yes. It'll feel good at first and probably for a while. But dont feel surprised if at some point you miss him because you start feeling lonely. As they always say healing is not linear. Just write down everything he did to you so you can reference it in your weakest moments to keep yourself from contacting him. Oh and dont forget to Block and go No Contact. Only communicate through lawyers, because he's definitely going to try and guilt/gaslight his way back in with you. Stay strong queen ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 11:06 PM
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Girl! When I saw his username I was like: hmmm this checks out 😂😂😂. Ewww I didnt check his post history but it all makes sense now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 10:24 PM
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Ohmygod. You are definitely doing the right thing. This man is such a loser I'm sorry to say. I know there is probably some love still there but he is a wasteman plain and simple. No discipline, no ambition, no work ethic, dirty, lazy, and God knows what else. This man has been dragging you down, no question about it. You will be at peace when this anchor of a human, this leech of a man is gone from your life. Don't feel guilty for putting yourself first. You've put up with far more than any per…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 10:21 PM
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🤗 thanks sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 09:58 PM
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I AM DECEASED 😫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 09:39 PM
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Ohmygod right!?!?! It normalizes the shitty behaviour of men. And gets you thinking that it's better the devil you know.....I've fallen into that trap a few times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 08:20 PM
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Together and exclusive?!?!?!?!?! Ewww what a disgusting dirtbag. I'm glad you ghosted him. He doesnt even deserve a response. I cant believe it though 😂😂😂😂 this asshole really thought you'd put up with his shit. He clearly underestimated you Queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 08:19 PM
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Woa sis this is far too deep an issue for this sub to handle. You need to work on yourself first before you even THINK of dating. Please find a therapist (online or otherwise) to help deal with your insecurity and codependency issues. You seem like you are an accomplished woman so it should not be hard for you to make self-actualization a goal that you can reach. Good luck sis ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 08:14 PM
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Not only that but I think some of these posts are fake, and are made by scrotes trying to gotcha us into supporting disgusting pickme behaviour. Like that post about the girl cheating on her boyfriend with her friend because he was neglecting her. God, I nearly had an aneurysm reading that nonsense.😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 08:08 PM
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😂😂😂😂😂👌🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 08:05 PM
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Yeah, honestly I see your point. It definitely gets tiring. And it makes me want to take a break from the FDS sub until I am able to calmly respond and not snap at the blatant stupidity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 08:01 PM
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Girl, I feel you. It is very draining but I dont browse too many other subs and so giving guidance to these lost souls is my version of community outreach. And it helps reinforce why I choose to have such high standards. If it wasn't for FDS I may have fallen into the same traps as these women. 🤷🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 07:48 PM
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😂😂😂 he really wanted me to "oh poor baby" him. Like he should be applauded simply for having loved a woman once. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 07:44 PM
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Dean the bartender who never even makes eye contact with you. 😂😂😂😂 yes! Exactly! Men are usually familiar with unrequited love. But they'll still stay with some poor woman until the object of their affection returns the favor. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 06:57 PM
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Oh sis. I'm sorry. But I have to ask: how do you know? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 06:30 PM
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😂😂😂💯💯💯👌🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 06:29 PM
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Aww thanks for the kind words sis ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 06:28 PM
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Yeah I wish it was unrequited love then I could blame myself for my ridiculous expectations. The truth is that these scrotes shower us with attention and romance at the beginning and set us up to expect far more than they can deliver. Then when they can't we are in a lopsided love situation, not really an unrequited one. They'll breadcrumb us JUUUST enough for us to not feel completely alone in the relationship. Smh, unrequited love sounds better than the bullshit I had with my ex 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 06:01 PM
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This is EXTREMELY LV behaviour. This is the exact same behaviour we criticize when men do it. Sis you are on the wrong sub if you thing we are going to co-sign your despicable and duplicitous behaviour. Just because your boyfriend is low value doesnt mean you should be as well. Break up with your boyfriend, stop talking to your fuckboi of a friend who is also low value for encouraging you to cheat, and lastly READ THE HANDBOOK! Ohmygod the pickme-ness of this post has raised my blood pressure. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 05:55 PM
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The baby with the beard! I'm screaming 😂😂😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 05:49 PM
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I know, me too sis. I could never live with myself doing this to someone. I dont even want to date while I'm still thinking of my ex. It doesnt seem fair to the other person. But then again, I'm just a woman with the normal societally wired empathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 05:47 PM
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Yep. They dont see us as human. Just warm bodies. I don't know why they dont just get a weighted blanket 🤷🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 05:46 PM
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😂😂😂 you really nailed his scrote logic sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 05:44 PM
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When I broke up with my ex I dove right into OLD but the trash there actually made me miss my ex! So I've realized I need to take a break until I no longer have feelings for my him. To be honest I'm so tired of OLD and still tender from the breakup with my ex that i cant even stomach the idea of dating right now. I spend most of my time working, practicing sewing, on reddit, and cycling in the park.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 05:41 PM
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Awww I'm sorry you are in this position but I'm so glad you see your own worth. You ARE special and you DO deserve your special moment. ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 05:36 PM
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"You are attracted to scum"....😂😂😂😂 her friend is FDS to the Tee 👌🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 05:32 PM
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Girl I WISH my hair was thick. Don't get in your head about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 05:30 PM
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Yeah she was celibate for so long and then got knocked up the second she decided to get her freak on. Then I guess she decided to retrofit this man into the role of her dream husband because they had a baby on the way. She has a nice family and I'm sure they would support her if she left him. But it must be hard since this is really the only man she knows. I understand her dilemma tbh, my first real relationship with my NV ex still affects me to this day. I'm sure I would have wasted years tryin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 04:41 PM
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Eww ohmygod, I cant believe this man thought a woman would be impressed by this. And really, how impressive is it to sleep with a glorified prostitute?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 04:35 PM
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😂😂😂😂💯👌🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 03:38 PM
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These men want to be treated like kings but come with pure princess energy 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 03:18 PM
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I keep forgetting scrote logic. Brag about sleeping with pornstars but NEVER wife one. 🤦🏿‍♀️ I would never in a million years boast about sleeping with a man that I wouldnt want to marry. These men are sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 03:11 PM
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This guy is a clown no doubt but at least he is telling you upfront what he wants. Low effort from the start, no love bombing, no lies. It's so refreshing when the trash takes itself out like this with a minimum of fuss 👌🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 02:37 PM
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Hahahahahahahahahahahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 02:35 PM
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Smh these scrotes get off to dishonesty. For them the saying goes: Variety (and a dash of subterfuge) is the spice of life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 02:33 PM
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I'm sorry you have to deal with this loser of a man. Do you know his family info? Can you call his friends? If other people know what hes doing it will force him to be more accountable. Because it's clear he doesnt give a damn what you think of him. Maybe he'll care more about what his family/friends think about his bum ways. Just a suggestion, good luck sis ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 01:10 PM
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Yup, call the sherriff on his ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 01:06 PM
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Ohmygod in deadddddd 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 01:05 PM
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She basically had a holiday fling with him (he was her first) and then realized she was pregnant when she got home. 🤦🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 01:04 PM
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OP listen to this! You're own company should be preferable to that of a LVM or else you'll just settle for the next one that rolls around. But well done sis! We are proud of you queen! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 05:05 AM
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I think its smart for a sugar baby to be on FDS. That way she knows how to be treated in a real relationship and to always remember the transactional dynamics of any relationship with men. This sub is for all of us, no matter what stage of the journey we are in. What is unacceptable is for a sugar baby to come on this sub and preach the normality of the situation. Nope, hell naw. There is enough social programming to that affect that goes on beyond this sub. I'm glad your friend was able to star…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 04:58 AM
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Woa. That is terrible 😖 The not-bad-looking, kind, casual sugar daddy is a myth Girl you said it! 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 04:49 AM
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YES! a thousand times YES to all this, but especially this part: I truly believe that you become what you get used to doing You summed it up perfectly. 👌🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 04:46 AM
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Girl if he was "doing all the right things" then it makes sense that you caught feelings. Sis you are only human. Keep your chin up queen you'll be ok ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 03:46 AM
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If he's a narc then this is the laziest most pathetic love bomb I've ever seen. Man has zero finesse 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 03:41 AM
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Yup it's not an engagement it's an "entanglement"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 03:37 AM
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Definitely talk to him on the phone (video chat is best) before meeting him. It'll give you a better sense of whether you even want to meet him. Get a Google number if you dont want to give him your number. I would try talking to him in the evening maybe 8, 9 or 10 PM or so, if he refuses hes likely* to be married or living with a woman. *its possible that he works a night shift or something but realistically that depends on the job. For example an accountant can work at night but doesnt HAVE TO…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 03:30 AM
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Yep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 03:22 AM
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Ohmygod this has me weakkkk!!!😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 03:17 AM
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Facts on facts on facts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 02:17 AM
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Aww your husband sounds lovely sis, that's the type of HV behaviour I'm looking for in a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 02:15 AM
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Those dudes can't even find me. My block and delete game is stronger than my will to live 😂😂 God that sounded dark.😅 Edit: spelling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 02:10 AM
15

Awww sis you are too sweet 🤗 thanks for the post ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 02:07 AM
2

Lol I can understand it too tbh. My ex was a big softie. Definitely more "feminine" in his emotions and less ambitious than I was, and it appealed to me for a bit. But that shit wore off quick. It totally took me out of my "feminine" energy and I resented the hell out of him for it. Ps: even with his LVM laziness/softness he still pursued me. The sperm swims to the egg ladies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 01:03 AM
1

Oooh this is a bop! Ok go on sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 12:56 AM
42

Oh I see, so if no one swipes right on him its because they're not "comfortable or confident with themselves" And has nothing to do with his horrible profile. Look at the delusion on this one 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 12:55 AM
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I want to disagree with you but I cant really. My ex came from dysfunction and it definitely affected him severely. I'm sure there are decent guys who come from bad upbringings but I'd now consider it a red flag. If it's the only red flag then move cautiously but if some others come to join the party then it might be best to cut your losses. Especially if the man is not in therapy or isnt actively working on improving himself. But that's just my 2 cents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 12:42 AM
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Sis PREACH 👏🏿👏🏿 they want us to do ALL the work now. Lord have mercy, they want us to: ask them out, plan the dates, propose (or push them to propose), work (often FULL TIME), cook, clean, play therapist, bear the children, give birth and raise the children, and let's not forget nurse them in their old age. They want to be passive spectators in their own lives and then have a midlife crisis when they realize they didnt actually CHOOSE anything. They just went along with the flow. Well fuck that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 12:39 AM
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What!? Did I read that correctly? Were you two TOGETHER while he did this?? 🧐 I mean he is trash either way, but I'm curious and need to know how angry to be on your behalf😂 But well done for dumping the loser sis. And welcome to the rest of your fabulous life. It just got 100% less scrote-y 😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 12:27 AM
3

That's what I suspected
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 10:32 PM
3

Me too 😫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 09:56 PM
9

Hey queen welcome! We are happy to have you join our sisterhood!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 04:17 AM
4

Oh shit that's trippy. I didnt feel sorry for him. It's like my sympathy for him turned into disgust instantly. Anytime I think of that character I just want to throw up. I'm not kidding when I say pedophiles should just kill themselves. Sorry, not sorry!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 04:15 AM
22

Same. And proud of it. I always say that if I ever go to jail for murder it will be for killing a pedophile. I dont care who knows it, my family, friends, coworkers and the FBI agent assigned to monitor me, they ALL have heard me say this! 🤷🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 04:13 AM
38

I've never seen anyone defend a pedo AT ALL! Especially to a woman who was raped at 4. This is truly disturbing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 04:10 AM
48

Right before I broke up with my ex I called him a "black hole"😂😂😂 he was just taking all my energy, emotion, and time. The man was insatiable and gave nothing back. Even now when I think about him I get tired. 😪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 03:17 AM
7

😂😂😂😂I knew it was some bullshit but thanks for indulging my curiosity sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 11:39 PM
5

Oof. I needed this reminder today. Thanks! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 11:15 PM
9

😂😂😂😂 I'm cryingggggg. I wish I saw the comment that prompted this reaction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 11:14 PM
3

That is great to know, thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 02:52 PM
3

and whatever filthy crap I've read over the decades XD 😂😂😂 I'm dead sis. Well at least we got the answer to our question
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 02:52 PM
1

😂😂😂 thanks sis! This sub routinely makes me breathless with laughter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:06 AM
3

Thanks for the recommendation sis! Just curious does sex with a real man feel that much worse after vibrators? That's my biggest worry 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:00 AM
4

😂😂😂 I've never tried one but ya girl is getting more and more desperate with every passing month 😭😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 02:43 AM
17

😂😂😂 touché sis, touché 👌🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 08:43 PM
7

Aww thanks sis 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 08:41 PM
20

Sis I'm screaminggggg 🤣🤣👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 well done!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 08:41 PM
42

I don't even eat pork! But what's the alternative? Im allergic to fish 🤷🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 07:14 PM
7

Amen sis fingered crossed 🤞🏿 I love his character! I havent seen the newest season, I hope he comes back but I think it's unlikely 😪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 07:12 PM
75

When I was 22 I was taking the bus and there was this older guy (maybe late 30s) loudly rating women as they got off the bus. As in "hot, not hot, would bang" etc. 🤡 And by the time I hopped off he loudly goes "not hot"...and then he looks at me waiting for a reaction. I just shrugged my shoulders and kept walking. Then he follows me trying to apologize and says "oh no offense meant" and I looked at him like 🤨 "yeah I dont care" and walked away. Y'all should have SEEN this scrotes face. He was s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 07:08 PM
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I've been thinking about this a lot, and I've come to the realization that I cant control what anyone thinks. But I CAN control what treatment I put up with. If a man takes care of me and makes me feel loved then I dont really care what battles he is fighting in his mind. As long as those battles stay IN HIS MIND, and doesnt effect our marriage. Be it pornography, addiction, gambling. We all have our own internal struggles but to me, true love is prioritizing the love of your wife and kids over …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 06:19 PM
1

Lol its definitely an exaggeration but not by much! There are decent guys for sure, but they are heavily outnumbered. Like 1:100 but hey, I just calls 'em like I sees 'em 🤷🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 06:09 PM
293

Naw, this is a man tryna catfish. Don't tell me any different 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 06:06 PM
32

I'm honestly getting the sense that his (probably fake) grief was a turn on for her 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 06:06 PM
10

THIS!!!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 04:56 PM
13

😂😂😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 04:55 PM
18

Awwwwwwww 😭😭 you are so adorable. I'd describe it for you but I've never experienced it myself either. Bless your heart! I pray you find that love and experience. I truly do ❤ Ps. I dont know if I've said it before but I LOVE your name. It cracks me up everytime I see it 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 04:49 PM
10

😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 04:25 PM
12

I have to agree with this. I think its the porn as well 😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 04:25 PM
2

Awww, I get it. I honestly used to feel the same. I wasnt a fan of costly presents because it made me feel indebted to the person. But I realize now that gifts are from the heart and as the recipient I should appreciate the sentiment behind it and not think too much about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 01:22 PM
18

He left it on your pillow?? Aww that's so cute! 😂 congratulations sis. I'm happy you found a man who treats you right!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 01:04 PM
16

Same!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 01:02 PM
8

Yup! And let's not forget our trusty friend the ever reliable BLOCK button 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 02:11 AM
6

Real talk 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 02:07 AM
6

I'm cryingggg 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 02:07 AM
26

So lemme get this straight: a man whose wife works and then come home to do the lions share of the housework is not blatantly lazy and lacking in respect for his wife? Ok got it......Just a final question: did this woman get her degree from a Happy Meal or something? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 02:05 AM
6

Ayyyyyyye! Sis congratulations! The sky is the limit! We are SO proud of you, soar high on your newfound wings ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 01:58 AM
2

Terrifying huh? 😖 well if the idea of a future with this man is scary to you then you need to get out. The way I did it with an ex that I had trouble letting go of was that I laid out all my cards. I told him what I needed in order for the relationship to work for ME and that I was currently unhappy. I said I needed him to give me a concrete plan on how he was going to fix everything. He wasnt able to do that and I was so angry, upset and disappointed that I broke up with him right then and ther…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 01:25 AM
3

Me too!!!!!😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 04:03 PM
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Lol sis I know it was a reference from the "bad boys" movies but the way they clumsily adapted it to their situation was terrible. Like why did they think it would sound anything but tragic? 😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 04:02 PM
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Won't somebody PLEASE think of the children! 😫😫 Sorry I had to 😂 but yeah Disney, Nickelodeon, all of them lil teeny bopper channels definitely turned me and everyone I know into a pickmeisha. I'm doing my part to reprogram the youth in my life. Gotta say though, its tough because that brainwashing is POWERFUL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 03:22 PM
10

💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 03:18 PM
14

So he just wants you to keep the WHOLE WEEKEND free for him? No mention of even what day he wants to hang out? Hell naw sis. You've got a life and hes got to get hip to being SPECIFIC if he wants a shot with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 02:28 PM
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😂😂😂😂 those fools really thought they were saying something profound when they spouted this nonsense. What they need to do is keep quiet about their open marriage 🤫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 02:25 PM
10

The first love is always the hardest to let go. But what alternative do you really have? Spending your life in an unfulfilling relationship? I say break up now before you get further tied down with this man through mortgages, marriage and kids. Those things will give you even more inertia in your relationship. Think about your relationship and all the ways it adds to your life and all the ways it doesn't. Then make a decision about what's best for YOU. Goodluck sis ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 12:49 PM
75

Ohmygod yes! Its definitely a man who is mad he has to pay women to see them nude 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 12:42 PM
63

I know right!?!!? Its disgusting 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 12:37 PM
24

I dunno maybe say his dick is small, seems to kill the self esteem of all men whether it's true or not 🤷🏿‍♀️ 🤭 I'm kidding, I'm kidding! But honestly it's probably the only thing that would truly hurt him. Guys like this dont care what you say. They only care about their peepees and getting it wet. It would probably hurt his feelings more to not get a response from you. It shows you don't even register his existence. That's how unimportant he is to you. Whereas cussing him out or listing all the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 03:44 AM
40

Oh sis of course you can block on gmail. These scrotes do NOT have to ruin your peace if you don't want them to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 03:27 AM
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Block and delete sis. He isn't worth your time. And if he gets a response from you (however angry it may be) he will assume you still care about him. Negative attention=validation according to scrote logic. And peep his game: "I've text messaged so many people who aren't you for so long"......dafuq is this shit??? Keep this NVM loser far far away, you deserve better than wasting your energy on this clown Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 03:25 AM
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Sis, piercings tattoos and everything else is a matter of personal preference and doesnt make you a pickmeisha. UNLESS you are getting piercings or tattoos SOLEY for the purpose of seeking Male validation. Then it is peak pickmeisha behaviour. If I was you I'd take the piercing out if it is irritating your skin. But I'm the same gal who doesn't wear earrings because they irritate the heck out of me 😂😂 so take my advice with a bucket of salt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 02:37 AM
1

Y'all, I'm so in shock I'm in shick 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 02:31 AM
5

Ohmygod this is so amazing 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 06:15 PM
55

I'm howling!!!🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 06:12 PM
7

Yeah, then it becomes a pride thing when everyone knows. You worry that the people you love will look at you differently if you acept the bullshit. And so it's easier not to fall back into it because somehow it's worse to look like a loser in the eyes of your friends and family than it is to feel like a loser by yourself 🤷🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 04:23 PM
7

Thanks for sticking around and giving your counter arguments. It's good to see a different point of view. Even if you may not agree with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 03:54 PM
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Translation: I figure enough time has passed that you've forgotten how shitty of a boyfriend I was to you. And if you havent forgotten, can you? I'm feeling depressed and I want a therapist/bangmaid to make me feel better. I think you'll be more open to this arrangement than a new woman would because you have already played this role for me and therefore secretly deep down you must always want to play it perpetually. If you dont respond to this message I will assume that it must not have been se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 03:48 PM
41

Hilarious isnt it? 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 03:37 PM
10

👌🏿 chef's kiss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 03:36 PM
14

Hahahahaha yep this works on certain people (like me) REALLY WELL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 03:35 PM
28

I know how you feel because I'm the same. But I think you should mirror their effort. If they are chatty about star wars well then go on, chat to your hearts content. But if they are giving low effort you should too. At least until it is time to block and delete. Trust me once you find someone who isnt LVM and actually wants a relationship, you wont have to censor or hold yourself back as much because they WILL give back as much as you are. And the conversation will go smoothly and you can deter…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 03:31 PM
6

Wow....he actually said it would be too hard to mold a new girlfriend???... Well, in my opinion, he signed the death certificate of that relationship as soon as those words kept from his lips 🤷🏿‍♀️ good job for realizing you were in a dead relationship, realizing your worth, and for getting out! I'm proud of you queen! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 03:23 PM
85

Dorothy is a savage 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 03:16 PM
5

Oooooh this is right up my alley. I love a new way to snoop. Thanks queen! 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 01:23 PM
3

🤭🤭🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 01:20 PM
3

Beautiful ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 01:18 PM
3

Sis, you met him one time. Yeah you can be a little miffed that he bruised your ego by not texting you but that's it. Move on to the next man in the rotation. Thank you, Next! Should be your motto right now 😂❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 01:16 PM
9

Im 33 and I could go 8 years older or 3 years younger. I can't really see myself with anyone older or younger than that 🤷🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 01:13 PM
1

That really helps me too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 01:09 PM
8

Yup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 01:01 PM
17

You want to get married in a year but he wants to get married in 4-5, that is a fundamental difference between the two of you. I think it is irreconcilable to tell you the truth. I also believe he is mate guarding, he doesn't want to marry you but he doesnt want anyone else to have you. I think you should break up with him and find someone more serious about planning a future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 12:59 PM
13

😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 09:10 PM
15

😪 Corey, Corey, Corey.😪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 09:09 PM
13

Wow, good job for leaving him. I know it must have been hard, but you did it! Do you know how awesome that makes you? Well done for ripping the band aid off and knowing that a little pain now will save you from a world of hurt in the long run. Here's a hug sis 🤗 we are here for you ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 09:08 PM
15

Yummy colors 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 08:57 PM
1

Aww you're welcome 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 08:48 PM
10

Ohmygod I was just telling my sister how much I hate when people do that. And she looked at me like I was nuts 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 05:43 PM
2

Yes you need to distance from him because the connection is so intense that it really WILL make you accept shit you never would have tolerated before. That's from the trauma bond sis. Its nothing to be ashamed of, it makes all of us weak. The only thing that will give you clarity is going NO CONTACT. Even then the feelings might not go away completely. My ex was honestly such a bum and did absolutely nothing for me but I'm not delusional enough to think that the trauma bond is completely gone. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 05:40 PM
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He's a liar. And a bad one at that. If you stay with him you wont trust him and you'll feel stupid for believing such a dumb story. And if he sees that you believe a God awful story like this he will keep escalating his stupid behaviour and wont bother making up elaborate lies because you've already shown that you'll swallow bullshit quite easily, and that's what he will continue to feed you. Because the only thing scrotes have in abundance is their muthafuckin audacity. 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 12:59 PM
4

Ohmygod yes! I am confusion!🤷🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 12:52 PM
6

Yes. Keep us updated queen! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 12:44 PM
4

Reading this exhausted me 😂 your friend is in pickme hell. I feel so sorry for her! And I definitely think you should direct her to FDS. But you really have only 2 options to maintain your sanity: 1. Cut off contact completely or 2. Reduce contact with her. I say you should reduce the contact gradually and if even a little contact is too much for you to handle then break up with her and cite your reasons. That way she knows that her pickme ways cost her a friendship. I hope you are able to salva…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 12:43 PM
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Meh, I'm good either way 🤷🏿‍♀️ if I dont find the exact type of man I'm looking for I am perfectly happy being alone. In fact there's a small part of me hoping I dont find a HVM because I realize marriage IS a lot of work and I'm not up to that challenge at the moment 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 12:33 PM
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Aww that poor woman. Her self confidence must have been shattered. I hope her husband learns to actually LOOK at people when hes talking to them from now on. Something tells me he wont and all that will happen is that his wife's expectations will lower even further.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 12:28 PM
2

Sis I feel you. I didnt want to delete my ex either because I didnt want him to think he had any effect or power over me. But HE DID HAVE POWER OVER ME. He would come back every 2-4 weeks after we broke up and test the waters. And I kept taking him back. And the treatment was worse and worse each time I took him back. And because he knew I would keep taking him back, he never felt like he had to be better. It was terrible, I felt like such a fool. That's why you have to block all access. Ignore …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 12:15 PM
3

Not gonna lie, it took covid quarantine to realize how disconnected I had become. But yes now I'm doing MUCH better. I hope you are too sis ❤🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 12:05 PM
3

😂😂😂 thanks sis ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 11:59 AM
4

I second this!😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 11:56 AM
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Aw man, I've been pushing myself to have more audacity in all aspects of my life. With great results so far, I must say! But I've just realized that I will never be able to reach the same level of audacity as these scrotes! 😫 its just impossible....I just....I cannot 😪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 03:35 AM
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I felt the same way. Trust me, as annoying as it sounds to hear: Time heals ALL wounds. Stay away from dating because you need time to recover your spirit. And with each week you will notice that you feel less sad. Your picker is not dodgy, some people are just REALLY good at hiding their true nature (narcs). It happens to the best of us. Now you know the dynamics of a narc relationship (love bombing, devaluing, discarding) it is less likely that you will fall for another narc. Dont feel bad sis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 02:59 AM
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You mention: just living your life to be successful and to please people and eventually losing a connection to who you are. That is EXACTLY what happened to me. You hit the nail on the head sis 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 02:53 AM
3

Oh yes it does 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 02:51 AM
35

Not a damn thing sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 02:31 AM
45

Wow! That was an excellent dissection of Amy's character. The funny thing is, while I was reading it, I saw the dynamic with my last ex. I was playing the role of the "supportive sweet girl-next-door" and he was playing the role of "devoted/reformed bad boy". As soon as he stopped playing that role I didn't want to step back into mine. I didnt even realize the extent to which I was acting a part i didn't fully feel, until the memories came back from reading your post. Thanks for the insight sis.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 02:29 AM
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I love watching movies and relaxing to be honest. To me it would have been slightly suspect but not worth ending the chat. HOWEVER the fact that he is STILL trying to contact you makes it clear he was and is STILL really trying to test your boundaries. I have to say sis, your instincts were spot on! I would urge you to keep trusting them. Because my instincts clearly would have lead you astray with this scrote!😂😂😂 Thanks for teaching me something new today!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 02:12 AM
10

DR. RAMANI!!!!! I LOVE THIS WOMAN SO MUCH 😍😍😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 02:05 AM
7

Sing it sister
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 02:02 AM
75

STORY TIME ☕: I was like the man in this scenario. But I don't post on social media at all 🙅🏿‍♀️ However with one of my exes I refused to introduce him to anyone until he fixed up 💯%% I.e: got and KEPT a damm job for more than 2 months✔was consistent with me✔ and developed a life plan✔ I know! I know! I was such a build-a-man workshop🤦🏿‍♀️ the only saving grace was that I was an IMPATIENT pickme 😉 He wasn't moving along fast enough so I had to let him go 🤷🏿‍♀️ Although now that I think about it,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 02:01 AM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣 I scrolled down looking for someone to mention something about nests, imagine my delight to see it in THE FIRST COMMENT! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 01:46 AM
3

SMH 🤣🤣 NOT ONE WORD OF A LIE THOUGH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 12:03 AM
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Yup! 💯💯💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 12:01 AM
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I'm learning how to sew and honestly it's time consuming and difficult enough that it's kept me distracted through COVID. I follow YouTube tutorials and its kept me same. I would advise the FDS discord as well, and if you ever need to talk you can always DM me. Good luck sis!❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 11:58 PM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣 I always liked this song. I think Greg was a better fit for Rebecca than Josh.......at least that was before Rebecca did the unthinkable 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 11:52 PM
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Why should you let go of a goal you want so badly? Just dont let the desire for a family and kids turn into a desperation that allows you to settle for an LVM. Remember that when you date a man he is auditioning for the role of father to your unborn children not just your husband. Don't forget to read the FDS handbook and vet, vey, vet! Good luck and God speed! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 11:38 PM
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How about when your love language is ALL OF THEM? Smh just another way to get woment to lower their standards and settle for less than they deserve. Miss me with that nonsense 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 06:03 PM
1

YES!! I second this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 06:01 PM
19

Good job weeding him out sis! 👌🏿excellent technique 👏🏿👏🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 05:52 PM
14

I never thought of that! Although I dont know why I didn't, I used to lie and say I was moving all the time before I discovered block and delete, and #niceforwhat 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 05:51 PM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣 "I actually wish them bad luck" 👌🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 05:48 PM
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Facts! It baffles me that men can walk around in a sexless relationship WITHOUT MENTIONING IT. Ick, it's just so passive and SUCH a turn off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 04:53 PM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 IM DYING AT THIS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 04:44 PM
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Let me get this straight: you are losing it over a man you've known since MAY?...... MAY 2020? Oh sis, it sounds like you've been love bombed by a narc. That's a whole other trauma. I would advise you to watch Dr. Ramani on YouTube. She will explain the nightmare you are going through. Dont worry you'll be ok once you get an understanding of what he did to you to get you addicted to him and why you feel so attached. Then it'll be easier to just go through the detox period. It will be hard not to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 02:46 PM
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Real talk. I'd rather be alone till the day I die than be with an NVM again. My own company is infinitely preferable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 05:33 AM
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First boyfriend: well done! Bullet dodged! Congratulations he was a looooooser. Nuff said Second boyfriend (current boyfriend?): gonna be honest, if you dislike BDSM and how it makes you feel (which is COMPLETELY NORMAL) I dont think you will last long with this man. He seems HVM to you but a man who is truly HV wants to make love to you and pleasure you not hurt or degrade you. And deep down you know this or else the sex wouldnt bother you. Get out of this now before you fall farther in love wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 05:13 AM
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A++ suggestions! I do ALL of those things and 99% of the time I have to say I don't miss a damn thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 07:23 PM
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This song is a bop no doubt! 👌🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 04:51 PM
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"Hobbled"....🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 04:50 PM
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I'm 33 and so happy right now it's insane. Not sure if I ever want to get married tbh. I've got a great job, awesome friends and family. I go on vacations regularly. I've got so much time to do whatever I want, right now I'm learning how to sew garments and it is so fun! I dont care about having kids biologically and am completely fine adopting if I don't find an HVM by the time I'm 40. I only feel this way because I am self actualized enough to realize that I AM ENOUGH. I don't need a man or ki…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 02:22 PM
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Aww bless you. I think its a fair question. But for me it's a deal breaker. I don't think it's my duty to fix a man who is fundamentally flawed in this way. I mean let's be honest, if I was a man and I was having trouble getting erections or staying hard, I would Google the problem, and I would rectify it before I embarrassed myself in front of a woman. The fact that these men are not taking responsibility for their ailment and are just comfortable bringing their limp dick energy to the table???…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 02:09 PM
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YES! SIS! YES! 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿Yes to all of that! Especially the part about not reacting to the porn use, I wouldnt want to make him sneakier about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 01:59 PM
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🤣🤣 ooh I feel you sis. You just wanted to vent huh? Ok I get it 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 01:53 PM
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Yeah sis. A lot of these people are hella lazy in truth and only act like they give a damn so that they look smart. In actuality they dont know what the hell they are saying but most idiots around them assume that because they are the loudest voice in the room that they must be clever 😒 trust me they shut down pretty quickly when everyone is receiving the same mark because there is no incentive to push their way to the top 🙄 good luck on your next project sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 01:51 PM
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Ohmygod they ALWAYS ARE! 😫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 01:42 PM
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Everyone keeps theorizing that he might have had a stroke and it is entirely possible. I once met a man who'd had a stroke and for a full week was having double vision. But he didn't want to visit a doctor while abroad because he thought it would "ruin his holiday" Wtf?? Scrote logic at its finest 🤦🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 01:40 PM
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🤣🤣🤣 me too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 01:33 PM
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Ohmygod. I cant breathe 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 01:26 PM
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Wow, good job! I'm so proud of you for resisting the urge to chase and try to get the relationship back to how it was in the beginning. I pray I'm as strong as you when I encounter LVM masquerading as HVM. Right now most of them are so obviously NVM/LVM that it is easy to avoid the bullshit 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 01:25 PM
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Complimenting people's decisions reinforces their self-esteem. THIS!!! I like getting compliments on my skin and height but that's largely genetic. When someone compliments an item I purchased or how i decorated a room it really hits different, because then I feel like I actually have good taste (which I was told I was severely lacking in while growing up 🤣🤣)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 07:07 AM
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The audacity has been speculated to originate in the balls. 🤣🤣🤣🤣 sis I'm dyingggg, this comment is killing me. My family will avenge my death!🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 06:57 AM
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Sis! You said it! Who would want to pleasure A STRANGE MAN and then get ABSOLUTELY NOTHING in return?? I'm baffled by this tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 06:53 AM
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🤣🤣🤣 His girlfriend is probably Asian and he wants to try a different flavor of the rainbow with his side-piece. Smh what a loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 06:50 AM
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5 YEARS WITHOUT A RING? This man sounds like he is mate guarding. He doesn't want to commit to your friend but doesnt want anyone else to have her. Men will stay with a woman FOR DECADES to avoid loneliness while they wait for their "ideal" woman. which is what I think is happening here. I think your friend deserves someone who thinks she already is his "ideal" woman and proves it by happily and wholeheartedly committing to her. Ask her why she is ok with half hearted love. Does she not feel she…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 06:48 AM
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She needs to believe that she is empowered and choosing this life to cope with the reality of what she is doing. I hope she is ok when the truth of the situation hits her in the future. I hope she is strong enough to face it and move past it. I hope she can forgive herself for the fact that her words and endorsement of this profession may sway a young woman into trying it out. I hope that young woman is as lucky as OP and isnt raped or abused while at it. But the harsh reality is that she probab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 06:39 AM
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So that's a great question. The truth is if a man is behaving as an HVM, is satisfying me sexually, and is not pushing my sexual boundaries. Then I would have no reason to suspect porn use (even if it is present). But I'm not an insane person, if there is no smoke there is no fire. I wouldnt dump a guy because I couldn't DISPROVE porn use. HOWEVER if a man cannot get it up, or is pushing me to perform BDSM or other sex "play" (hahahahaha), then that would cause me to be hella suspicious and I th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 06:27 AM
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I would see if they first brought it up themselves. If not I'd ask in a deliberately non-committal and flippant manner like I dont care what the answer is. Because a lot of men will tell you what they THINK you want to hear. If I ask him about it sounding "judgy" he is more likely to lie and say he doesnt watch it. Whereas if I appear more like the "cool chick" he is more likely to let his guard down and tell the truth. Regardless of what he tells me I'm going to watch for signs of porn use: lim…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 05:57 AM
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I straight up hate OLD, but I understand it's hard meeting people while COVID is going on and all. I would advise you to avoid tinder as it is full of straight garbage and is a waste of time. Maybe try Match.com or eharmony as well as hinge? I hear that websites tend to have slightly better quality of men, but I'm not sure tbh. I think your best bet is to avoid OLD entirely and try to find someone organically through friends, family, or shared interests/hobbies. For instance I let it be known am…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 05:49 AM
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Yep, when a woman is assertive she's labelled a bitch. It sucks but that's the world we live in. I say take it as a compliment sis. As an aside I'm surprised your group didnt all just agree to give each other perfect evaluations right from the beginning! 😂😂😂 That's what my groups always did. And then I just ended up doing most of the work anyway 😂😂 maybe you could try that next time? Just a suggestion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 05:37 AM
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He's not taking the hint despite a year of radio silence on your part, so blck the loser and you wont have to be annoyed by him. Simple! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 05:31 AM
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I'm screamingggggg🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 04:20 AM
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Right!?!?! I dont know how this picture was approved. It's so blatant 😂😂 this is how oblivious these scrotes are to their own shortcomings. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 01:48 AM
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Ohmygod I love that the "nest" and "scallions" memes will not die on this sub 😂😂😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 01:46 AM
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You're not the only one sis 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 01:42 AM
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😂😂😂😂 YES! sadly, I am only slightly 👌🏿 exaggerating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 01:41 AM
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I'm sorry all I can think of when I see this picture is the song "Period Sex" from the show "Crazy Ex-Girlfriend" 😂😂 if y'all have never seen this hilarious show here's the link: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Uab2BlDpPxQ
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 01:39 AM
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🤣🤣🤣 there is ALWAYS dozens of men out there dying to shower us with the attention that some scrote is breadcrumbing us with. Ladies know 👏🏿 your 👏🏿 worth 👏🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 01:17 AM
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His toothless grin.........because all the scrotes who approach me are all missing teeth 😫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 10:54 PM
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Ohh, well that is even worse! There's no excuse for a ten year sexless relationships except a porn sick limp dick. Stay away sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 06:27 PM
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"Crazy" women often have borderline personality disorder. So when they love someone they love bomb like crazy. It's easy for anyone to get hung up on someone who love bombs them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 06:22 PM
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Smh fools
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 06:21 PM
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Yup. Life is one big delicious cake and a fulfilling relationship is the icing on the cake. But if you are with an LVM the icing is that artificial kind that tastes kinda good just with a weird aftertaste 😕 If you are with an NVM the icing is just poop 🤷🏿‍♀️ and I'm sorry to say it will ruin the beautiful cake that is your life. But a HVM is like delicious buttercream, and makes the cake even better 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 06:10 PM
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Woah, do you think the penis injections are why he didnt have sec with his sex for 10 years? Never mind, doesnt matter. Dump him!!!!!!! This man is so damaged and it is not your responsibility to fix him or feel guilty about not wanting him. You deserve someone who goes after you if they've liked you for 20 years and doesn't just stay in a sexless relationship. Edit: spelling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:57 PM
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I understand that it will be difficult to mention your single status if all you guys do is EXCLUSIVELY talk about your mutual hobby. But here are some suggestions: 1. You can say you are being set up on a blind date and ask him for advice if hes ever been on one 2. You can tell him you're trying a dating app and ask his advice or if he has any recommendations 3. If he compliments you on a good strategy you can say "thanks it's because I've had more time to learn since I broke up with so and so" …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:52 PM
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BEAUTIFULLY PUT SIS!👌🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:45 PM
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Yep you'll see them in group texts and they'll see you but they can't text you individually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:43 PM
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"Stay at home dad"= broke NVM who wants to do the bare minimum of child care and sext/sleep with strange women all on his wife's dime. Uh no thanks, I'm good love enjoy*! *a delightful future coined phrase. You gotta hand it to him, NVM to the core but he's got some nice one liners 🤷🏿‍♀️ Anyone who dates that disgusting flesh suit resembling a man is deep in a pickmeisha coma though 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:42 PM
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Wow. He sounds like he could turn into a stalker AND he knows where you live 😬 tread carefully sis. Keep a record of all your exchanges. Send a message clearly stating you dont want to talk to him anymore even as friends because he is not respecting your boundaries. And then go no contact. Dont reply to any of his messages, but keep them in case you need a protective order. Good luck sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:33 PM
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The post is deleted, I hope that means he was overcome by shame. But I think the truth is that he found a pickmeisha to pretend to be his girlfriend and had no need of it anymore 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:27 PM
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Sex work exploits women and leaves men open to greater and greater depravity. By legalizing prostitution, you normalize men using women and their bodies as though they are objects. Worse, it removes the "forbidden" aspect of prostitution, which quite frankly is what a lot of men get off on. Thereby desensitizing them so they require more and more depravity to stimulate them eg. BDSM, torture, incest, pedophilia, or bestiality. Remember, give a scrote an inch and he will take a mile. Not only tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:23 PM
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It sounds like he was making you feel sad, insecure, and unimportant. And those are completely valid reasons to break things off with someone. I'm sorry to say that when a man stops communicating regularly it is 99.9% because his attentions are on another woman. And even if that's not the case with this dude, you dont want to be with someone who makes you feel like you are not a priority. I definitely think you've done the right thing. Stay strong and don't second guess yourself queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:04 PM
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Ewww......😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 04:48 PM
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You did the right thing queen! Everyone else mentioned all the reasons why and they are 100% correct. I'm gonna harp on the fact that he "massaged your shoulders without asking" sis what is that? A man should ask before he randomly touches you on the 1st or 2nd date. I love massages and physical touch btw, but I dunno that just rubbed me the wrong way.....heehee ge it?🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 02:01 PM
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BLOCKACHU 🤣🤣🤣 well done sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 01:52 PM
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I'm glad you found us sis! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 01:50 PM
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Let us list all the mistakes in this post shall we? 1. She was under no obligation to respond to RANDOM ASS MEN ON THE INTERNET. All that was required is she deactivate her profile. She needs to understand that there will ALWAYS be men on those sites and that they swipe on EVERYONE. 2. She understands she has poor boundaries and wants to work on that but in the meantime is allowing a stranger to love bomb her into dating??? 3. This man sounds like a textbook narc, she is in some serious trouble.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 01:49 PM
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Girl you said it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 02:26 AM
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I'm so glad you've found us sis. We are so happy to have you! ❤🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 02:25 AM
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Sis you are so cool 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 01:25 AM
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She said "godless orphan" I'm screaminggggg 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 01:02 AM
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No effort in any part of their lives, no changes, nothing is ever their fault, their lives failing in so many ways but they somehow still think they are awesome and better than others... My NVM ex in a nutshell. Except he simultaneously thought that he we was a loser while also thinking he was the most most awesome dude in the world.......smh miss me with that "Schrodinger's Scrote" logic 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 12:48 AM
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Yeah sis I understand. Support for the mentally ill is severely lacking in a lot of the world. I'm so sorry your poor sister and your family have to deal with this. I pray she's ok ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 08:06 PM
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Hahahahaha exactly! I'll glamorize my sisters forever because they are always there for me and have shown it countless times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 02:54 PM
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Ohmygod this is too funny!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 02:52 PM
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I'm proud of you sis. Go after his nasty ass! I'm glad you feel strong enough to face this. 🤗❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 02:44 PM
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Why did they throw in hairdressers as well? That seemed like it was a pointed dig at one of their exes 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 02:41 PM
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That was so gross. This guy looks like a fat old accountant and wants to talk like this. Smh, I hate it here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 02:39 PM
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I read your post about him and can I just say: EWW 😖 he is so gross. I'm gonna say that you should do whatever is easier for you. If the complaint process is time consuming, traumatic, or stressful then dont feel badly about not going through it. This man should not have to take more of your time and energy than he already did. But if you feel that you have enough righteous anger and energy to fuel you in this process, then by all means: nail his dusty ass sis. As long as you are doing what YOU …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 02:26 PM
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Oooh the ladies are preaching TODAY and I hope you are listening sis. You dont have to trust ANYONE (man or woman) automatically. Trust is earned. Trust in the wrong person can hurt you. I think you are smart to be wary. Take a break from dating, see a therapist and heal your soul from all this trauma. Because malignant NVM can smell a soul wound a mile away and your trauma will always attract bottom barrel dudes who want to exploit your vulnerabilities. I want to say it again: you are smart for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 02:14 PM
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if you STAY ready, you dont have to GET ready sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 02:08 PM
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I third this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 02:07 PM
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THIS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 02:06 PM
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Yeah it's a huge pet peeve for me. I dont mind it at work or in social gatherings because quite frankly I dont care to know about most peoples lives 🤭 But if I am getting to know a man and he doesnt bother to ask me questions then it is an AUTOMATIC block and delete. To me it means a man doesnt care. Now maybe that isn't true, but if it's how I feel than that's all that matters. And I'd like to get the sense that a man cares enough to be curious about me AT THE VERY LEAST 🤷🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 02:04 PM
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Respond to the ones you like best first. And trust me most of them will weed themselves out either through a) being hella boring, b) being way too forward, c) not responding in an appropriate timeframe (or at all). So talk to maybe 3-4 that you like and TRUST ME that number will likely be down to 1 or 2 within a week. And then you can either add 1-2 other guys to the rotation or you can wait another week or so to do it. It's simple! (But time-consiming). And it only works if you treat it like wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 01:56 PM
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Vanessa drove me NUTS. She was supposed to be like the normal, down-to-earth perspective and it turns out she's as crazy as everyone else on that dumb show* 🙄 *dumb show that I enjoy watching with my sisters from time to time 🙈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 01:45 PM
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😂😂😂😂😂😂 here's to hoping!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 04:46 AM
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Oh sis that is high praise indeed! 🥰 y'all women on this sub make me howl with laughter EVERY SINGLE DAY 🤣🤣 I'm so glad I can add to the hilarity 😋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 04:41 AM
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Wow wow wow! This man is definitely texting multiple women all with this same line. Trying to find one who will accept him. I would guess that being diagnosed with the herp has ignited some sort of mad scramble to find a mate. I theorize that the main driving factor is so he can continue to raw dog it without risking jail time 🤣. This man is LOW VALUE. And it's sad that his STD is not even the worse thing about him..............that's hella low value sis 😬 Run away because he isnt wooing you lik…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 01:40 AM
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Started out so strong but by the end of it I honestly wanted to gag. I keep thinking of the poor woman he is stringing along "to not be lonely" and I'm so sad for her. I wish there was a way I could warn her. I can only hope that he is unable to hide his disgusting nature for much longer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 01:30 AM
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Ohmygod I'm screamingggggggg😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 01:27 AM
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Ladies say it with me now: 📢 DICK IS ABUNDANT AND LOW VALUE!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 01:23 AM
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Preach sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 01:11 AM
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Hahahaha I always say that I've met a few chivalrous men but that I didnt feel a "spark". Heehee 🤭 that way they KNOW my ass has OPTIONS. They don't need to know that the ratio of good:shitty men is about 1:200 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 01:10 AM
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These trash men are THE WORST. Especially if they start of love bombing you. The mixed signals will have you ALL THE WAY fucked up. I'm glad you're done with this guy. What do we always say? If it's not a HELL YES then it's a FUCK NO! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 01:06 AM
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🤭👌🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 01:01 AM
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"Woke" folk 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 01:00 AM
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I don’t waste my money on Reddit so here y go... 🏆🎖🏅🥇 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I'm DEAD! sis this made me cackle, So you definitely returned the favor. Here take em all: 🎖🏆🏅🥇
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 12:48 AM
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Hahahahahahaha same sis. Same. I've had NO experience because I have yet to get over the hang up 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 11:50 PM
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WOW. What a disgusting loser. Glad you blocked him. Just goes to show how low NVM will stoop in order to take advantage of a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 11:45 PM
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Woah, can it be? Have I stumbled across the fabled Rosetta stone of scrote language? 😯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 11:26 PM
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Sis!!! Me too!! I swear to God I also look younger when I'm not dealing with men. It's crazy! My skin is currently glowing. If this keeps up I might just do away with even the IDEA of dating 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 11:24 PM
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Nomal interest will feel slow and boring compared to love bombing. Girl you ain't neva lied!😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 09:34 PM
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Yes!! queen energy sis. We are proud of you. Keep up the great work ❤🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 09:32 PM
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Ohhh I've heard of her. She is goals 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 09:25 PM
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Me too sis!!!! That would be a new kind of trash reality TV
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 06:42 PM
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Yup. They really think a baby will force us to stay....hahahahahahahaha not the women in MY FAMILY. Lol we are FAMOUS for divorce 😂😂😂😂. Even my grandma made her LVM loser of a husband hit the bricks, and just married another. He was also LVM unfortunately but she LEFT HIS ASS TOO! 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 06:38 PM
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I read the last exchange with him. Lmao this dude sounds so low effort. I'm glad you blocked his ass. Because best believe he WILL hit you up when all his other prospects dry up. And when his shitty scrote memory erases everything except the good moments.......which should be around a month or so 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 06:33 PM
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What a lazy bum
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 06:28 PM
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Hahahahaha I love it!!! It's like the Pythagorean formula but we should call it WIMM94's theorem instead 😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 06:28 PM
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Sis your place is gorgeous! I'm glad you are in a better situation and happy our support made a difference in your life ❤🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 06:23 PM
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Oh wow, that is so cool 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 06:11 PM
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I used to have 1 good day a week with my NVM ex. I thought about it and realized I could go back to having 7/7 good days by my damn self 😂. That realization was the beginning of the end for us, and we didnt last another month 🤷🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 05:35 PM
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This picture made me breathless with laughter 😂😂😂 my God it is soooooo spot on!!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 05:16 PM
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Girl this is the dream. And with the way my sisters and a few of my close friends have given up on men, this scenario may end up being a reality 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 05:13 PM
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Oh wow. Well more power to you sis. I hope you find your HVM ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 12:05 AM
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Ohmygod me too 🤣🤣🤣 not gonna lie I love punctuating my statements with those fabulous things 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 07:15 PM
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Hahahahahaha. I love it! 👌🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 05:20 PM
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Girl right 😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 02:08 PM
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I mean if I can't find a HVM I'm planning on adopting. So I wont be losing out on the love of raising a child. Once I realized that my stress about finding a HVM virtually disappeared. Is adoption something you are interested in?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 01:56 PM
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SAME sis. There is a comfort and strange freedom in accepting this. 😂❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 01:53 PM
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Sis you CANNOT base your happiness around whether or not you are in a relationship. Let's pretend that TODAY you found the love of your life and it was fantastic. What if God forbid your HVM is diagnosed with cancer after a blissful year together? Or gets in a car crash? Will you go back to suicidal ideation? You have to be happy as you are NOW. A HVM is the icing on the cake of life not the whole damn cake. I know FDS can seem like a lot of game playing but it is truly not. We advocate that you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 01:52 PM
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Ohmygod!!!!😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 01:35 PM
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😂😂😂 I'm the SAME way. A sucker for an apology and when these LVM cant even do THAT. It is very telling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 01:16 PM
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Flea on a tick on a rat.........😂👌🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 04:53 AM
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FACTSSSSSS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 04:50 AM
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Those are excellent points tbh. For one thing love-bombing is suuuuuuper obvious. I don't know if you've ever experienced it. But to me it always seemed WAY too soon and WAY too good and to be true. So I was constantly suspicious even while I was enjoying the heck out of it 😂 Secondly do your research: ie google searches, deep dive social media, and get background checks done to see if there are any convictions or arrests. Thirdly most trash LVM cannot keep their mask on consistantly and it WILL…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 04:40 AM
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😂😂😂 I'm weakkkk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 11:06 PM
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I AM DEAD 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 07:27 PM
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😂😂😂😂😂 this sounds like a joke. I cant believe there are men out here who think we can control our period. No way......................... Right?😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:46 PM
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😂😂😂I love it when guys are upfront like this. I know exactly who to avoid 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:43 PM
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Now why is it, that the men who "don't play games" are always the same dudes with the highest scores in the games of: fuckery, foolishness, and frustration? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:31 PM
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Later if he does ask you for a date, you can still say "ooh, I'd love to, but since we didn't confirm anything, I already made plans I tried that a few times and it definitely forces them to be more assertive and make concrete plans. It makes me like them less when I have to resort to this shit though. 😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:29 PM
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If you have to induce fake anxieties in ppl & go to such extreme lengths- you’re clearly aware you don’t have it like that. FACTSSSS!!!!!!! AND CLEARLY YOU ARE A TERRIBLE PERSON WHO DOESNT DESERVE LOVE!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:25 PM
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Sis! The peace is priceless!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:22 PM
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😂😂😂 asshat indeed sis. You are smart. Don't let him make you feel dumb. He played you and that's on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 04:20 PM
2

EXACTLY!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 04:16 PM
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This is hella childish. Here she is angry at him and he wants to send her a tweet and deny her experience in the relationship instead of acknowledging her concerns and trying to find a solution. Smh 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:44 PM
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Hey sis! We are happy to have you here with us! And so proud that you are standing confidently in your truth ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:41 PM
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Yup. Both are trash as far as I'm concerned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:36 PM
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Hahahahaha his audacity is amazing. My NVM used to at least come back with some bullshit excuse for going so long without contact. But this guy? Just a simple "hey" gets thrown out and he's sitting back expecting to slide right in there again 😂 It's truly breath-taking! I'm gonna aspire to this level of audacity when dealing with scrotes. But yeah sis. Block and Delete. You know what to do. Do NOT engage. It stings so much more that way. Any attempt to explain is giving him attention. And LVM TH…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:32 PM
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Don't do it. They don't care, you look crazy, and you never get closure (which is a myth btw). I agree with the other posts. Write a letter to him and don't send it. You'll feel better after you get it all down. As a bonus if you save it to read later it'll remind you how shitty he was to you in case you ever get nostalgic about his dusty ass in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:25 PM
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Right!?!?!? These scrotes are getting worse. Must be the pornsickness starting at a younger and younger age. Edit: Are* getting worse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:22 PM
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Listen to this OP. Also I dont like how he said he was dating someone else AFTER you slept with him. If he was upfront about it before you slept with him than I can maaaaaybe justify keeping his number in case he decides to get serious later on. Good job for deleting sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:20 PM
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EWWWW. That bio would turn me off even the most handsome man. How the hell did this troll think he could get away with it? 😖😖😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 02:43 PM
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Don’t get attached or worry about what they think, they’re your dancing monkey not the other way around. EXACTLY!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 02:40 PM
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Girl right!?!?! A dad bod should be a crime
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 02:34 PM
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Don't deal with any man who doesnt come correct and make his intentions to date you plainly clear. Have this philosophy and you wont have to wonder why scrotes do dumb shit like this because you won't notice it so you won't care. Simple! Sis trying to interpret scrote logic will hurt your head. And everything they do is in service of sex, or validation for insecurities caused by sex, or lack thereof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 02:31 PM
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Girl I feel you. I dont have a problem with the first message. It is a bit "try hard" but I won't fault him for that. My issues are: 1. Why ask for a date THAT SAME NIGHT? it is disrespectful and implies that she doesnt have anything else to do except entertain his dusty ass. 2. Why the one word answer "cool" when she wasnt immediately free THAT SAME NIGHT why didn't he say something like: "cool, no problem, is there any day that works better for you? I'm free Friday and Saturday" Why not say so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 02:16 PM
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SAME!!❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 02:07 PM
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No way in hell I'll EVER have a one night stand. So I can have a soul connection with some strange scrote?? I dont know where he's been or how his energy might taint my spirit. Uhhhh yeah no thanks.😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 02:03 PM
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Ohmygod 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 01:57 PM
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I always want to respond to these red pillers and have an honest dialogue. But then I remember that they cant be honest because they are delusional and they cant have a dialogue because all they want is to scream their bullshit statistics at me. So I've saved myself endless hassle by not even acknowledging their existence. 🤷🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 01:55 PM
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TRUTH!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 01:52 PM
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Heehee 🤭🤭 thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 01:49 PM
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Good riddance sis! I notice that whenever we explain anything to them they play dumb, or defensive. If it's not gonna work out with them just block. I'm only interested in explaining things to my husband (or fiancee). All these other dudes will just get the block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 01:45 PM
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So he mentions having sex two days in but I am not worthy of a perfect date ? Yup. This is how good society is at brainwashing us. He literally shows you how trash he is and yet you are still wondering if YOU are being unreasonable! Smh. The good news is that you are rejecting our patriarchical pickmeisha programming. Yay!!!! You know what to do now sis. Block, delete, and keep it pushing.❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 01:40 PM
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Make a list of all the ways he wasn't there for you EMOTIONALLY. How he let you down during your relationship. A list of red flags is great when you are thinking logically. But right now you are missing him so you need to fight fire with fire. Emotion with emotion. Trust me it'll work. But right after you make the list you need to have an activity ready to take your mind off of it. Like hanging with your friends or family. SOMETHING to distract you. Trust me the feeling will disappear after a da…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 01:21 PM
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Me too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 01:16 PM
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Deaddd😂😂😂😂👌🏿 I'm getting incel shoot em up vibes from this though 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 01:12 PM
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He lost a couple of pounds and really thinks the world owes him a buffet of women huh? 😂😂😂 meanwhile a woman loses weight and just wants to be SEEN. "Poor man's Aaron Carter" really sent me sis. I'm crying with laughter over here.😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 01:10 PM
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"Took one for the team" I'm deaddddd😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 01:07 PM
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This man pulled a switcheroo and hoodwinked you. Playing mama to him is NOT what you signed up for. You will be SO relieved when he's no longer weighing you down sis, I promise. Girl, you got this! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 12:46 PM
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Awww that's lovely ☺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 12:40 PM
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Oh sis. This is fantastic. Definitely a must read for all FDS members. Particularly ones going through a breakup. I had to do this and am still working through my feelings of shame of having dealt with an NVM tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:36 AM
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I've only had 2 Male friends in my life. One was gay and the other was a practicing catholic who had excellent boundaries with women. I knew the first guy would never pursue me because I'm not a man, and 'm not a catholic so I knew the second guy wouldnt either. But because men ain't shit I still never really did anything alone with the straight guy if I could help it 🤷🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:32 AM
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I'm screamingggggggggg😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:22 AM
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Ok I concede that it's probably a woman. But I wouldn't be surprised some lurking scrote is out there creating a post history for a fake woman in order to spread his bullshit. Scrotes have all the time and energy for subterfuge and absolutely none for leveling up 😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 01:02 AM
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Thanks sis ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 09:44 PM
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She went from ratchet to soul to gospel at the drop of the hat. Her vocals are just 👌🏿 and when she sang that song at the end "best thing?" Girl I looked it up IMMEDIATELY. It's THE BEST breakup song (tied with beyonce's "best thing I never had"). On top of it all she seems like a wonderful mother, a jingle writer, AND is hilarious?? This woman is truly the complete package! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 01:25 PM
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Sing it sister
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 01:20 PM
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Yup. Its normal because they socialized us to be pickmes who accept low or no effort. That way men dont have to step up financially, emotionally, or spiritually to receive the blessings of a good woman. It's the greatest con in all of history.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 01:15 PM
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Sigh so many problems with this post, let us count the ways: 1. Men dont get "attacked more" they "fight more". Random ass men arent getting attacked. They are engaging in reckless ass behaviour that they CAN USUALLY walk away from. Smh Women are the ones getting "attacked". 2. Women should try taking dangerous jobs in male dominated fields-you mean like joining the army? Where women are routinely sexually harassed, raped, and sometimes murdered? And if by some miracle they manage to avoid that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 01:04 PM
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Loser 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 12:47 PM
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Hahahahahahahahaha I'm dying "he thought he was being sneaky" meanwhile these scrotes have ZERO subtlety 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 05:08 AM
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Awww sweetie. I'm so sorry. Just know that you are doing the best you can and that God forbid your mother passes away. You will have no regrets about how you treated her. Your family will probably regret taking her for granted. Do you know what a weight that is on a person's soul? I think if it is hard for you, you should talk to your siblings and let them know you need help. If they still dont step up well then, that's on them 🤷🏿‍♀️. Ps: keep your head up. You seem like a wonderful daughter. I'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 12:32 AM
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Ohmygod DEAD!😂😂👌🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 12:22 AM
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Hahahahahahahaha I've been doing that since I was a teenager 😂😂😂. They don't have to know that I knew damn near everything thanks to a little something called THE INTERNET.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 12:22 AM
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😂😂😂😂😂 right!?!?! I'm jealous though. I'm too jaded to get excited about any guy anymore to be honest. Even after meeting them. Best case scenario and it's still more like a lukewarm interest and the feeling that he's proooobabaly not a pedo?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 11:26 PM
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I think you are in a healthy space. You are ready to walk if he is inconsistent. Good job sis. One piece of advice: he seems like he likes the chase more than anything. If I were you I'd go back to your previous behavior (eg. Lovey dovey with a shared future) if he is truly changed he shouldn't grow distant again. I know it's a little immature "test" men this way. But I can't trust someone who does a complete 180 this quickly. I tested my last ex and noticed that when I was distant he was hella …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 11:20 PM
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😖 I'm sorry your auntie is in such a shitty situation. But thanks for posting, I will file this cautionary tale away in brain. And will remember it anytime I'm tempted to lower my moral standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 11:11 PM
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😂😂😂😂 wow. He really had a whole relationship in his mind huh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 11:02 PM
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😂😂😂 I noticed the "I neglected you" too. These scrotes are drowning in audacity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 11:01 PM
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Sis! Me too!😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 10:58 PM
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Awww yes sis it's all about respecting each other. 💯% bless your heart you seem fun 😂 I hope you find your chatty significant other ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 10:25 PM
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You are SO welcome sis! And you are already miles ahead of a low value person by seeking advice acknowledging the problem and committing to fix it. We are all believe in you and are proud of you queen❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 10:04 PM
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’ll more intuitively know what’s right and wrong, rather than second guessing myself all the time. 💯% sis! I honestly couldn't have said it better. Dont worry you arent crazy. We all feel this way at some point(s). And self esteem fluctuates, some days you are full of it and other days you are running low. You just have to nurture yourself so that your reserves of it increase. Thanks again for this reminder, you sounds like a gem 💜 Aww thanks queen! You seem lovely as well ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 09:47 PM
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Girl I love her too! 😍 Have you seen the YouTube video she did with Terrell? It is my favourite one by far! Girl can SANG and shes such a hustler. She is a total queen.❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 01:55 PM
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THIS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 01:51 PM
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Naw you'll just look hella crazy and jealous. The only time I would encourage you to warn her is if he is abusive in any way be it verbal or physical. If he's not abusive, then leave it alone. I'm sorry to say this young woman (WOMAN not a minor) Is NOT your business. I don't want to sound harsh but unless she reaches out to you I say stay away. Is there a way you can discourage your mutual friend from giving you updates about your ex? He sounds like a sleezeball and you should be detoxing him f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 04:18 AM
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Awww I'm hugging you back sis! just need to learn that I can have feelings without acting on them💗 I'm always re-learning this 😂 so you aren't alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 04:05 AM
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😂😂😂😂 Right!?!?! I would have posted it but it's not really a song everyone can sing in all its glorious entirety 🤷🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 04:02 AM
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Oooooooh sis you in danger girl. This is BAD BAD. Let's list all the ways: 1. He has a sister that he is close with whom you don't like and who doesnt respect boundaries. 2. He's been to rehab but still thinks it's ok to dabble with drug use. Dafuq? This is a crazy person's logic (which if you think about it, is druggie logic 🤔) 3. He does drugs despite the fact that he gets tested at work. It is entirely possible that his drug use may escalate to harder drugs and cost him his license. 4. He see…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 03:41 AM
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👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 yes! We love to see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 03:25 AM
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And I feel like the shadows every single one of these men have cast in my life has finally, finally, been driven out by the sun. I'm tearing up sis, that was so beautiful 🤧. I'm proud of you for realizing your worth, getting your own place and leveling WAY up by blocking and deleting all those LVM. The sky is really the limit for you ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 03:23 AM
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Hahahahahaha I'm deadddd sis. All I can think of is that song "NAS" by Inayah Lamis. Real talk. That is my anthem 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 03:17 AM
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I agree. My uncle had zero education but worked his ass up to management at the company he works for. He started at entry level and minimum wage but steadily moved up the ranks. Now has a nice pension, health benefits, and a great salary. Even though I'm highly educated all I'm really looking for is a man that works his ass off and is trying to better his lot in life for himself and his family. And Whitley is right. That man is NEVER poor. He may have started out poor, but he never stays there 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 03:03 AM
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Smdh. The man is having doubts about their future? Sounds like a get out of jail free card to me 🤷🏿‍♀️ Sis should take the excuse and run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 02:57 AM
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😂 when I tell you I FELT her rage. It was a MOOD FOR LIFE! And kid fury in the background laughing was the icing on top of this delicious rant 👌🏿 Thanks for posting sis. ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 02:55 AM
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Oooh this is a tricky question. I've been thinking about it on and off throughout the day and can only come to the conclusion that you should give her an abridged version of the FDS handbook. Another comment suggested that you introduce her to Dr. Ramani's videos and I think that is a great suggestion as well! I must agree though you seem like a lovely person. I'm glad you and your cousin have each other. She must be pretty wonderful if youd drive 8 hours to set her boyfriend straight. ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 02:41 AM
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I love coffee dates but this is a great tip! I'm off OLD because there was WAAAAAAY too much fools gold but I'll consider this for when I'm set up by friends or family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 02:06 AM
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Don't be so hard on yourself. It's not extra weight or stretch marks that make someone low value. Please dont be obsessed with the scale. It means very little. A friend of mine weighs 3 pounds less than me but looks like she weighs 20 pounds less 😂 and my sister weighs 10 pounds MORE than me but we look like we are the same weight. We are all the same height btw 😂I no longer pay attention to the scale. There is a man for every women sis. Whatever your shape is there is a man out there who will A…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 01:57 AM
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Awww its surprising how old wounds can still be a little tender huh? You are right, he would have turned you into a nasty sharp tongued she-devil if you had stayed. But girl I'm so proud of you for walking away and realizing that you deserve more than a passive mommas boy. ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 01:41 AM
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Hahahahahaha yes! Exactly. And I like something casual for the first date so I can see if I even like him in person in a low key setting. I dont want to get super dolled up to go on a dinner date only to see that he's a troll who lied about his age, weight, and height 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 01:30 AM
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I'm not against the idea of a low key initial date to get the feel of someone. I dont hate coffee dates like a lot of my fellow FDS sisters do. But the guy should still pay! Being cautious is ok but he should take the initiative and suggest a time and date AT THE LEAST. And you are very welcome sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 01:17 AM
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Dont feel guilty about your feelings. I understand completely why you enjoy his company. But it is dangerous to be around an ex like this. Theres always the possibility that you'll fall back into the comfort of the relationship even when its not exactly what you both want. Simply the fact that you are familiar with each other and still like one another is enough to potentially trap you in a groundhog day type relationship. You could end up repeating the relationship over and over or end end up i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 01:10 AM
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😂😂😂😂😂 MY BAD!!! I thought you meant puppy love with the man. Not in love with the actual doggie! Phew sis. I'm sorry but I'm also relieved 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 12:57 AM
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These are my concerns: 1. Safety where are yall walking too? Seems dodgy to me 2. Low effort- he's not spending any money. Not really making any effort to make the date interesting. I dont like it. 3. Awkward- walking around with a stranger? Sounds like it could end up being the as-yet-undiscovered 10th circle of hell. Harder to put a time limit on the date. No structure to it. Just a mess. 4. His use of the word "Sometime"- this bothers me the most. He invites you out on a walk of all things an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 12:54 AM
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THIS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 12:46 AM
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THIS!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 12:19 AM
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😂😂😂😂 right!?!?!?! It would be nice if they could show some degree of discernment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 12:13 AM
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A lot of NVM are decent men who have severely low self esteem and PTSD. Having these things is NOT what makes them low value. Ite the fact that they are unwilling to do the work to heal their trauma, level up, and seek help. Instead they seek a mommy/bangmaid who is expected to do all the emotional labour. Dont be the low value person that enters into a relationship with an emotionally healthy person and expects them to "fix you". You are a wonderful person and I'm sure he sees that. But until y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 12:09 AM
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Listen to this OP!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 11:55 PM
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Yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 11:54 PM
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Sis, one of FDS core principles is to keep your emotional distance in the vetting stage. Early investment in LVM will keep you in a relationship WAY too long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 11:35 PM
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I think he definitely led you on a bit. So it's not completely on you. But now go back to no contact and try not to look back. It sounds like you guys had a good connection but you can care about him from afar. Dont worry sis you'll be ok ❤🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 11:17 PM
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He DOES say one correct thing and then 50 rambling messy speeches 😂. I still appreciate the fact that he calls out these "men" on their Peter Pan bullshit and tells them what they need to hear: grow up or shut up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 11:08 PM
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We SHOULD all leave. Force them to behave like actual humans instead of like lecherous trolls 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 11:04 PM
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Sis this is my MOOD FOR LIFE. I slept in this morning and just felt so snug, comfortable, and well rested. I'm......dare I say it? HAPPY! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 11:03 PM
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Oooh I love It! I was listening to Nicole Byers Podcast because I think shes funny but her pickmeisha ways depressed the shit out of me. 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 10:07 PM
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Good job. It's perfectly ok to have preferences. And screw anyone that ways different sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 09:46 PM
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If she doesnt want applebees she should make her standards known. I on the other hand LOOOOOOOVE going to IHOP my NVM ex thought it was a ghetto ass place though. My logic is that these things are personal preferences. Take the woman where she WANTS TO GO. If you dont want to go there. Leave the woman alone. simple 🤷🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 07:51 PM
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Aww you're welcome ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 07:45 PM
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So far so good sis, keep vetting though. Can I just say how sad it is that most men on OLD f*ck it up in the first few exchanges. And now we are at the point where if a man is BEHAVING LIKE A HUMAN it's so refreshing? The bar truly is in hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 07:13 PM
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Yes! All that matters is that you foster a healthy, safe space to nurture the children. Who the hell cares how it happens as long as it does? People are really focused on all the wrong shit. How about we focus on the porn epidemic?How about the fact that social media is causing rampant depression amongst the youth? How about human trafficking? People really love policing women and their choices but hate giving that same energy to shit that is really ruining this world. SMH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 06:41 PM
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It makes me truly sad what disgusting depraved behaviour we women put up with all in the name of "love" or "keeping a man". SMH my pickme past is haunting me with visions of terrible paths not taken. I'm SO grateful for the lessons I learned from my relationship with my EX NVM. I feel like I got a vaccine against a deadly disease. The relationship left scars but when I think about it I got away relatively unscathed. Unfortunately many women dont have that blessing and advantage. So I'm trying no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 06:35 PM
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Awwww....bless you. It all seems overwhelming because low key it kind of IS overwhelming. Especially when you've been taken advantage of and used by LVM along the way. This exhaustion that you feel? Well it's a big sign that you need to take a break from dating entirely and focus on yourself. Date yourself, get to know yourself, take yourself out, spend on yourself, level yourself up. I honestly believe that FDS is about making yourself a HVW so that ultimately you are always happy with your own…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 06:27 PM
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I'd love to do this. But N/LVM really get off on ANY kind of attention don't they? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 06:07 PM
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😂😂😂😂👌🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 06:05 PM
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Yeah the man should ALWAYS pay the bill. In this case I would pay for my own transportation if it was close but if a man expected me to travel a considerable distance to him. Best believe he is paying for that too (or driving me whatever he prefers). I start as I mean to go on 🤷🏿‍♀️ Elegant-Stop is correct. I'm looking for the father of my children, that man needs to be fully comfortable with the role of sole/primary provider.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 05:39 PM
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I felt the same way. After I broke up with my NVM ex I went back on the apps a few days later to take my mind of him. BIG MISTAKE. I just felt this huge mix of emotions: disgust and distrust of men, sadness, anxiety and loneliness. So I couldnt do it. I'm much better now but I just dont feel the urgency to be with anyone. I'm comfortable in my own skin. Dont worry you will get there. Just take a break from dating and focus on yourself. We women are very resilient. 😂❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 05:32 PM
4

Love it, love it, love it! 👌🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 05:26 PM
22

Sing it sister!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 05:24 PM
2

I am proud of you sis! You deserve no less than a HVM. Keep up your excellent standards and you will find him. Or at the very least will not have your youth and vitality sucked by a N/LVM. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 05:22 PM
7

Woaaa. I feel so bad for her. It looks like there is a lot of emotional abuse going on here. And that her friends are gaslighting her as well. The whole situation is filled with negative value people. If I were her I'd take the baby and run. He seems like he would be a deadbeat father so I'm sure she wouldnt have to run too far 🤷🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 05:18 PM
7

Oh and Charlie is terrible too. There was an episode where he brutally rejected a beautiful HVW who wanted a relationship with him (God knows why) so that he could continue to be the whipping boy for "the waitress"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 05:10 PM
7

Lol that's why I love the show. I'm only comfortable laughing at the misery of terrible people who do terrible things 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 05:08 PM
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😂😂😂😂 go off sis. I've thought about it and I don't think I could do it though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 05:07 PM
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Guuuuuurl I hear you. The love-bombing just made all the flags disappear right? And you were thinking that love will sustain the relationship right? 😂😂 sis I've been there. My pickmeisha ass really saw potential in a 39 year old unemployed, high school drop out, weed addicted loser. I'm glad we both escaped our Peter Pan NVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 04:56 PM
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Yeah, I really dont like a man that insults ANY womans appearance tbh. It is a HUGE turnoff. Seems catty and delusional since they'll stick it in the same woman they insult if they had no other options. At least keep it real. My NVM thought most women were pretty in their own way. That was one of his few redeeming traits. 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 04:44 PM
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You know how you feel sis. Your gut is telling you something is up. Listen to it. It's definitely a red flag. People usually dont bring up their exes like this. Because its weird. Even when someone is still hung up on their ex they dont mention them because they KNOW the other person will be suspicious. But this dude isnt even aware enough to hide it. That's actually a blessing because at least you know to run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 04:39 PM
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Oh she really is. And she's always been COMPLETELY fine being alone if she cant find a HVM. She is NOT ok with dropping her standards and never has been 😂. The woman is a walking embodiment of FDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 01:28 PM
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This asshole really projected violence onto you. These type of people scare the shit out of me. No telling how abusive he could have become if he came out the gate with this shit. I'm glad you dodged this disgusting man queen. BOO! HE SUCKS!!!!! NEXT!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 03:18 AM
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Oh they really hate it when I play devils advocate for their exes 😂😂 but I'll never stop. Firstly it is an excellent way to see how they take it when you disagree with them or point out their flawed reasoning. And secondly: I got my sisters' back too!!! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 03:13 AM
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Audacity sis! Pure and simple. In my opinion we could ALL do with more of it. My younger sister is the most audacious woman I know. She's got great boundaries, financial security, no one gives her ANY shit and her aura scares ALL LVM/NVM away. Lots of people call her a bitch. I call her my hero 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 03:09 AM
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Hahahahahahahaha 50K!?!?!?! I'm sorry but there is no woman on earth who'd spend that kind of money. We just don't get the benefits of marriage that a man gets. Why would we drop that kind of money on the search? It makes more sense for men IMO. I think the service should be free for women, just saying 🤷🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 03:05 AM
3

Ayyyyyy! Fair play sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 03:00 AM
12

Making a sympathy play and tugging on your heart strings. Typical NVM behaviour. I'm so glad you saw through the BS sis 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 01:54 AM
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😂 ohmygod. It is shocking to me how someone who looks like this can say "sex comes first, then the opportunity for a romantic relationship"........nawwwwww several dates, gifts, lavish treatment and exclusivity come before sex (with him in particular). And the "opportunity" for a romantic relationship? More like a "miracle" buddy.....the audacity of these scrotes. I really keep telling all the women in my life that they need to be as audacious as a middle aged white man not unlike this delusiona…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 12:38 AM
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Hahahahahahahahahahahaha right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 12:25 AM
7

THIS!!!!!! sounds like your friends pushed you in front of this train of a NVM repeatedly. Please apply FDS principles to these friends of yours as well. No offense but they sound subpar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 12:24 AM
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Wow sis. How can we destroy you when you kicked the NVM to the curb already? It sounds like you just need us to co-sign the decision you already made to let him go. Well here it is: COSIGN!!!! 😂 sis you said it yourself he didnt make you feel like you were a priority and he made comments that made you feel insecure. That's enough to put him on the chopping block. But the fact that he only texts ONCE A MONTH??? girl!! You were right go let his ass go. There is no way any man who's worth a damn is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 12:14 AM
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WOW. Just wow. I'm glad you got out early sis. I know my dumb ass would have been pitying his dead family situation. I could honestly see myself lost in this type of situation for months if not years during my pickmeisha days 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 11:56 PM
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Triggers me too sis. It's like they want to say "bitches" or worse but feel that they can't so they use a socially accepted alternative. God forbid they call us "women". Even when we say "men ain't shit" or "men are trash" we are still giving them the dignity of their proper title. Instead of reducing them to animals (which most of them ACTUALLY are).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 11:51 PM
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Your username and picture is killing me 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 11:45 PM
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Aww you're welcome sis. After having the avoidant attachment thing I kind of turned vicious on dudes for a bit😅 which is why I said be nice and respectful. Not gonna lie for a bit I was a straight SAVAGE. But I'm sure you arent like me at all! 😂❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 11:43 PM
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Hahahaha right?! I was thinking they focused on the wrong story 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 11:11 PM
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Be nice and respectful but guard your heart sis. You can like someone without overly investing in them or the relationship ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 06:30 PM
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That's ALL I got from this messy rant 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 06:25 PM
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👌🏿 yeah I agree. I'm still scared of the perverts that hide the shit though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 06:03 PM
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choking is used just because it places distance from the perpetrator and removes responsibility in their head. Ohhhhh girl I didnt even think of that. You are 100% correct. We CHOKE on food, when another person restricts our air supply they STRANGLE us. Shiiiiiiit I'm really shook sis. This conspiracy is so pervasive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 06:02 PM
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Sis I feel you. 😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 05:59 PM
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😂😂😂😂💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 05:57 PM
2

It was HELLA FORCED! 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 05:55 PM
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Yup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 03:44 PM
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Oof ain't that the truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 03:43 PM
2

Sis! That movie though 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 03:42 PM
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Yes! I've been seeing a lot of downvotes on my posts as well. Dont take it personally. I also love cute underwear and I'm telling you no man is seeing that shit, not until we are MARRIED. So its completely and utterly for me 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 01:22 PM
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Sis I agree with you. I was so uncomfortable with the idea of going outside of my race I settled for a NVM. Well I'm gonna have to get out of my comfort zone, I guess. If I cant find the black king that I deserve. It doesn't mean that I should settle for the black court jester just because hes black 🙄. I'm gonna have to find an ACTUAL king, regardless of his race. Not gonna lie that was a hard thing to accept and I'm not even fully there.😂 but I'm trying Queen. Thanks for the reminder ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 01:17 PM
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Girl when I said I was tired. I can honestly say it was the Queen and Slim movie that got me there! Dont know why we couldnt have a movie where Queen (highly educated, well put together and seemingly HV) couldnt meet a HVM in a romcom movie or something. I hate romcoms generally but I'll watch anything with black people in it tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 01:11 PM
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Girl!!!!!! This is fantastic and hilarious 🤣👌🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 04:50 AM
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Hahahahahahahahaha she CAN! it's a whole other language.🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 04:49 AM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣👌🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 04:47 AM
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"Rest in our feminine".....YES! "Break the generational curse"..... DOUBLE YES! This is the future I want to see 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 04:46 AM
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They wanna ABSOLVE THEMSELVES OF GUILT. You hit the nail squarely on the head sis. If they perpetuate this stereotype they can continue to keep us at the bottom of the totem pole with treatment to match. And we will have no option but to "soldier on" like we always have. Because thats what we do right? I mean what kind of black women would we be if we weren't strong? Not the right kind that's for sure. Not the kind society wants us to be. SMH. I'm grateful to be strong and black but I honestly d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 04:43 AM
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Lord I'm so TIRED of these "struggle love" movies. 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 04:39 AM
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Amen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 04:37 AM
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I know many but that's probably because I'm from Canada. But I wouldnt be surprised that it's a rarity in the US. The way the government systematically broke down the black nuclear family is criminal. 😡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 04:36 AM
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"Did I do something wrong?" 🙄 WHERE TO BEGIN? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 04:21 AM
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😂😂😂 I'm glad you loved the movie at least!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 04:20 AM
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😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 04:17 AM
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Wow the scrote-acity is almost impressive 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 04:16 AM
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Oh my God. How dare they do that to you? This is such a shitty thing to do to someone. What sitcom did these people think they were in??? I'm so mad on your behalf. I hope you gave those people a piece of your mind sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 01:49 AM
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Lol I forgot to add that I'm glad you're safe sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 01:45 AM
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😂😂😂😂😂😂 this killed me!!!!! Good lord have mercy. This man gave absolutely ZERO FUCKS about your safety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 01:23 AM
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Well that was certainly strange 😂 no doubt about it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 01:20 AM
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Ohmygod right!?!?! 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 01:07 AM
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🤭👌🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 01:03 AM
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Sis! That's exactly what I meant! My ex LVM used to let all sorts of shit get in the way of his job to the point that he was constantly getting fired. 😒 smh. Loser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 11:31 PM
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Girl right!?!?!?!?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 11:29 PM
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WOWWWWWWWWW. 😬 All I can think is: there I but for the grace of FDS 😖. This one really reminds me what a bullet I dodged. I'm saving this for future me to read and feel blessed about 😃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 11:28 PM
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He has all the time in the world for sex I bet. He'd probably give up his second job in a heartbeat for a guaranteed FWB situation.😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 11:20 PM
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You said it sis!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 11:14 PM
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"Talking shit is one of my favorite pastimes" I'm deadddddd😂😂😂😂. Girl you are better than me I'll tell ya that much for free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 10:10 PM
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Bishhhhhhh 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 these scrotes are really out here scroting in the of "love" hahahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 08:38 PM
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Awww I love how you defended her. Well I'm super proud of how you can still see the good in her but also know that she is a LV friend and thus not enough for you anymore. I'm still in the stage where I have to vilify everyone I cut off so that I dont feel guilty about it 😂 kudos to you and your maturity queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 08:37 PM
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Girl me too!!! She gave me the strength to leave. And I watch her videos to remind me why I need to stay away. Even though my narc was a covert sad sack type he still emotionally manipulated me to the point where it wasnt healthy. Dr. Ramani helped me see that someone doesnt have to be verbally rude, disrespectful, or physically abusive to cause mental anguish. If they are sophisticated they can run hot/cold, withhold affection, and stonewall to control their supply. Bless Dr. Ramani for putting…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 06:44 PM
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What the hell???? Some dude doesn't tell her he loves her, but she's the love of his life to his family? Sounds like she's a BIG OL BEARD to a closeted gay dude 😂RUN SIS RUN!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 06:36 PM
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Im sorry, this was so hilarious to read!!🤭 Excellent writing btw 👌🏿This woman does not seem real! She seems like a caricature of a person. I'm sure dealing with her drove you to frustration and definitely affected your mental (and possibly physical) health. Girl MY blood pressure went up reading it and I've never met her😂 Im not usually the type of woman to encourage other women to dump their longtwem female friends ESPECIALLY when only knowing the situation through a single post on reddit. But …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 06:32 PM
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Dr. Ramani is the GOAT 😍 and I'm so glad one of my FDS sisters brought this gem of a woman into my life. I love this sub so much y'all!! 🤧
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 06:16 PM
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FACTS! When I was using the apps I NEVER liked anyone who hadn't already liked me. I shudder to think of the trash that would have "settled" for me had I done that 😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 12:46 PM
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Oh wow sis. I'm so sorry you had to deal with such a shitty ass man. I'm proud of you for growing stronger from it though. And for taking the right lessons from it. Keep rising queen! Can't wait to read your book! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 08:06 PM
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line my bird's cages. Deadddd😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 07:38 PM
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Gurrrrl if I didnt hate hot pockets before, FDS would have turned me off right quick 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 06:40 PM
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Ha! When I broke up with my ex, he accepted it so easily that I figured my suspicions that he was dating another woman must have been correct. I'm so glad he didnt beg me to stay, I was such a pick-me trapped in FOG (fear, obligation, guilt) that I would have given him another chance. His complete apathy made it easier for me to block him on EVERYTHING and run for my damn life. Low and behold he tracks me down on a dating app a few weeks later and tries to reconnect. I didnt even bother reading …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 05:45 PM
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I'm proud of you for realizing that he doesnt deserve a response or reaction from you. And since when is working an honest job low value? Low value is low effort towards people you love and towards yourself. As long as you are doing your best to level up emotionally, mentally, and financially you are HV. Keep your chin up queen ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 04:37 PM
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This is a great song and an excellent reminder that we are often our worst enemies when we allow NVM into our lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 04:31 PM
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😂😂😂😂 you discovered a new kink.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 04:19 PM
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I keep thinking that would be a viable business. But then I'm scared all I'd be doing is helping them to trick and lure poor unsuspecting women. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 04:18 PM
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I'm howlinggggggg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 04:16 PM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 04:16 PM
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Hahahaha right!?!?!? I dont even respond. They are really out here thinking we are delusional enough to get our validation and kicks from the fact that younger men want us. Not realizing that we know full well that dick is abundant, low value, and will make its home ANYWHERE...eg. hot pockets, pies, animals...etc. 😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 04:10 PM
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A "nice guy" who read a book. Y'all I'm deadddddd😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 04:04 PM
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These questions are EVERYTHING! If I had asked myself those questions. I never would have entertained the LVM that I did. Thanks for posting sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 02:36 AM
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No don't be concerned, he's probably just talking to his actual wife, you know, because he's a married man and you are his play thing Deadddd.🤣🤣🤣🤣👌🏿 OP she's right. It is extreme disrespect for a man to leave you on read ESPECIALLY a man you are in a long term relationship with. But cherthemusical is right. All hope is not lost. Dump his ass and watch how you level up sis ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 11:59 PM
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Oooh preach sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 07:53 PM
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😂🤣 ohmygod this is hilarious!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 07:50 PM
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I'm in!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 06:11 PM
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I agree with this advice 100% OP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:17 PM
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😂😂😂 I havent tried it myself. Another FDSer said they are hella expensive (tens of thousands of dollars) and not worth it at all. I'm going to look into the one in my area and check out their success rates. They cost about 10,000 dollars for a package which seems expensive to me. I'm not sure its worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 12:30 PM
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😂😂😂😂👌🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 12:27 PM
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WOW I had no idea that some of them were that expensive! Not sure its worth it either 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 12:26 PM
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Right!?!?! Well any sign of hot/cold behaviour and I'm OUT!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 03:45 AM
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😂😂😂😂😂😂 I'm screaminggggg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 02:01 AM
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THIS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:58 AM
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I'd join. And count me in for moral support as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:58 AM
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Lol yeah they be crazy a lot of the time. But they still tend on the whole to put in more effort. Even if it's for a short period of time. They tend to know how to woo a woman but might not know how to keep her 😂 I mean they divorced for a reason right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:55 AM
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It sounds like a neg to me too. It is so completely unnecessary to say that. And it just telegraphs his own insecurity in being unable to pull a "supermodel type". I dont like it. Even the most trash NVM should make you feel like "his type" lie or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:32 AM
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This made me sad 🤧
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:26 AM
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I've DEFINITELY noticed this as a tall gal myself. 😂😂 Its ok. Ill just bless another mans kids with my tall ass genes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:20 AM
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women have endured far worse than this and persevered. And we won yes sis! We will weather this storm ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:07 AM
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The odds of finding a quality man on OLD is like 1/200 profiles. So it is still POSSIBLE just difficult, time-consuming, and unlikely. I think the best bet is going through those paid match-making services and/or meeting people organically while out and about. I get quite freaked out when someone asks me out while I'm vibing with them because I get a little voice in my head worrying that they are a serial killer 😂 But OLD is not actually that much safer if you think about it. As long as you are …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:04 AM
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YES!!! they are lazy AF. I would say that divorced men are the exception. They tend to make more effort. They know what it takes to get a woman (maybe not keep her 😂). They also tend to remember how great it was to have a woman wifed-up. Again, it is debatable whether they know how to keep a woman. I havent talked to a dude for more than a month in AGESSSSSSSS. What can I say? The trash just takes itself out since I found FDS 🤷🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 12:56 AM
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Bless your heart you are a bit of an insecure mess at the moment huh? Say hallelujah that some NVM/LVM hasn't had a chance to exploit your insecurities yet. Do not date while you are feeling this low. LVM/NVM sharks will smell it like blood in the water. I agree you should work on building up your self worth by getting a hobby, exercising (it's great for mental health), and maybe therapy. Male attention does not equal validation. You need to stay far far away from dating until you realize that. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 12:51 AM
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Another FDSer by the name of Kristeninmyskin posted the following: In the about section of the FDS homepage it has our Twitter handle! It’s the Real Female Dating Strategy or FemDatStrat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 12:40 AM
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Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 12:39 AM
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You know what? I assumed we had a Twitter account because I kept seeing tweets posted here from an FDS account. But I've just checked Twitter and I cant see anything that looks like an official FDS Twitter account. Someone else posted that the mods of this sub have a contingency plan that they will be announcing soon. So I'll be waiting for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 12:17 AM
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You would be an amazing admin but your health and well-being comes first queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 12:13 AM
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Thank God. I will be looking out for it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 12:10 AM
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Fuck em
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 12:06 AM
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I'm only here for FDS as well. I've found some other interesting subs but I'm keeping myself from getting too attached to reddit since I might have to dip soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 11:14 PM
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It seems like society WANTS women to fail. Like it wants us to be miserable and always giving more in relationships for men who wouldn't do the same. Ding! Ding! Ding! Give the girl a prize! 😂 The game is rigged, society is like a casino: the house always wins. Not to say all men are trash, just on average they are 🤷🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 11:05 PM
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Ohmygod. I thought it would be about how they were struggling trying to find someone to fuck. Oh God it's actually rape porn. On reddit! I feel sick 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 10:41 PM
4

Oh lord🤯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 10:28 PM
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Right!?!?!? 😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 10:27 PM
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The second they ban FDS I'm getting rid of my reddit account/app. I will check the Twitter feed for the link to our new home and will migrate over there. I have no problem saying "bye bye reddit" ✌🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 10:06 PM
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😂😂😂👌🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 10:01 PM
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My sentiments EXACTLY!!!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 06:37 PM
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A scoliosis back brace and a lunchbox? You really upgraded sis 😂 I'm happy for you. And I notice after all this he is still a "seemingly" HVM. Good job for understanding that 5 months in you are STILL in the vetting stage. My NVM gave me nothing but heartache and headache. Oh and he got me flowers one time but I'm not really a "flowers" person which I TOLD him. So.......yeah.😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 06:30 PM
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A racist gun toting Native American. Wow, this is 2020 huh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 06:07 PM
7

I'm so glad you are free Queen! Enjoy the anniversary of the day you dodged the biggest bullet of your life! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 05:31 PM
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😂😂😂😂 this is one of the best stories I've heard in a long ass time. It sucks that you had such a horrible date but the way you told him you forgot ever having gone out with him? SAVAGE, deliciously savage 😉 Ps: you are an excellent story teller btw, your writing is 👌🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 04:44 PM
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It IS useless! I forgot I even had one. And only remembered when I got his email hoover attempt through LinkedIn 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 04:17 PM
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Oh sis. I understand where you are coming from. I really do, i had an ex just like Owen. He sounds like a nice person and it seems like he treats you well. And the idea of a man changing for you is romantic as hell. But if you have to demand this much change from a person there is bound to be some resentment down the line. A person has to change FOR THEMSELVES or else it's not true change and he always runs the risk of going back to his previous behavior. Especially when those past behaviors are…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 03:53 PM
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Deaddddd 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 03:30 PM
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I feel you sis. At least she has a nice prison. I want to point out how western culture wants us to do ALL OF THIS SAME SHIT in addition to working. It's all bullshit when you look at it but to eyeball this woman and feel more pity for her than for our own terrible misogyny is a huge mistake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 03:05 PM
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😂😂 what is with the pictures? They stay thinking that sending us pictures of them will erase our memories of all the shit they put us through. It is so lazy and low effort no wonder he loved to do it 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 02:38 PM
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SMH. SAME 😒 In the end I had to delete it. I knew he would just keep creating new profiles whenever I blocked him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 02:33 PM
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I truly believe that it is the mans job to ask you out. Point, blank, period.💯 But If you REALLY want an excuse to talk to him without looking thirsty then you can make up some goody bags or muffins as going away presents for your neighbors. I did this a few years ago when I moved, and gave mini loaves of banana bread and candies for the kids in the area (I had GREAT neigbours then). Just make sure you go over with a big basket making it CLEAR that he is one of MANY individuals receiving your bl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 02:31 PM
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😂😂😂😂💯%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 09:05 AM
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Good move sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 07:19 PM
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She had an experience where one of her closest friends, who was divorced, tried to seduce her husband. Luckily her husband rejected her friend’s advances. But from this experience, Browder saw the damage she had caused from her years in Cosmo writing about how it was okay for a single woman to pursue another woman’s husband. 😂 this is too funny! She helped turn her friend into a super pick-me and the friend tried to pick her husband! 🤣 Priceless!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 07:17 PM
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The sad thing is that men have made it so we dont need them. If most men were good husbands and fathers then rational women like us would NEVER think of going it alone. But seeing all my aunties and the mothers in the community around me essentially DOING EVERYTHING for the household and STILL being abandoned by their NVM husbands made me realize at a young age that scrotes ain't shit and to NEVER depend on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 07:11 PM
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Right!?!?! I felt the same way. But until they show consistent effort and commitment we shouldn't feel guilty for a godamn thing. Push through those feelings of guilt because until he mentions exclusivity you have to ASSUME he is seeing other women. To be honest sometimes even when they want to be exclusive they only want to keep you from talking to other men while they still play the field- but that's a conversation for another day 😂 Sis why would you put yourself off the market for someone who…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 07:02 PM
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This is my worry as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 06:50 PM
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KickHimOut2020
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 06:49 PM
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Ewww 🤮 I dealt with one of the most trash NVM in existence but I'll give him one thing: dude was hella clean (probably because he was a cheating, dusty scrote hiding the evidence 😂) But I could never be near a dirty nasty man like this 😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 06:47 PM
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Me too 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 06:36 PM
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I've just made the same mindset shift and it has been truly liberating. I'm done being a slave to a biological clock that I, quite frankly, don't think is the end-all and be-all of my woman-hood. I'm 33 at the moment but if I dont find a HVM by the time I'm 40 I am ready to go ahead and adopt a precious baby girl and give her the same security, safety, stability, and self esteem that I grew up with. Hell, I may do it before 40, it all depends on when I AM READY AND NOT ANYONE ELSE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 06:35 PM
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Totally agree sis! But I've cried over a dude with 2 houses and a masters and I've also cried over a man with just a birth certificate. They both were lackluster but believe me when I say: I feel WAY dumber for having cried over the latter 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 04:28 PM
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Oh wow. You are truly stronger than you realize, especially considering how young you are. Id like to think I would have been as strong as you at your age but I probably would have thrown myself against the rocks of the relationship for a few more months before I wised up.😂 I'm proud of you little queen 🤗❤. DM me if you need to vent or Feel free to keep asking advice on this sub. We are always here for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 01:27 PM
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😂😂😂 that episode is definitely in the top 5 for me! It's my best friends favorite episode too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 01:18 PM
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😂😂😂 sis go off! I ain't mad at it😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 01:16 PM
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Right!?!?!. I'm about ready to move to a deserted island. For real for real 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 07:19 AM
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Yes!!!! Their wine stained lips kept me laughing throughout the episode sis 🤣🤣🤣. Well they weren't intervening Frank for a lack of great ideas (that line KILLS me 😂)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 07:14 AM
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My favorite episode is the one where they give Frank an intervention oh and the Facebook episode! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 05:31 AM
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SAME!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 11:30 PM
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Woah 🤯 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 11:30 PM
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🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 11:29 PM
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Ohmygod I call them emotional parasites! Sis they really do this. They have some nerve reaching out after what they put women through. But the audacity to do it WHILE STILL IN A RELATIONSHIP??? The lack of basic decency is appalling. But we already knew that when we left their ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 11:28 PM
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Yes 😖😖 toxic emotional parasites.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 11:26 PM
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That's some excellent introspection. You realized you shouldn't envy something that you dont have the time or energy to nurture. That's some high value woman shit right there! 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 11:23 PM
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Awww. No sis. It's ok to have hope. Just be happy with yourself first and foremost just in case a HVM never materializes for you. That way you will not have wasted your life on a NVM who makes you insecure and miserable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 01:51 PM
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🤣🤣🤣 ok go off sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 01:47 PM
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WOW! Bravo Queen. That is some serious commitment. I admire you so much! Sis you are a real inspiration 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 01:47 PM
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I'm screamingggggg!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 01:42 PM
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help her set new expectations, that you have a life and you can't drop everything for her. but you still care. and will be around, you know? THIS! its painful to watch a friend lose themselves to a relationship with an LVM. However if the woman is actually A GOOD friend I would keep my distance but I could never fully abandon her or leave her on read. ESPECIALLY if she finally left the loser LVM. That's when we partayyyyyyy! 😜💃💃💃 and by party I mean binge watch real housewives or some other tras…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 01:39 PM
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THIS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 12:39 PM
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🤣🤣🤣 the idea that 30+ year old men are more mature than their younger counterparts is something I fully believed as well. Dont beat yourself up about it. Now that we both know better we will do better. You'll do great queen! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 12:35 PM
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So I think the women here can catch things more quickly THIS! 😂👌🏿 So I hope you ladies will roast me into oblivion if I ever need it, ill thank you for it 😂 SAME SIS! 🤣💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 12:32 PM
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except I didn’t feel anything for him and I was the one constantly trying to break us up 😂😂😂😂 that's hilarious. Good for you sis. You can find the D.E.N.N.I.S. system explained in episode 10 of season 5.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 12:29 PM
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Yeah that is definitely concerning when I think about it 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 12:25 PM
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the future it may help to think "would i get roasted into oblivion and called out on my pickme shit for this?" THIS! 💯% I agree entirely. 😂😂 that's why I stay on this sub even though I'm not actively dating. I also dont want to turn into a pickme again. 😂😂😂 but I honestly cant see that happening as long as I visit this sub regularly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 05:14 AM
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You are very welcome sis! Now that you know the narcs playbook you'll be better able to avoid them. They all follow the same protocol of value/intermittent enforcement/devaluing. Queen I pray you'll be free of this mess forever! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 05:08 AM
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Let's rephrase because I hate the idea of quitting 😂 instead of "giving up" your standards you are maintaining high standards. Ah see? It's all in how you spin it 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 04:56 AM
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Girl I feel you! I panicked and became a pick-me for a few months last year. I'm thankful I had enough self worth to kick my NVM to the curb. But I was still stressed out about my biological clock and meeting a man and settling down. All the things we are told we HAVE to do in order to be happy. But I was happy before I bowed to societal pressure, I felt free before I tied myself to a NVM. Once I remembered how happy I was JUST LAST YEAR it was easy to put 2 and 2 together and see that pushing m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 04:53 AM
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Its far better to work on our own self worth and interests before pursuing a relationship anyway. If a man can't improve my life I dont want him 🤷🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 04:32 AM
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😂😂😂😂 PERIOD SIS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 04:30 AM
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Yes! They'll have to treat me better than I treat myself to join me on this beautiful life I'm building for myself. We've got the FDS spirit sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 04:29 AM
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Yes I agree. Keep me updated on how it goes! I'm super curious 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 03:37 AM
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Oooh queen shit for real. Go on and get your coin sis. I ain't mad at the hustle 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 02:23 AM
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You're welcome queen ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 02:19 AM
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Aww man that sucks. It sounds like you prefer "traditionally male" pursuits and that's not your fault. Nor should you try to change it. I know a work colleague who loves fishing and she was so surrounded by men she decided to start a women's only fishing club. Maybe you could find something like that somewhere? And I like doing zumba but dont like shaking my ass around disgusting scrotes so I go to all-women classes and have made some great friends there. Maybe if you like martial arts or whatev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 02:18 AM
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Wow, spinning plates using and abusing women but WE are the hypergamous hoes who supposedly run through men left and right. Projection much? 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 02:12 AM
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🤧 Im so glad and you are so welcome queen! ❤🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 02:09 AM
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Sis I was sad and disappointed about it but now I'm realizing that my whole life is opening up before me. I can own property if I want, travel when I want, I can adopt a child if i want (I never really cared about having biological kids), I can have a relationship with whatever man I want: young, old, broke, rich and not expect a damn thing. My life was feeling like it was getting more and more narrow because I was linking all those milestones to having a man. I realize now that the things I TRU…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 01:41 AM
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Yup! You are completely correct OLD is full of scrubs. I finally gave up on it a few weeks ago. I'm going to go through a matchmaking service next. When people put their hard earned dollars to invest they are less likely to be playing around. Thanks for making this post! 👌🏿❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 01:10 AM
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Yeah but those of us dating in the 30+ range are dealing with all that shit PLUS the fact that these losers are now balding, pot bellied, and probably paying alimony and/or child support. 😂😂😂😂 I have completely and whole-heartedly accepted the fact that I may not find a HVM. I'd rather die than accept ANY of these LVM. Fuckouttahere, SMH the patriarchy really thought 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 01:05 AM
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Sis that's what I saw too 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 12:56 AM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 12:54 AM
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I SURE AM! 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 12:53 AM
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I've always wanted a month-long honeymoon instead to be honest 😂 but hey, we want what we want 🤷🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 12:52 AM
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My best friend for the past 20 years was like you. She moved away when we were in high school and only recently came back 3 years ago. Unfortunately I was the only person she still knew in the area so she had absolutely no friends besides me. So I would invite her to family events and she made friends with one of my sisters independently of me. Through my sister she met a few more HVW that she made friends with. I also took her to a work event where she independently made friends with some of my…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 12:49 AM
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I agree! I've met my share of clique-y and catty girls but I just avoid them and mind my own business. I dont go around spreading the narrative that girls are catty and bitchy (ESPECIALLY TO MEN). So I'm IMMEDIATELY suspicious of any girl that does tbh.🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 12:37 AM
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Sigh that was me, I was bitches 🙄 I'm SO embarrassed to admit it 😂. I have TWO degrees and I'm not sure ol' dude even graduated from high school to be honest 😬 I'm just glad I can laugh about it now! 🤭🤭 I didnt think I'd get here, but look at me today having deep belly laughs over my pick-me past! 🤣 Ain't life grand? 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 12:33 AM
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So they manage to get a woman that they actually care for and decide to devalue her to keep her? 😒 I really hate it here on earth sometimes 😪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 12:25 AM
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I've been thinking about reading this book but your post made me go and get it. It is very compelling reading so far. Thanks for the recommendation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 12:21 AM
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"Incroyable" 😂😂😂😂 I havent heard that in so long! Thanks for the hilarious throwback, gonna pop it back into my current lexicon 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 12:11 AM
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Falls for a mail order bride scam it was actually a man 😂😂😂😂 I'm weakkkkk "Tries to find a new host nobody wants him"....I detected no lies here 🤷🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 12:03 AM
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💯%%% experience is sometimes the best teacher. My ex did the same thing, was obsessed with marrying me and when I finally agreed suddenly hes all confused and unsure 😒. I definitely opened up too fast to him as well but we are lucky that we are no longer stuck with these parasites. Do not allow him to hoover you back queen. Remember how insecure he made you feel, remember the lies, remember the manipulation. Consider that your experience, while traumatic, has also made you an expert at spotting …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 11:12 PM
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YES! EXACTLY! I'm proud of you for figuring that out sis! Keep making these connections and you'll see that it doesnt matter how gorgeous a woman is, LVM will NEVER appreciate her because low value men cannot appreciate ANYTHING. So don't seek their approval. You hit the nail on the head when you called them "fickle" 😂💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 10:54 PM
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Yes! Sis I'm glad you saw his low effort bull. Some guy tried to pull the same mess with me. They make it seem like we are desperate to date them and they have to squeeze us in somewhere. How about showing some actual effort? Remember the old days on TV when the guy would come over and pick the girl up from her house? Damn I dont want them knowing my address but they could AT LEAST meet us halfway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 09:03 PM
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Queen you can go on FDS and comment anytime you DAMN WELL PLEASE 😂 I am intrigued by your sales idea 🤔 not sure how It would work, but I'm curious to hear more if the idea crystallizes in your mind and youd like to share. I
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 08:33 PM
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I love this show too. Everything is ridiculous but it's all based on fundamental truths about our messed up society ie. Sexism, racism, social inequality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 08:27 PM
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Don't feel stupid. My ex would blatantly say he was "studying me" when he'd ask about all my opinions and favorite things. Never thought he would so blatantly admit to mirroring me. But scrotes say scroting! 🙄 Their audacity is ludicrous. Dont be hard on yourself. Now that you know better, you'll do better. You've already leveled up by leaving that loser. Stay strong queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 08:24 PM
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Oh bless your heart. Men will literally fuck ANYTHING...pies, hot pockets, dogs you name it. Sure they have preferences just like we have preferences. Some men prefer obese women, some men prefer anorexic ones, and some men prefer athletic bodies. But honestly MOST men want it ALL. They are not satisfied with whatever they have. And perpetually feel the grass is greener somewhere else. Therefore for these men the goal is to obtain a truly accommodating woman. She can come in any shape because if…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 07:51 PM
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God right!?!?! They really want a telepathic bang mommy/maid. Just another example of how unreasonable their expectations of us are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 06:06 PM
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Oh gosh. I'm so sorry you feel this way about your body. Which is your souls home and your temple. He defiled you with his words. But you cannot allow him to have that kind of power over your domain. Your beautiful body is working for you at all times. From the strong arms and legs that carry you from point A to B. A stomach that digests all your food and uses the energy to fuel your life. From the immune system that works to keep you from pathogens and parasites. It doesnt matter what physical …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 05:25 PM
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Sis I did! And gave you full credit for your fabulous advice. Thanks again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 05:04 PM
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Ewwwww gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 04:26 PM
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Right!?!?!! Lord have mercy 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 04:25 PM
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I really dont know 🤷🏿‍♀️ pickmes are really living in some wild cognitive dissonance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 04:23 PM
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SUBHUMAN DEGENERATES- yep that about sums them up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 04:22 PM
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Yes. I am very freaked out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 04:21 PM
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Right!?!?! I dont know how I'm STILL surprised. What do they always say here? Oh yes: the bar really is in hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 04:21 PM
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Preach!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 04:20 PM
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😂😂😂😂 me too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 04:19 PM
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I'm not sure, but I think its a culture that doesn't enforce empathy on men the way it does on women. It's the lack of empathy (or deep suppression of it) that has men acting so psychotic. Women in society do not get rewarded for a lack of empathy the same way men do. In fact we are punished very early on in life when we display a lack of empathy. We cant begin to imagine their audacity because we aren't allowed to have ANY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 04:15 PM
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So another FDSer (by the name of Enough-Introduction) gave this amazing advice to another queen. I thought I'd copy it over here: Former Pickmeisha here. As a teenager, I decided „it ends with me“ when I realized that my father was abusive, my grandfather had been, my great-grandfather... well, I still had 3 abusive relationships as a young adult. The last one was bad enough to make me realize that it is not enough to say that you respect yourself, which sounds strong and glorious and people wil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 04:09 PM
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💯👌🏾. so there is another FDSer asking what kind of general life advice she should give her students. I think this is AMAZING ADVICE for everyone but particularly for young people. I'm going to post this answer here: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/hfnixx/comment/fw1gyp3?context=1 if that's ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 04:06 PM
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Hope you blocked sis. Sounds like NVM trash
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 03:57 PM
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😬😬 the truth of this comment. Yikes. But also 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 03:54 PM
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I'm like "new woman, who dis?" 😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 03:52 PM
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I think A LOT of us have been D.E.N.N.I.Sed unfortunately. Its truly heartbreaking but I'm happy to have learned the lesson with minimal investment and time in the NVM. Sis, I was being D.E.N.N.I.Sed while I KNEW about the system! 😂 but it helped me to sense that something wasnt right with him. Now one of my goals in life is to make this information widely available so that even if someone is D.E.N.N.I.Sed they can get out quickly and as painlessly as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 03:41 PM
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Yes! You're so right. This show makes me laugh more than any other show😂 hilarious and way smarter than it appears at a glance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 03:35 PM
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All these fuckers deserve to get played for all the emotional trauma they cause women I agree 💯%%%. This is why I love FDS. If we arm all women with this knowledge then these predators can NEVER get their dicks wet. 😉Hopefully we can drive them out of the dating pool and they can resort to fucking those sex robots instead of fucking over real life women. 🤮 gross I know, but better a robot then us. 😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 03:33 PM
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PERIOD SIS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 03:26 PM
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I'm sorry sis. Thank God it was only 3 years. I know any time spent on these losers feels like a waste but remember that some people get caught up in these dynamics for DECADES. You saved SO MUCH TIME by getting out that early early. And it taught you what these garbage relationships feel like so you never fall into one again. Keep your chin up queen, you are awesome ❤🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 03:16 PM
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Awww I'm sorry 😥 You'll be ok sis. I promise!❤ we are all here for you if you need to talk feel free to DM me. You are definitely in the right place, FDS will get you over any trash NVM with a quickness! 💯 Edit: spelling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 03:11 PM
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No thank YOU sis for keeping us on game. ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 02:57 PM
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Speaking as a natural born queen who became a pickme for one particular narcisstic man (ugh 😪). I would have to say that the thing that saved me was the fact that I had invested in myself in all ways spiritually, physically, and intellectually waaaay before the narcissric NVM came into my life. I valued my company and myself for 32 years before a NVM came along. So when I forgot myself for the 6 months I was with him I was able to realize that HE was the problem, HE disrupted my equilibrium. And…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 08:13 AM
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Yes! I totally agree. It also helps improve their sense of confidence. I know when I was young that things to do with finance would always paralyze me with fear and make me feel stupid, useless and child-like. If I had known more I would have moved with more confidence in the financial realm and not have had my head in the proverbial sand so much. I cant begin to imagine how much I would have saved by now 😫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 07:43 AM
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Woah, Beauty and the Beast was always my favorite Disney movie because of Belle's love of reading and education. I never connected that to the fact that I was always drawn to half-formed men that I had to guide, help, and "change". Spooky how we are subconsciously trained from such a young age 😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 07:40 AM
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Many "grown-ups" haven't yet actually grown up I realized this as a teenager and lost the respect I had for most of my elders (although i didnt show it). I didnt let them guide shit and followed my own path. Luckily I was an over achiever and loved school but If I'd been another type of kid I probably would have dropped out and become a beach bum. I still fantasize about that sometimes 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 07:35 AM
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Yup yup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 07:30 AM
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Yep. I find it sad, a relief, and also ridiculously frustrating 😂. If I cant influence positive change in a person who is actively self destructive then I can't be around them. Its hard for me to watch them implode. I wish I was better able to detach but I know my limits and respect them even if others can't or wont 🤷🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 07:30 AM
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😂😂😂😂😂😂 dumpster fire! Too true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 07:27 AM
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Well this is it really. Summed up nice and neatly. couldn't have said it better myself 🤧
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 07:26 AM
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💯%%%%%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 07:24 AM
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Oooooh you are really preaching the gospel today sis! I think I caught the holy ghost of FDS 😂 I can feel myself leveling up just listening to your sermon...🤧 Amen queen! Amen! 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 07:23 AM
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Thank you but the day I decide to INTENTIONALLY read something that a salty scrote wrote will be a cold day in hell.😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 06:42 AM
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😂😂😂😂😂 right!?!?! They out here LIVING the life that these losers are dreaming of. They want us to lower our standards so they can have a chance to become the playboys and fuckbois they admire. Why dont they just workout, gain a modicum of social skills, and dress properly? Oh I forgot! That would mean taking an ounce of responsibility for their incel status instead of placing the blame squarely at the feet of womankind for not gifting them with undeserved sex😂 Fuckboys and playboys are no prize …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 06:41 AM
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THIS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 06:32 AM
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Oh God I hope so too🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 06:31 AM
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This is terrifying. She is using cognitive dissonance to avoid the very real likelihood that her child is being abused. This is what peak pickmeisha behaviour looks like. I'm so worried for her child. I wish there was a way to do a welfare check on her daughter. I want to call child services so bad. This kind of thing makes me sick and is a big reason why I dont trust men. Not with my heart and DEFINITELY not with my as yet unborn-children. I'm seriously considering just adopting on my own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 06:25 AM
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Oh, but they never want to have THAT conversation. Better to endlessly moan about how a woman who only wants to be your friend, IS ACTING LIKE A FRIEND. Ish like this makes me feel like my head is going to explode one day. 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 06:19 AM
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Oooh 😍 these links are so full of wonderful information!!!!! I'm gonna send them to anyone who may need more info regarding narcissistic relationships. Thanks for posting queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 05:59 AM
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I'm glad for your commet. I think it's great when someone like yourself offers their insight to a post. I love the conversations that occur and how we can better get to know our fellow sisters on the sub this way! Also I'm glad you are going back to school and leveling up for yourself and your kids. I'm sorry your family didn't instill you with the FDS principles that is the right of every woman. But I'm happy you have broken the cycle with your daughters. And are championing FDS with your chest…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 05:45 AM
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That is beautiful sis! I'm sure you'll be a wonderful influence on the women in your life. Your story has inspired me at my big ol age of 33. I can tell by the way you write that you have great insight into yourself and more importantly you are changing the parts you dont like. This makes you so powerful. Very few people can see themselves clearly and even fewer have the strength of character to change fundamentally like this. Most of us would prefer to comfort ourselves with delusions and excus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 05:37 AM
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I'm dyinggggggg 💀 this is honestly the funniest shit I've ever read. The audacity of this man!!! 😂😂😂😂 I'm laughing so hard I'm gasping! I cant even pick my favorite bit.....is it infections at the tip? 🤔 No, Maybe the red eyes from staring at a screen for hours causing shame and embarrassment?....🤔 No, I think it's the ejaculation onto his PC that short circuited his apartment and caused a blackout!!!!! 😂😂 I'm saving the hell out of this. It's a hilarious reminder that scrotes ain't shit. Thank …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 02:38 AM
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If a man is literally stressing you out to the point where you feel like your mental health is suffering, or you feel like you're becoming "crazy", fucking LEAVE This is literally the MOST IMPORTANT piece of advice that you could ever impart on to an individual. Thank you for reminding me of the importance of my mental health above all else. And for sharing your experience Queen. ❤🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 02:27 AM
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THIS! OP is so lucky to not have gone through bullshit LVM to learn the lessons she did. MAJOR BULLETS DODGED. Just imagine how they would have OBLITERATED the little remaining self esteem she had? I honestly shudder to think 😖 so many young girls end up self harming and picking up all sorts of other messed up coping behaviours. I'm so happy OP managed to avoid this fate at least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 02:05 AM
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Ohmygod this honestly made me tear up with happiness 😭. I'm so pleased that you are seeing your worth and realizing that validation can only come from yourself. I promise you that investing in yourself, and treasuring yourself foremost will provide you with everlasting happiness. Even if you never find a mate you will find inner peace and contentment as a human being. I'm impressed that you realized this at such a young age. Do not be ashamed of your past, (I know that is easier said than done) …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 02:02 AM
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Not a damn thing sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 01:53 AM
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I know right!?!?!?!? These scrotes have zero shame. 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 01:47 AM
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Ohmygod right????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 12:40 AM
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Factsssss. And then they'll shoot out a random "hey" or "I miss you" text to all those girls AT THE SAME TIME. Smh, miss me with that mess.😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 12:37 AM
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Girl I'm just so glad to see you showing discernment straight from the get go! It can be so hard when they are nice and lower are defenses. I'm proud of you queen. Keep being wary and stay in the data gathering phase 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 12:13 AM
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How can anyone advise their friend or family to keep contact with a person who makes them feel terrible?? F#ck the connection. Is the connection the umbilical cord connecting mother to child? Because that's the only connection I think is valid. And even then it's not worth a damn if the mother in question is abusive in any way. Smh these pickmes are really working my last nerve 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 12:07 AM
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I completely agree with what you are saying. But there are just legit scammers and hobosexuals out here who will leech and take right out the gate. They have the hardest time maintaining the veneer of a HVM so it's best to avoid giving ANYTHING for enough time that you can weed these dudes out. I think 3-4 months is enough time for them to show their true colors. Really it's enough time for most LVM to show enough LV traits. At least that's my opinion 🤷🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 11:54 PM
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I saw the post and was like "that's deep". I saw your comment and was like "shiiiiiiit that's real talk" 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 11:49 PM
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"Give as little as humanly possible" I cackled so loudly at this!!!!! 😂😂😂My sisters are looking at me like I'm possessed. Thanks for the laugh queen ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 11:47 PM
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😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I'm screaminggggf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 11:42 PM
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THIS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 11:42 PM
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That is a valid fear. But I think we can maintain quality if we stay vigilant in the comment section.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 11:41 PM
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Sis!!! You said it! ❤🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 11:38 PM
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Sis you really went OFF but what you said was 10000%%%% correct. I detected zero lies. So keep going off with your cranky-in-the-morning-highly-literate self 😂😂😂 Ps: I also love cake and cinnamon rolls😍 and It would be nice to have a man to get them for me but guess what? They taste just as good when I buy them for my dang self! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 11:36 PM
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We all recommend leaving his ass but I understand that you are scared that he is on his way to changing just as you are "giving up". That fear will keep you paralyzed in a relationship long after you should leave. And if you leave you'll always feel that you were possibly "missing out". Seems like a lose-lose situation. And my concern is that if you break up now you'll just end up getting back together out of FOMO and possibly wasting more time later on. No, what you need is time to see if your …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 11:30 PM
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Aww thanks! 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 10:41 PM
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Aww thanks! 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 10:35 PM
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I understand what you mean. But that naivete is the reason we get into these types of situations in the first place. I say good riddance to it! And think of it this way, best case scenario: you find someone great who treats you right. Well then you wont be naive enough to think that it is typical treatment and will value it all the more. Worst case scenario: you lost your innocence but stay dodging trifling LVM for the rest of your drama-free life. WIN-WIN! 😎 I really used to bemoan my lost inno…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 10:33 PM
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I love this 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 07:34 PM
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Therapy was great for me because my therapist asked me what I wanted from her at our very first session. I told her that talk therapy was best for me. Just having someone to vent to who would listen and then afterwards ask me to look at MY motivations and what I want and what I NEED in order to feel better. She also played devils advocate for my ex a lot which i HATED not gonna lie. But strangely it helped because I was always giving him the benefit of the doubt but when I was with her it forced…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 06:15 PM
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Fellow old maid here! And proud of it! I'm out here living my best life. Learning about everything I ever wanted to know. Eating right, staying in shape. All for me! I love me so much 😍 I cant believe I let someone love me less than I love myself 😂 I must have been in a walking coma. Well I'm awake now honey!😉🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 05:31 PM
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I know. Poor girl. Sunk cost fallacy is probably making her feel like she has to fight hard to stay with him because she gave him her virginity. But who cares who her first was? She needs to realize it's gonna be who the last one is that counts. It's a hard lesson to learn but I pray she figures it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 05:26 PM
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Smh at the audacity of proposing a secret engagement! Scrotes really stay scroting. I'm glad you left him queen. Now enjoy your free time and level up. Learn some new skills. It'll help with the sadness, because you'll still miss him even if he was shit, that's just human nature 🤷🏿‍♀️. And really take this time to examine why you wanted marriage so badly from a man who was so reluctant. Read some books about codependency or see a therapist (that really helped me), they even have online therapist…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 04:01 PM
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Beware of these man children. Dont be stupid like me. I KNEW better. I am the one who tells people to not be dumb fucking assholes. Im still feeling shitty and Im still feel bad and I still care, but FUCK HIM. 😂😂 I know exactly how you feel. Letting these hobosexuals turn us into their mommy. I never thought it would be me. I used to look at people like that with pity and disgust. But they are hella insidious. They dont depend on you all at once just gradually over time to the point that you fee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 03:01 PM
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My takeaway that changed my life is dating multiple men that you don’t really like physically, emotionally and intellectually guarantees poor results. And dating lots of them is a sad way to spend time because it creates core emotions that trigger cascades of fallout that just reinforces men are trash which is a self defeating attitude that will not change my results. THIS!.....you hit the nail on the head sis. SAVED!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 02:42 PM
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548 years I'm deadddd 😂😂. It's crazy that it's not that much of an exaggeration.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:16 PM
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Exactly! Block and delete is not for whole ass relationships. 😂😂 the logistics of that seem kind of hard to navigate. I'm sure even the lowest LVM would try to track down a fiancee that ghosted them. At least to get closure or more likely one last bang 😂😂😂. Good job queen! I'm so proud of you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 04:27 AM
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Thank you sis! And may I say I really enjoy your comments! They really resonate with me, I appreciate you sharing your experiences queen 🤗❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 01:20 AM
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😂😂😂😂😂 I'm deaddddd
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 09:24 PM
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😂😂😂 right!?!?! I love your username by the way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 09:23 PM
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😂😂😂 I remember your post. I honestly could not believe his audacity!! and your friends sound like how I I used to sound during my pickmeisha days. Making all sorts of excuses like: maybe he ran into car trouble? maybe he has a family emergency? etc. No wonder we get gas lit and undervalued when we start the relationship by giving them unearned benefit of the doubt. I was super proud of you when I read your post. And I'm not surprised this idiot reached out. Scrotes stay scroting 🤷🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 07:57 PM
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That is the sad sad truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 07:50 PM
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Oof. You hit me with a truth bomb sis. Thanks ❤🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 07:44 PM
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LOL hot pockets!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 06:34 PM
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I'm screamingggggggg at this!!!!!! I need this on a T-shirt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 06:32 PM
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smh disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 06:28 PM
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I used to be like this, I felt like I was abnormal to be honest. So I pushed myself to be more vulnerable. Unfortunately I opened up way too much, way too fast and to the wrong person to boot. Now I know that it's healthy to be somewhat wary and to have boundaries in place. People should earn your love over time. Keep seeking therapy and dating casually, I would advise against casual sex so that you don't continue the habit of separating sex and romantic love. Don't be too hard on yourself, at l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 06:25 PM
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You are welcome! I'm still learning too sis. Hypergamy is actually defined as: the action of marrying a person of a superior caste or class ie trying to "marry up".Red pillers want to make us feel bad for wanting more. But in our case as women of FDS who strive to level OURSELVES UP why would we not want to marry someone who has done the work and levelled up themselves? The problem is that these scrotes believe that we are "marrying up" when in actuality we are "marrying across" Queens marrying …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 06:07 PM
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What a disgusting loser. I'm so glad you are out of that mess and can spend all your energy on what actually matters: YOU and your kids. Thankfully you wont have him leeching the life from you any longer. I'm proud of you queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 05:53 PM
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LOL! THIS! THIS EXACTLY!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 05:50 PM
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I'm still working through my shame at allowing myself to be so mistreated. I needed to see this. Thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 05:43 PM
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Bye Felipe indeed! If his mental health is that bad he should understand that hes not able to maintain the standard that he himself set and let you go. Instead of treating you like shit and making you feel insecure. This is not what a high value person would do. When I'm going through a lot and cant handle dating I let the man know and disengage. That is what respect looks like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 05:25 PM
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Exactly! Didnt want to level himself up and ended up dragging her down emotionally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 05:20 PM
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They dont want to fix their problems. They think you're the answer to their problems but they dont realize its unrealistic to expect so much from another person. They are unwilling to do the work to level up and end up dragging you down instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 05:19 PM
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😂😂😂 I saved it too girl!. Helps me during the weak moments. Thankfully those moments are getting to be fewer and less frequent
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 05:10 PM
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No don't do it. There was a reason you stopped dealing with him before. He was unfulfilling to be with even in a FwB situation. That tells you all you need to know sis. Dont let this quarantine confusion and loneliness have you making stupid decisions that you'll regret. Take the energy and time that you would have spent on him and pick up a new hobby or interest. I've been learning how to use a sewing machine and it's really helped distract me from making stupid decisions like entertaining LVM …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 04:07 PM
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Yes!! I've watched Sam Vakin's videos and have come to pretty much the same conclusion. LVM (and ESPECIALLY) NVM want a mother/lover. Because of our nurturing nature we fall into this role unwittingly and later when we begin to resist they start pushing us away or neglecting us to force us back into the role they've assigned us. A HVW exits a relationship like this and moves on to someone better. That is hypergamy in a nutshell. But a pickmeisha values the relationship over her own self and begi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 03:46 PM
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I'm howling!!!!!!!😂😂😂 real talk though I only ended up here because I knew there was something wrong with my relationship and I was trying to figure out what it was. But I had to admit the problem existed before I was ready for FDS. I STAY preaching the gospel of FDS to my pickmeisha friends but a lot of them really are not ready yet. Hopefully they come to their senses and are able to benefit from FDS the way I have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 03:29 PM
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You're welcome sis! 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 04:04 AM
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Sounds like he is ego driven. Wanting only what he can't have. Seems like a disgusting and exhausting way to live but then again I'm thinking with my brain and not my nether regions. Which is a foreign concept to NVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 04:03 AM
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It makes no damn sense because it is clownery and confusion plain and simple. You were smart to go no contact. These dudes probably have a harem they need to maintain hence all the messiness. It's the only explanation I can think of 🤷🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 02:41 AM
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Awww that's so lovely to hear. I honestly feel the same way. Sisterhood is a beautiful thing especially when we uplift one another and hold each other accountable. I appreciate you queen! And I'm so glad you are here to share your experience and hard won wisdom with us. WHEN ONE OF US LEVELS UP WE ALL RISE!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 02:27 AM
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Look at this bullshit. They chase, chase, and chase and when they finally get a chance it's all lackluster performance, piss poor effort and zero follow-through. Smdh who needs the hassle? I'm really starting to get super comfortable living a single-by-choice life till I die. If I find a HVM then great, if not well then I'll spend the rest of my life trying to become the best HVW I can be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 02:22 AM
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Yep. That's why I blocked his ass. He may not have emotions but I do. And I'm not going to let him trigger them. I need to be vigilant until the feelings go away. And since my feelings weren't grounded in anything substantial like respect, consideration, or consistent affection It shouldn't take too long for them to dissipate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 01:45 AM
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You're so right. Its maddening how they call you the woman of their dreams and then toss you away so easily. That's how I knew it was all bullshit. I never thought he was the man of my dreams, I was settling for him big time. But I still treated him waaaay better than he treated me. I got to thinking 'if this is how he treats the so-called "woman of his dreams" I definitely dont want it'. He can keep that ish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 01:42 AM
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It's sad how easy it is to forget the poor treatment after enough time going no contact. That's why I write about it, so I dont end up gaslighting my damn self and over-romanticizing the good times. It's funny 98% of the time I'm soooooooo happy and satisfied and at peace with the decision but some days (like today) are hard for me. But I don't want to allow momentary feelings to put me in a permanently shitty situation going back to my ex. So I will stay NO CONTACT even if it's difficult someti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 11:24 PM
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Thanks sis! ❤🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 10:09 PM
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I knew he would keep breadcrumbing me like that so I lied and told him I was changing my email address and phone number. I just blocked him but but I figured he'd believe me when none of his messages went through. 🤷🏿‍♀️ I dont know why people do this either. If you break up with someone over concrete reasons then it doesnt make sense to me to reconnect unless you are ABSOLUTELY willing to address the issues that caused the break up in the first place. I can think of only one reason why men want …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 10:04 PM
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😂😂😂 emotional goldigger! That is so hilariously accurate! I'm definitely using this term from now on. Edit: Thanks sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 09:38 PM
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Yep. I took the bold route. Told him about my epiphany. He stonewalled. I said Goodbye. BLOCKED him and didn't look back. I was sad about it, not gonna lie but staying in that dead end situationship was wrecking havoc with my mental health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 07:37 AM
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😂😂😂😂 y'all are really killing me today with the comments
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 08:00 PM
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😂😂😂😂😂😂 I'm deaddd
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 07:57 PM
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😂😂😂😂💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 03:46 PM
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YES!! Birds of a feather flock together 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 03:43 PM
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Yup. That about sums up the situation 💯%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 08:40 AM
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Yes! We all saw that Ed was a sleezeball from a mile away and Ash was so LV masquerading as HV. I am skeptical of any dude posing as a relationship coach who is isnt married to be honest. But the real shocker was the bisexual girl with aplastic anemia (I forget her name). So controlling, boring, and yet just plain strange! (HOW?) She is a great example of a LVW imo. This was a great season though. No question about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 08:18 AM
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That was so satisfying to watch. God I love this trainwreck of a show 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 10:33 PM
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Naw I dont think you sounded cruel. OP dodged a huge bullet by not having a baby with this monster of a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 07:33 PM
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Please listen to this OP!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 07:28 PM
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Ohmygod this honestly sounds so terrible. This is definitely narcissistic abuse. Look up Dr. Ramani and educate yourself on your condition. It is the only way you'll be able to break free from the toxic push/pull of your relationship. You are still so young and have so much life ahead of you. But if you try to continue a relationship with him I GUARANTEE you'll end up a broken shell of a person. You can't imagine feeling worse than you do now but trust me there are always fresh levels of hell wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 07:24 PM
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😂😂😂😂😂 it's so pathetically obvious. Who do they think they're fooling? Must be themselves because everyone else can see straight through the bullshit. God, it must be a disability being this delusional. How can they even function in life? Its baffling 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 05:49 PM
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Its wild right!?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 04:18 PM
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No it was perfect. I wish I had seen it when I was growing up. This is the kind of wisdom that is hard won but should be freely available to young women. I hope some young ladies on FDS come across this post and that it inspires them the same way it validated me. Thank you so much for taking the time to write this out. You are awesome. 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 04:07 PM
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Wow. This sums up my experience perfectly. I'm in shock at how accurate this is. It feels like a more eloquent version of me wrote this 😂. I needed to see this. I probably will read it every day to be honest. It's so validating to see all the points laid out here so perfectly. I really appreciate this queen! Thank you ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 03:47 PM
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😂😂😂😂 lol I don't miss this shit. Lemme tell ya.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 03:32 PM
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I've been thinking about this a lot recently. All the mental gymnastics I did, constantly wondering if I was the problem. I'm realizing that towards the end I started giving back low effort because that's what I was getting. I also feel like I started getting mean and often disregarded his feelings because the frustration had built up and I was so angry and sad ALL THE TIME. I definitely took it out on him in a very passive aggressive manner. Which I felt guilty for. I kept thinking if I went ba…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 03:13 PM
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Yup sounds like you've got him all figured out. That's super LV behaviour. Dump the loser. You can do better queen! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 05:18 AM
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So I'm going to take the pragmatic approach and assume that you are only with him in order to procreate, which I think is completely valid if that is your primary desire. However his infertility means that you may never have children or that you waste child bearing years with him. Years that may be better spent looking for someone else. If you are unable to get the only thing you want from him (children) that would be truly tragic in my opinion. The cluster B issue is much more cut and dry. Life…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 12:40 AM
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Same sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 12:18 AM
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😂😂😂😂😂 this picture always kills me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 07:11 PM
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😂😂😂😂 ohmygod I'm howlingggg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 05:18 PM
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You definitely did the right thing! Well done! Sis.Trust me if youd stayed it wouldn't have been the same. You've lost the trust and the respect that is the foundation of any decent relationship. It is FAR better to be alone without a LVM than it is to be lonely with one. It is a special kind of agony to feel alone while you are in a relationship. I'm proud of you for ripping that band-aid off quick. It's a sharp pain that will go away faster than the deep ache of staying in a shitty relationshi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 04:21 PM
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👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 GOOD FOR YOU! the effort he makes to keep you should AT LEAST be the same effort he "won" you with. He really tried it by pulling a switcheroo like this. Smh. You did the right thing queen! Keep your standards high 👸🏿❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 10:34 PM
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Awww you're welcome ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 09:52 PM
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I feel you girl It's easy to become numb or callous after dealing with a narc. I'm glad you're in therapy, it definitely helped me! Guy 1 sounds like a friend that you can gain knowledge from and Guy 3 sounds like you're not missing much. I'm glad I helped give you some clarity! Keep staying the strong queen you are sis ❤ I admire you for seeking guidance and trying to figure things out for yourself. Total queen shit 👸🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 09:20 PM
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Guy 1: is he a LVM because he's ugly? Or does he exhibit low value traits? I think it is harsh to call a nice guy LV just because he is ugly. You are entitled to your preferences of course! But maybe I interpreted wrong? Is he ugly AND exhibits LV traits? In that case I would argue that he is NV 😂. Also It seems like meeting up once a year for lunch makes you friends. Does he act like more than a friend? I need more clarity on this in order to have an opinion. Guy 2: Definitely seems LV but you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 08:46 PM
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Wow, Bernadette Banner may be the coolest person alive. Thanks for the recommendation!❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 04:43 PM
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Thanks for the advice. I will be looking up these people immediately. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 03:11 PM
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These are all fair points 🤷🏿‍♀️ I for one, will make sure to stick to the FDS core principles. Uplifting women and empowering them to steer clear of NVM/LVM. Thank you for your input sis ❤ Ps. Just as some other people here have mentioned. A lot of our FDS sisters have recently left abusive relationships and are in the anger stage of grief. It'll pass and this is a safe space to vent. Just some perspective 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 04:32 AM
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Sis asked if he was alive. I'm done 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 11:34 PM
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That sounds hella reasonable thanks for your input queen! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 11:31 PM
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Preach sis 👏🏿👏🏿
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 11:30 PM
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I'm so happy that you found someone compatible and HV. It is what I wish we all eventually receive and is deep down all we want. Here at FDS the whole point is to be ok as we are and not to settle for LVM just because society tells us that "boys will be boys". Hell no. We actually expect MORE from them. We believe that loads of men out there are high value and that we should save our energy and love for THEM instead of entertaining LVM/NVM. I agree that some posts are needlessly toxic but I beli…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 07:10 PM
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I once matched with a guy who came on strong. Excellent conversation, smart, polite etc. We chatted every day for a week and then crickets for 5 DAYS. I unmatched him and the next day he messaged me asking why I had unmatched. I told him I figured he must not be interested since I hadn't heard from him in days 🤷🏿‍♀️ He was quick to explain how busy he'd been and apologized. I foolishly gave him the benefit of the doubt and we continued talking. A few days later he'd left me on read for a day or …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 05:45 PM
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👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 Bravo. I'm proud of you for taking the right lessons from this situation. I'm sure it was easier because you weren't in love. But an ego wound is not a small thing. Good job for not mistaking an ego wound for heartbreak and for trying to seek validation from someone who cant give it to you. You're correct: you are gorgeous, intelligent, and amazing already. You validated your damn self! Love to see it ❤ i was out of that mans league to begin w and tbh im offended he thought he had a chanc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 05:14 PM
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THIS! I wish I could upvote this a million times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:52 PM
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You are so right. Getting dumped by an LVM is such a gift. OP you should treasure that gift, it's probably the most valuable thing he is ever able to give you 😂 And remember he can't take anything from you that you don't willingly give him that includes self-respect. Re-adjust your crown queen ❤ and keep it pushing. You got this! 😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:48 PM
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After gathering data on this subject I have discovered that this is the exact right way to deal with OLD. Well done! I had to crowd source to find the answer you'd already figured out 😂 A+ Queen. Thank you for your response ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:34 PM
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Factssssss!! This is why I am convinced that some of them are trying to use it for validation. The most attractive men tend to respond quickly and the middling ones just want the validation often times. Maybe they are insecure or married or whatever I dont care. All I know is they aren't gonna get any further validation from my adorable face in their match list any longer! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:30 PM
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Lol I love it! I was giving them a week. But it seems like the general consensus is to allow 24 hours. Which is great, because it means I get to block an LVM even faster! 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:26 PM
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😂😂😂😂24 hours seems to be the general consensus! Thanks so much for your input! I love gathering data like this. It makes the search so impersonal and allows me to stay detached. 🤓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:21 PM
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LVM have such a hard time being consistent. It makes it more clear that they are wearing masks whenever they show us kindness. Otherwise how do they go from 0 to 180 multiple times in a day? Naw. Disagreements are normal in ANY relationship but gaslighting and disregarding your legitimate feelings is NOT ok. He is trying to train you to not bring up certain things and walk on egg shells. In a healthy relationship you should be able to go to the other person and respectfully discuss your concerns…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:18 PM
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They've taught us to cater to the Male Ego from day 1. We on this sub are all on this journey together sis. And it does feel good doesnt it? 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:08 PM
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Do not settle on the word of a man who wouldn't move suns to keep them from your eyes 🤧 that's so beautiful. Thanks for the good word Queen.❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:04 PM
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Lol I had to go through being super pickmeisha before I finally figured this out. I guess they say the best wisdom is hard won 😂 I kept seeing other people on FDS post against sending long texts or replying back and I'd disregard it. I honestly had to get to the point where my soul was WEARY I was so TIRED. I dont ever want to get to that point again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 03:51 PM
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Yes! I do IF as well most days of the week for about 16 hours but whenever I feel like I need to detox I do OMAD and I leave an eating window open of 1 hour. Maybe 1 and a half hours at the most. Generally because there is so little time to eat I have to focus on getting my vitamins, fiber, greens and proteins in so that leaves very little space for junk food which I LOVE. In order to survive I make sure I have a small chocolate or 1 decadent cookie 😍 most times I dont even have room in my stoma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 03:47 PM
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It's never too late to apply the principles. I was guilty of sending the paragraphs and essays too. But it never changed anything. Except for each time I felt like I lost a little more dignity. The instant I blocked and went NO CONTACT with him I felt my dignity come back all in one fell swoop. I'm shocked at how long I was able to live without a full tank of dignity. 😪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 03:40 PM
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I don't think you're being too gentle. You are following a logic that you are comfortable with and that makes sense to you. The most important thing (to me at least) is applying logic to these situations instead of just relying on emotion. Emotional decision making is something I know I have been guilty of doing in the past and am determined to steer clear of from now on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:52 AM
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This is exactly the approach that I have landed on after seeing everyone's posts and closely examining my own motivations. Thank you so much for your perspective! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:18 AM
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Insult to my eyes!!!!! I'm howling sis 😂😂😂😂😂😂 you are 100% correct. I shall do as I damn well please. 3-5 days is reasonable but I don't feel like being reasonable or accommodating any longer. I'm gonna cut em out after 24 hours. No more free validation from me. They can actually go out and accomplish something to bolster their self esteem and keep my cute profile pic out of it! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:17 AM
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Its less tricky for me because I get a better idea of who I'm blocking. For instance if the first message is boring and uninspired. It's easier for me to just unmatch if he hasn't responded within 3 days. Whereas when someone hasn't said ANYTHING my brain is left to fill in the possibility of someone amazing who maybe logged off the app for a WEEK or month (like I tend to do) and so hasn't gotten the notification. But I've decided to keep to a hard deadline. Why not? Harvard has one and I'm waaa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:13 AM
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That is EXACTLY what I was asking. I generally unmatch after 1 week if the man has not initiated after matching. You say to give it 3-5 days and another poster says to cut off after 24 hours. You seem to be the middle ground between our two extremes 😂 I suspected when I asked for advice that I was being too lenient with this particular standard and I am happy that my suspicions were correct. I have decided that since I achieve immense satisfaction from clearing out my inbox and not giving unwarr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 03:51 AM
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I love this ruthlessness 24 hours seems so bad ass. I NEVER initiate but I think from now on I will change my cut off to 24 hours. Most men who initiate and maintain a good level of communication usually initiate within the first 24 hours anyways.Thanks for the advice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 03:44 AM
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SAVED! I love these questions so much. So efficient 😍 so methodical 🤩 so practical 😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 03:41 AM
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That is a great in-between solution! I've just realized another reason why I want to unmatch. I think a lot of people use the apps to validate themselves. The idea that I'm validating a lazy man in ANY WAY however small really irritates me at a subconscious level 😂 and I only JUST realized this is why. Quite honestly this group is therapy for me. I'm learning so much and I'm super surprised by how much I'm learning about my own motivations as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 03:33 AM
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Totally agree. As God is my witness I will NEVER initiate first 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 03:04 AM
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Lol because it feels like an inbox filled with unread emails 😭😂. But I feel you sis. I'm just gonna unmatch after a week. I like the look of a clean uncluttered inbox 🤓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 03:03 AM
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No! Don't feel bad. You were so right to bring my attention to the fact that there are so many things that I can be doing instead of cluttering up my thoughts with men. In fact the only reason I took up sewing was because of FDS. You ladies encouraged leveling up in other aspects of life to avoid falling into pickmeisha ways. During the past 2 months I am proud to say I also completed an online continuing education course. Got my budget and finances in order, kept fit, and caught up on all my pa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 02:59 AM
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Thank you so much! I am still actively looking for a partner because I dont want to look back and regret not making a sincere attempt. But i also dont want to look back and regret that I settled. All the while I'm keeping the perspective that I am enough all on my own and that a HVM is simply extra icing on the cake that is ME 😂👸🏿😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 02:52 AM
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This is so true! Especially since I'm seeing a lot more single men who own multiple cats. Somehow a woman is crazy for having a bunch of cats but a man is just considered sensitive?? I'm not an animal person AT ALL but I recognize that pets are a wonderful source of companionship for some people and are excellent recipients of our natural human tendency to nurture. To shame that is so vile and disgusting. The fact that women have borne the brunt of this prejudice is even more disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 02:49 AM
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Yes!!!!!!!!!!! I see so many beautiful 50+ women meanwhile an attractive 50+ man is still shocking to behold. How have they managed to gaslight us into believing the opposite?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 02:43 AM
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It really is that simple isnt it? Do whatever feels right to me. I guess my methodical science based background is too in love with structure and order. Thanks for your perspective! Ps. I've been learning how to sew simple garments since quarantine has started. But everytime I encounter a difficulty I've been using OLD as a distraction. I guess the need for control has spilled over from the sewing to OLD 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 02:39 AM
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Aww thanks sis! 🤗❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 02:26 AM
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Hijack away! The other posters are 100% correct. Grey rock is key for protecting your mental energy. Minimize all contact with him that is not strictly necessary and make sure all contact is scheduled so that he doesnt disrupt your energy out of the blue. Im assuming that this is a grown ass man. He should already know that he needs to take care of his child and that he needs to respect you. It's not your job to teach him morals. You have a child who IS your responsibility save your energy for h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 02:01 AM
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😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 you're killing me sis!!!!!! These dudes really wanna sit at home and be a trophy husband!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 01:45 AM
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well....a lot of men think they are doing you a favour by not making their cheating obv/ abusing you....so they think they're a HVM just for acting like a decent human (for a while) THIS! the bar was so low that the fact that he wasnt actively beating me or belittling me was PLUS instead of being a bare minimum trait. Smh. Good riddance indeed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 01:42 AM
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He should be actively trying to see you more often. I understand if his first relationship has him unsure but he shouldn't be stringing you along. Or bringing up his ex to you. Unless it is his way of telling you that hes not ready for anything serious right now. Ask him point blank. But whatever his answer is. Take an emotional inventory and see if it feels alright to YOU. At the end of the day if he makes you feel unsure. It's a hell no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 01:08 AM
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Awww you are so sweet. I love it! I think looks are not the most important thing but I love getting beauty secrets myself 😂. One of my secrets is that I use the plant derived squalene (from the ordinary) on my face everyday and it really helps my dry skin look dewy and plump. Also I did OMAD (one meal a day) for 2.5 months last year and lost 20 pounds. Its been great because a bunch of health issues resolved afterwards (acid reflux, IBS, knee pain etc). Hope that helps you or someone you may kno…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 12:56 AM
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Actually let me clarify. I've never settled for ugly AND broke. Usually handsome and broke or ugly and well off. I've warned family to perform an exorcism if there ever comes a time when I'm settling for an UGLY AND BROKE man. Ive told them that demonic possession is the ONLY explanation. I am not kidding btw. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 12:50 AM
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😂😂😂😂😂😂 sis you really cut the societal expectations into ribbons EVERY TIME! And I love it! 🤭You're so right! The nice guy act always slips when they get comfortable. I can be positive and say I want a HVM to be a lifelong supportive partner. Or I can be negative and say that if all men are gonna end up cheating losers I might as well start off with someone who looks good, exhibits FDS traits, and has money🤷🏿‍♀️ Either way I'm not never gonna settle for ugly broke LVM ever again. 🙅🏿‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 12:47 AM
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Thank you so much! I'm definitely going to incorporate everything you told me into my self care routine (except the derma-blading I've always been scared to try that). I had no idea about the zinc until you mentioned it and I looked it up. I'm super excited to try it. Thanks again!❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 12:27 AM
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My God. I always thought it was laziness. The idea that they are actively playing a role was something I thought only narcissists did. I'm learning something every day and it's both depressing and empowering 😂 thank you so much for your input!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 12:19 AM
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Well done. If you approach OLD ruthlessly like this it can be as easy as the trash taking themselves out. He doesnt know you, you're not dating. He seems like someone to test boundaries and then blame you for being sensitive. Naw, forget that. Keep doing your queen shit. I'm proud of you for establishing boundaries so quickly. I will say that OLD is a wasteland and you may find 1 decent man out of 100. But you'll never get there letting LVM distract you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 11:57 PM
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Preach sister! 👏🏿👏🏿 on another note, what are you using to achieve such abnormally smooth skin. I need your secrets 😂🧐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 11:48 PM
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❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 11:41 PM
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Ha! I used to think that people with low self esteem could never be narcissists and I found out that it is one of the main diagnostic criteria! Dr. Ramani put me on game. Bless her. Check her out on YouTube. I'm proud of you for getting out! ❤👸🏿 stay strong queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 11:30 PM
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I needed to hear this honestly. Especially the bit about triangulating to inflate their perceived worth. He always talked about how he did everything for his exes. It was nothing I saw with my own eyes. After awhile I started to think that they must be better than me for him to do all that for them. But I understand now that he was just triangulating and raising his perceived worth. I seriously doubt he ever behaved any better with them than he did with me. It's sad they have to resort to mind g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 11:25 PM
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😂😂😂😂😂😂 the audacity is astounding. Absolutely no effort RE: profile pictures, or grooming or with GRAMMER. He WROTE "I love sexs" !!!!!!😂😂😂😂😂 At least I got a good laugh out of this. 🤧
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 11:09 PM
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I think 2 months is enough time to know if you like someone enough to pursue a relationship or not. And mentioning his ex seem needlessly cruel. At best he is emotionally stupid, at worst he is a triangulating narcissist. Either way he's no good to you. Dump him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 10:35 PM
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MY GOD right? The idea that there are LVM ignoring the women in their OWN BED is so strange to me. The idea that they can go from active pursuit to such disregard is disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 10:14 PM
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Lets play devils advocate and believe for a minute that he finds the TIK TOK videos funny and isn't just ogling half naked women (lol, yeah right). He still gaslit you and disregarded your very reasonable concerns. He could have been a real man and reassured you right then and there. Cuddled you and made you feel seen and heard. Instead he decides to be a big baby and go on the couch to punish you for expressing your opinions. Even worse, he allowed you to drive home in the middle of a riot in t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 10:12 PM
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Aww I'm glad sis ❤ I'm proud of you for dumping his ass ( I'm sure was difficult). The hardest part is over with, now just stick to your guns. You got this sis 😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 09:54 PM
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😂😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 09:46 PM
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She sounds like a narcissist. They triangulate and start smear campaigns against all their exes. Just to turn around and start the love bombing all over again weeks, months, or years down the line. You need to go NO CONTACT. Its the only way to be free of the manipulation. You are strong and worth much more than this ❤🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 09:46 PM
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Oh man. I'm sorry you're in such a rough situation. I encourage you to spend all the time you would be ruminating on here instead. Vent to us gals but if thats too public my DMs are open. As a recovering pickmeisha I can confirm that it is extremely hard to be on this sub and not level up to some degree 😂. You'll be okay sis 🤗❤ you got this 😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 09:43 PM
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What a loser. We all have preferences but there are better ways to get an idea of how someone looks. And if it was THAT important to him he should have tried to get that information earlier on. Instead of investing time trying to convince a woman he might not want to date him. Smh some men are so dumb. Imagine wasting your time like this. No wonder they are so rude. They must be perpetually angry at themselves for following their pee pees into unnecessarily stressful situations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 09:11 PM
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IT IS ALWAYS BETTER NOT TO REPLY! Men love to feign ignorance. When they first start courting us they usually have excellent communication skills. Are hella considerate and dont have a problem interpreting our non-verbal cues. SO HOW DOES IT GET TO THE POINT THAT WE NEED TO EXPLAIN WITH PARAGRAPHS AND ESSAYS LATER ON? Did they become deaf, dumb, blind or dyslexic as soon as they "won" us? No, they know what they are doing. They just dont care. And the best thing we can do is reciprocate the feel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 08:13 PM
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You're welcome sis! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 08:00 PM
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EXACTLY! I couldnt have said it better 😭😭😭 I'm so proud of you! Your self actualization is bringing tears to my eyes, honestly. And inspiring me in turn. ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 07:56 PM
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You are so welcome. I'm glad my experiences can help someone. At least it was good for something.😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 07:51 PM
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We are all victims of our own arrogance at some point in our lives. This is why entertaining NVM/LVM is so dangerous. We may think we wre above "catching feelings" and maintaining superiority. But we arent psychopaths, we are able to love despite flaws. We must maintain our standards to avoid falling into the black hole that is a LVM/NVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 06:58 PM
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Be careful sometimes they reach out and are still the same person still living that loser lifestyle. So even if he reaches out it's not a guarantee of any change on his part. It would take a massive mental shift to change his current life. It is unlikely to happen any time soon. More likely to happen gradually over time, if it ever does happen. Stay strong and stay away ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 06:56 PM
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You are 100% correct. He could be playing a game. Only time will tell. But he gets to keep being blessed with the pleasure of your company for however long he keeps up with YOUR standards. We don't know how anyone may change or any of their true motivations. All we can do is know our own worth and what kind of treatment we are willing to accept NOW. You will be fine with our without this man because you are a whole person all on your own. You are allowing him access to you because he is treating…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 06:25 PM
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I'm sending you all my strength sis! Hope you can feel it through the screen 🤗😂. You will need all your strength for these 2 reasons: The sunk cost fallacy. You've invested in this man financially. It can be hard to walk away when we invest in someone. But real talk, you are one of the lucky ones. It may not seem like it but $3000 is a cheap lesson. Some people take decades, and kids and illness to learn the lesson you got for $3,000. Take your win and GO. This man managed to get you to help sup…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 06:13 PM
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Pickmeisha Well! 💀It's a wishing well for sure! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 05:56 PM
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I think they bank on the fact that we want closure and thereby extend their hold on us by not giving us any. Have you ever noticed that healthy people have no problem with boundaries and explaining why the relationship is not working? And they are able to close the door on a relationship without breadcrumbing or denying closure. Think about it. They deny us the thing we want which is clarity and understanding because they know it'll be harder for us to severe ties with them without it. But we do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 05:45 PM
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My condolences on the loss of your son. And my congratulations on the loss of the NVM. I am so proud of how strong you must be to let go of someone who while not actively malignant was not a true partner and source of peace. I'm proud of you for knowing your worth and seeking better. It is hard leaving someone who likely had some good qualities (you wouldnt have stayed so long if it was all bad). But to realize that familiarity is not an adequate substitute for a real partnership is sometimes th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 05:28 PM
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😂😂😂😂😂 this is hilarious. I really enjoyed reading your story. Thank you so much. I dont understand why these men dont put more effort in, when they are clearly working with so much less? 🤔 I know it's not our job to psychoanalyze and make excuses but I find their self sabotage fascinating to be honest. Like watching a train wreck and being unable to look away. They are low effort and often unattractive and then they get upset when a "Chad" or whatever comes along who looks better and puts in a h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 05:15 PM
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Thank you sis! When one of us raises her standards we raise them for all women! Hopefully future generations of women won't have to deal with as much nonsense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 05:03 PM
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Growing up I had the mindset that it was better being happy alone than miserable with some LVM. Then the fear of being crazy cat lady (minus the cats) set in for me. The fear was strong enough to lower my standards for the most NVM in existance which while terrible has at least reboot me back to factory setting, lol. It is far better to be alone than lonely with a LVM/NVM!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 04:58 PM
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My block list exploded during COVID as well 😂😂 I love blocking LVM. It gives me such a high not gonna lie. It feels so productive, exactly like cleaning house and taking out the trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 04:31 PM
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I'm proud of you queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 04:29 PM
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One of my motivations on my FDS journey is to be a good example to my sisters (both my biological sisters and for my sisters on this sub and on this earth). I will for sure report back on all aspects of my search that I feel will help my sisters arm themselves with knowledge. If I eventually find the one I will happily announce it but honestly I'm finally realizing that I am a whole complete person already and I'm pretty darn pleased with myself 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 04:26 PM
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<Plus men you settle for, often get very controlling, claustrophobic, insecure & get temper issues/ paranoia....or they start getting up themselves. Yes! Perfectly put! I've definitely noticed that with me they either get extremely insecure or start feeling full of themselves because they feel that I've validated them by giving them the time of day. I'm much more susceptible to the soft covert narc tactics rather than the malignant hypercontrolling angry man. I've come to realize that the soft t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 04:19 PM
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Even the ugliest broke negative value manchildren have a hypergamous mindset of trying to get the most attractive sweet woman possible even if they are way out of their league THIS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 04:05 PM
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Yes! They treat us worse because they have contempt for us! I honestly believe they are low key or subconsciously disgusted that we would accept so little.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 02:38 AM
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Exactly! They never value us when we lower our standards. I always thought they would treasure us more and try to rise to our level (in looks, education, career, or whatever else they were lacking). In fact I suspect they have contempt for us whenever we do lower our standards for them and end up treating us worse because of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 02:35 AM
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Ick. I'm sorry you had to go through that with this loser. He sounds like a covert narcissit to me. Love bombing, making everything about him, inability to reciprocate the care you give him, abandoning you when you need him. You dodged a bullet sis. Its gonna be hard to realize it because when they are good, they are great and those moments give us amnesia. But by writing it all down and revisiting your words you can make sure not to gaslight yourself and remember everything properly to keep fro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 02:30 AM
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SAME ❤❤
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