I posted about 3 weeks ago about a guy I was seeing asking for sexy pics to “help him out” while he was away for a month. He was due to come home in a week but still asked me. We had never even sexted so it was a weird request (we had been intimate before he left to go away).

I finally messaged him to end it. I have actually met someone else, and I wanted to let him down gently but also mention the pics, so I just said that I have too much going on atm (which is true, he knows that), and that the pics thing wasn’t my kinda thing, and that maybe in future if we are both single and I’ve sorted things out, then we would catch up again... I wanted to point out the pics thing but also spare his ego.

He asked if the pics thing really bothered me that much. I said yes, it came out of nowhere and made me feel cheap. That I’m always unsure when guys ask that especially if not in a relationship, and the trust hasn’t been built up (we only saw each other for 3 weeks before he went away).

He also said he figured I wasn’t interested as I never texted him, he was always chasing me. This is true, I don’t text guys first usually. Occasionally I did with him, but usually not until I’m in a relationship do I text first. To be fair, I don’t text anyone much - which is the truth, and I explained that too. I also said sorry I gave him the impression I wasnt interested, because I was... again, I was trying to be nice.

He then got angry with me, said I was being harsh regarding the pics thing, and that it was just a cheeky request because I’m an attractive girl. That I could’ve just told him to F-off.

Not once did he apologise.

He then said he felt like a creep and a stalker.

I just responded with “nah, it’s not harsh. It’s a boundary. I also told you I had a lot going on which is why i don’t want to deal with dating, especially with someone who doesn’t want to see my point of view. You could’ve told me you wanted me to text more, it goes both ways” - (seeing as tho I was supposed to explain my feelings about the pics).

Guess it shows that guys who ask for pics really are disrespectful. This guy wants marriage and kids and is super handsome and really good on paper... but yet can’t even apologise for offending me?

As soon as I take responsibility for something (saying sorry he got the impression I wasn’t interested), then he takes that as a weakness and tries to trample me down further!

This guy also had made grand gestures to give me all this money and help to pay my bills etc. I feel like he was trying too hard to make up for asking for pics and seem like a good guy. Because after the pics request was when I initially went cold.

So, guess the trash takes itself out! Bub-bye!