I recently had a bit of a falling out with someone. We met one night and he started taking me on dates. He would come to my place with popcorn, Lord of the Rings, wine and we had a great time. He would cuddle me right away and it felt a bit uncomfortable because I’m not that kind of person. Overtime we became closer and I would be over a lot, sometimes just to spend time together, he came with me to my company Christmas party. Recently, my co worker came into my work room and asked me where him and I stood. I said we were doing well and it was really nice. She proceeded to show me how she found him on tinder with brand new photos: one of which I was present for. My heart sank, and my emotions took a tail spin. My self worth dropped. I discussed it with him and he suddenly said he just wanted to be friends and that he thought about it two months back but wanted to avoid conflict and that he wants just friendship because he “ruins things”. He just said whatever seemed like I wanted to hear. I was beyond confused because the night before he had been hugging and kissing me goodbye. He had even said a few days prior that he couldn’t sleep without me there. He wasn’t even that interested in sex. I wasn’t trying to be involved with anyone in the first place, but I thought he really did like me. He said he wants to be friends but has stopped contacting me as much which he used to do every single day. So I just felt used and lied to. I’ve learned I need to set boundaries by establishing what the situation is. And not be upset at myself for getting upset. What I went through was not okay and I’ve developed chest pains from anxiety (there has been a lot going on already). This has shown me I need to place boundaries because my health isn’t worth the people who hurt me.