I’m Having a Hard Time Navigating Dating

ManchurianCantaloupe · 2020-06-18T16:28:57+00:00

Speaking as another girl who was pegged as "emotionally mature" at your age... You should absolutely not date someone that much older than you.

The only older men that will date someone your age are stunted and controlling. It doesn't matter how "emotionally mature" you are for your age, there will always be a power imbalance. You're still at different levels of life experience that there is just no replacement for.

Date people your own age. Just don't take it too seriously yet.

Fatt3stAveng3r · 2020-06-18T16:56:06+00:00

If I could do it all over again at your age (I'm 30 now), I wouldn't date at all. I would focus on myself. I would advance my career. None of the guys I met when I was 18-25 were worth my time, my energy, my youth. You are literally not missing anything if you don't date right now.

Be selfish! Travel the world.

ldonnawho · 2020-06-18T16:00:47+00:00

I don't think experimenting is a bad idea...but experimenting without protecting yourself is. I don't think you should focus on long term relationships just yet; I think you should focus on becoming a HVW by the time you hit 21. That means having your education, self care & other aspects of your life together to the point that it will attract older (slightly) more long-term oriented men.

The main problem with trying to get into a relationship with any man in his 20s right now is that they'll most likely be predatory and treat you as a kid even if you are emotionally mature

Title	I’m Having a Hard Time Navigating Dating
Author	nonsequitdurr
Upvotes	7
Comments	4
Date	June 18, 2020 1:39 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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