I am 9 months single, 31F... all my past relationships and situationships were met IRL. I have a tendency to bounce back from most of my relationships with minor setbacks because though I am hopeful that this one might be the ONE everytime... I still, sabotage & run. I have never been in love but it is time for me to change that. Quarantine has really helped me flourish. I have done a lot of journaling, virtual counseling, meditating and praying. I learned some of my toxic traits and I realized that I want to do 100% better. I may have been optimistic with all my dead-end relationships just to fill a void but this cant continue and I really dont want to waste anymore time.

Last week, I decided to try online dating. I last tried OLD 4/5 years ago. I lasted about a month on tinder and never gave dating apps another try until now. I just cannot handle low effort guys who can’t message back because it’s a numbers game to them. I also will not and can't go bed to bed in between sheets.

So I created my dating profile and I made sure to note that I am looking for a long-term relationship. 24-hours later and I have matched with one particular guy that I placed on the top of my list from night one on the site. He has been consistent, he is funny, he has been positive, and vulnerable. We are now offline texting and FaceTiming.

Yesterday... he finally said it. He said I would love to see you... Can I meet you? However, Our state is still quarantined.

My question ... is it okay to accept as a first date dinner for two at his place prepared by a chef. I still live at home with my sister, cousin & grandmother. He doesn’t and also only lives about 30 mins away. He left the day up to me to decide. Of course he is a nice guy and sweet but it’s only been one week. I do feel comfortable and confident that he truly is a regular nice guy. Again I am shamelessly optimistic and do believe I did attract the right partner for me hopefully with the right intentions. I also googled him and searched him on LinkedIn. I’ve been lurking on FDS and I’ve taken a lot of notes. Not to get too attached, that’s an easy one for me. To stay busy, also an easy one for me but is this crazy, too much of a no-no? Should I set some boundaries or ask some specific questions now ?