Hi ladies! Just came across this sub recently and thought this would be a good place to ask for advice, as I really agree with some overall themes I’ve seen here such as setting the right expectations early and allowing the man to chase and win you over.

So I’ve never been in a scenario like this before, would love some input :) I (28F) met him (28M) about a week ago. He was here visiting, lives abroad and his plan is to move to my city eventually (next year or so). We had an incredible date together and have been keeping in touch. I’m certainly not putting all my eggs in this basket since a. he may not ever end up moving here and b. I’m not wanting to enter a relationship having it start as long distance but I definitely would like to keep in touch. We’ve made it clear we are both into each other and would like to stay in contact and he’s talked about coming back here at some point in the next few months too.

What I’m not sure I’m digging is how the texting has been. We’ve been sending long multi part texts which started at once a day (as opposed to a quick back and forth. More email like) and I was into that but his responses have gotten slower. The last response from him was after two days, I responded the next day and now it’s been 2 days since that and nothing yet. That dynamic feels weird to me and I’m not sure how to handle it or if I am overthinking it.

Now I know I can’t expect too much as we are not even dating and we don’t even live in the same town, but I don’t want to get myself in a situation where he won’t value me because he sees he can put in less and less and still keep my interest.

Would love to hear any thoughts on this!