Most of the guys I met on online dating apps and I used Tinder, coffee meets bagel and the league. They seem like they’re well off and have lot of things going on in life but they weren’t. I live in nyc so I had chances to meet all kinds of guys. It came at a huge cost but now I can recognize guys very easily. One thing I noticed was almost 90 percent of the guys had flaws in their character. Looks is the secondary issue. I knew then that If I knew them in real life through friends or work, id never date them. Bc if I knew then in real life I’d be able to spot the red flags immediately.

And I don’t ever date a guy who have unstable fragile ego. It just won’t work with me. Do you know what kind of guy puts you down and negs you the most ?

Guys who have insecurity and low self esteem. Now I’m starting to wonder if dating is worth it at all. After severe abuse from my ex, I improved greatly as a person and my social intelligence shot up but then I started to have doubts if dating is worth it with emotional consumption. Is it worth wondering, spending time gossiping or hating a guy ?

I love reading things on FDS but sometimes I don’t like reading all the hate towards men. Bc its just negative energy.

I know as women, we’re told to find worth in becoming a wife and child bearer. But it just too costly and so much burden. Personally I hate to say this but if I had a child with my ex whom I don’t have good experiences with, I’d hate to see the child also. That’s when I started to have doubts or having a child also.

I feel like if you’re financially and emotionally mature and stable, Being single is the ultimate upper hand.