“do you wanna come home with me?”

105 points•72 comments•submitted by tj719 to r/dating

So here’s the situation that a lot of girls go through. Guys wanting you to come back home with them on the first date. I do not blame a guy for trying or girls that go home with them, however it’s just not something I’m inclined to do. My brain just isn’t wired to have sex without feelings, at least at this point of my life.

I went out with this guy and two hours into the date said let’s go back to his place and I respectfully declined but said I still would like to hang out, he said the usual “oh we don’t have to do anything” again I declined and we hung out for like two hours after that and all was well. We hung out a couple days later (during the work week) and he wanted me to go back again and I did have a discussion with him that I just am a little more conservative and he said that he respected that. However I have not heard back from him since then. I knew he was into me so I can’t help but think it’s based solely on that. I understand that people want casual but I made it clear before we even met up (online dating) that I wasn’t the casual type.

This isn’t the first time. I’m known for having a rather vulgar mouth and I am pretty raunchy which I think can be misconstrued as very sexual. Another guy recently made a big deal when I said I wasn’t interested in going home with him yet.

Reddit how do you handle situations like this?