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In my pickmeisha days, I rationalized staying in relationships and situationships with LVM \"because he loves me\" and/or \"because I love him.\" We are indoctrinated into believing that love trumps all and that it's admirable to put love above all else. The truth is that love-- whether sincerely felt or disingenuously professed-- is NOT ENOUGH unless it's accompanied by consistently respectful treatment and reciprocal effort/investment. Men know that saying that they love you (or similar romantic statements) will get them far, and it's extremely easy for them to do. Even if they do feel genuine love for you, it doesn't mean they have the maturity to treat you well. Stay vigilant.