Inspired by mod posts a while back, i thought it would do good to have the reminder served time to time given the rapid influx of new members in the sub.

Venting and anger definitely plays an elemental role in the long and arduous journey that is called healing-- for those are your self-preserving instincts that wants nothing but the best for you, but staying unhealthily put in that zone for an extended period is nothing short of detrimental and fruitless. Moving past it requires rigorous amounts of self-reflection and growth, things that are required of from a HVW. Placing yourself in a position where you're in the driver's seat of your life that attains you maximum opportunities and growth for yourself and thus, a sense of genuine happiness & self-love is empowering; endlessly stewing in self-pity and hatred is not.

There are also wide varying posts that are cherrypicked from PUA/TRP circles or from subreddits where you're bound to come across lvms (the low-hanging fruits) which instead of sparking an honest discussion about setting boundaries and employing better strategies turns into something else entirely instilling a false sense of paranoia in place of healthy skepticism. LVM-bashing has its place so as long as our contempt and scorn is saved for more constructive purposes. Going into places where lvms already happen to be in bountiful numbers does nothing but warp your and everyone's worldview since they don't represent the large majority.

We know scummy lvms exist in spades; the ultimate goal is to steer clear from them AND levelling up into the best and most authentic version of you there is with only your circle of HVM and HVWs making the cut. I'd like to place emphasis on the latter part since many sisters here stay hung up on the former, you have to be able to reach a point where said lvms/lvws only register in your head as a mere blip-- to be instantly flicked away like you would a piece of lint without any second thoughts. That only comes when you work at enforcing your boundaries in the real world, which gets easy the more you bring it into practice.

The point I'm getting at is this: HVMs, just like HVWs happen to be smaller in number, avoiding lvms/lvws is just one half of the equation. And as for the other like u/theOJjammies said, you shouldn't just be waiting for them to fall into your lap and instead take on a more proactive approach.

peace!