First off, I wanna say I LOOOOOOOVE all of these rings y'all are buying! Gorgeous, my Queens!

As I sit here in my own place after leaving my husband last year, I think about my engagement ring. I went out and specifically picked several options at various stores, took pics, got all the info. I know, I know.

After I did all of this (and had a great time with my bestie while doing it), what does my NVM do? Tells me why he doesn't like any of them. So we go to the store together to try to agree on a ring.

Years later, here I am, thinking, what the actual fuck? I was willing to marry him and did all that work and he decided MY choices for MY ring weren't good enough? My foolish butt thought that since he was buying it he should have input on what it looked like. Fuck. That. Noise. He should've respected me enough to respect my choices and thrilled that I was willing to spend my life with him and just fucking buy me my ring.

Currently enjoying a quiet evening with my cats, wishing I could slap some sense into my younger self. Don't be the old me, don't be afraid to be alone, don't assume you will be whole and happy with your "other half". Take care of you, work on yourself, be proud of you. And if you don't feel that way, look around and cut out the toxic people who are bringing you down. It's peaceful without them ❤️