Hey Ladies! Just want to encourage y’all here! I hope that’s the right flare. I want encourage you that there are good men out there for us, and to say a few things that have been on my mind.

Im one that won’t have sex with a man until we are married. I believe that if two people truly love each other they can wait until they are fully committed and the women is protected (by law at least, but also by vows and witness) before being sexually intimate. I’m also a Christian and this is what the Bible tells us. I think in these modern times some of the things in the Bible are overlooked as repressing to women when they are actually for our good. Such as no sex before marriage, it protects us from men who would just use us for sex, spreading disease from women to women, and pregnancy (both of which a lot easier to prevent in the time we live in!) Now I’m not saying everyone has to do it my way, I’m just saying what I believe is best for me.

I have three good men in my life. My dad, my brother and my cousins husband. If I met a man as good as any them I’d would consider myself extremely, extremely lucky.

The 34th year of their marriage my parents just entered in to is amazing. I honest don’t know anyone who has as good a marriage as they do. And it scares me a little, how can I possibly have as good a marriage as they do? They are totally devoted to each other, my father is a gentleman is the truest way if the word. They treat each other as equals and communicate with each other so well. They of course have misunderstandings, but in my 31 years of life I have NEVER once seen them actually fight, my father has never yelled at my mom, not once.

I think the way my brother turned out is a testament of my dad and mom’s marriage. He’s like my dad in the way he treats women, in fact I know anyone of you would say yes to dating him, he mets all the right criteria.

And my cousin husband is like them as well, I’m so very happy she met such a good man, she deserves the best and I can honestly and fully say that he is. She’s a good example of waiting to find a good man and not settling for a lesser one. He gets her flowers every week which she loves, he opens all doors for her, he always pairs for everything when they were dating, he cleans the house on the weekends, and does half the work with the baby they just had. He cooks too. Things every man should do with the women he married and had a baby with. They work things out together, they are true partners, who work together in life with a common goal for their future.

So I’m here to say that there are good men out there, and none of us should settle for anything less then the best for us.