I don't like using terms like toxic masculinity or toxic femininity but I just wanted to share an incident and point out something that a lot of Women do but we consider it as ok.

I study in a government funded college and hence there are many people with disabilities in my College. Once I had to get a blind guy to his class. This was the first I ever had such an experience and it happened randomly when his parents just requested me to do it.

So I took him to his class even though I had difficulty finding it and I let him enter through the back door of the class and I didn't want to enter myself since there was a professor already teaching there. There were some girls sitting there and there was space to behind or by the side of girls, so I thought they will just allow him to sit there or those girls will just guide him to any bench. Those girls were sitting very near to the door and I thought they will easily help him.

Here I'd like to mention that never leave a blind person's hand in such a unknowing or unstable position, I only realised later, how he must have felt when I suddenly left his hand, hoping that those girls will guide him later. Imagine you're blind and you're just left in a space with no point of reference, that must make you get anxiety attacks.

Anyway the girls didn't even touch this guy? The guy looked kinda poor or a bit lower middle class I guess but these girls weren't even touching this guy and were just sitting there even though I have made it pretty clear with my body language and my looks on them that I expect them to take over helping that guy now. Those girls just said "make him sit in the front over there". So I had to come into the class and guide him towards the first bench, far away from those girls. Now these girls might not be cunts, but it's kind of a problem in our society that we teach women that they are entitled to have the option of not helping any Man. Yes you're entitled to that but its not ok to be like that. And generally men are told to give their life up for women. All of this is besides the point.

As a really neuro divergent person myself who can't even have real expressions on my face. I have always felt discrimination by girls in my immediate area. As I slowly developed and trained myself in pretending to be "normal", I have been treated much better. But when I was just a depressed and ugly looking kid who could barely talk normally or socialize, I was shunned brutally or looked at weirdly many times. Men have also done shit with me obviously, but they never Boycotted me or made me feel like a weirdo.

Men with real autism are treated much much worse compared to Women with autism. And if it isn't obvious that they have autism, Women might creepshame them into social death. Even when I look at toxic communities like Incels, I notice that many of them are mentally ill and their hate for women comes from personal experiences like these were they're discriminated, Boycotted or treated like a creep. Another thing is that Women often associate or date people who endorse (dare I say this word) Toxic masculinity. A lot of the men who bullied these neuro divergent kids also had great girlfriends, this is another part of toxic femininity I'd like to adress : promoting toxic masculinity. Idk why toxic characteristics demonstrated by men are rewarded by some women with intimacy.

And this is not just a problem that men face from Women. My girlfriend is also pretty neuro divergent and she had many qualities of being a "nerd" Or a "geek". Neuro divergense is more rare among men because of faster developing social brains/puberty and better support systems but some or many women do go through bad childhood like many boys. So she was always shamed for liking geeky stuff like Anime for example. In my country back then, anime was seen as some cartoon stuff that weirdos watch. She also used to play video games and the girls around her would often make her feel weird for playing video games. She also had a bad time learning about make up or how to dress up and her parents never really let her wear those revealing clothes and hence she was judged pretty harshly by all the Women around her. So being socially unaware or socially weak is seen as a big problem by many women.

Recently during the recent article being spread about Men being more single and lonely, there were many girls who were being openly albeist. Literally calling "socially inept" Men as Manchild or creepy. One feminist just openly tweeted that every social media or dating accounts of men should have 3-4 females vouching or mentioning that he isn't a socially challenged creep. This is like a feminist social credit system which we already kinda practice in our society.

Not all women are like this ofc, most women I believe will help a blind guy out. I think this guy was also boycotted for his class (especially in India attitudes of Toxic women towards men change according to their caste and class). They justify women not touching men or having a distant attitude towards and maintaining distance from them like they're some out caste race as a way to "avoid sexual assault" but this guy was literally blind. We do need to address this problem.