Today my FB/FWB "dumped" me over text because she got the feels, and she can't continue doing this anymore.

Experience is the polar opposite of naiveté. I've been doing the FB/FWB for a while now, and it always ends because she gets the feels.

At the beginning I was doing the Friends part + the benefits part, you know the sex, but also the occasional event, movie, dining out etc....

Well, they got the feels and it was my fault because we did things together so it was my fault that I lead her on.

Ok, lesson learned. The next FB/FWB(s) it was just sex and then at times we hang out, watched movies, eat something (at my place) and never did anything outside. Here again, they got the feels and it was my fault since we did things together and she slept over so I lead them on.

Ok, lesson learned, 3 months ago, after the latest disaster, I got a new FB/FWB and we just had sex. Booty calls, no scheduling, no sleepover, no watching TV, no eating any type of food together. Well, she got the feels too, and it's because we talked about work and her challenges (we have similar jobs) and that showed her that I cared and I was ready to graduate to a relationship.

I know what's going on. Those "excuses" are just that. Excuses.

It's the combination of

  1. the archetypal "Pretty Woman" syndrome and
  2. the alibi that after "investing time" on someone they need to step up.

1+1 = 3

And the CC continues, it's just another ride, it was my turn it was her turn.

Life goes on.

Pretty Woman [Trailer]: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wzii8IuL8lk