19 y/o needs some advice before I do something I'll regret

MarketWatcher9456 · 2019-02-14T20:46:37+00:00

Just look at all the shit your cousin has gone through. That should be a total red pill.

TheGreatEvil · 2019-02-14T20:48:25+00:00

You're 19 years old. Tell them you are way too young. You should focus on your career, and study. People who go to the university to drink and get laid end up spending their parents money for nothing. Medicine requires a lot of study if I remember correctly.

TheObelisk · 2019-02-14T21:09:03+00:00

Problem is that usually at your age you haven't been fucked over enough. Being consecutively fucked over through your 20s ensures you'll be black pilled by 30 and will know to avoid women. But at your age you haven't experienced enough women and likely feel like you want to experience women more before you write them off. I'd suggest being very careful during the next few years regarding women.

MuleFool42 · 2019-02-14T21:02:39+00:00

You're on the right track about not getting married. Too much trouble. Don't live with a gf either.

That said, you're young and if you're like most bros, will require a certain amount of social contact and perhaps a loving relationship with a woman. That's all fine, just make sure that it's on your terms and don't let anyone, gf or family, push you toward marriage.

You have to live life on your own terms and for yourself. Just let your family know that you're quite capable of making your own choices, and that while marriage may have been the right choice for them, which you respect, you're still going to make your own decisions about your own happiness.

Get through school, become gainfully employed, get your own place, live independently, and then start saving/investing. By that time, say 35, you will have differentiated yourself from most men, in the eyes of women, and be able to date pretty much on demand. You'll be considered a catch by women your age down to quite a bit younger, say 25 or so. Play the field, enjoy that time, and just make decisions around what's best for you.

Drowned out the background noise and voices telling you what 'you ought to do.' Nobody knows you better than you. They're basically telling you what would make THEM happy, but that's opinion only.

Also, as you aspire to your personal success both professionally and personally, there may be some friends and family that are threatened by you striving for your goals. They may tell you, "oh, you can't do that, you can't do this....blah, blah". YOU CAN. They're trying to put limits on you because you're excelling beyond them. So, as you experience success, you may inherit new peer groups that understand you better than people that you knew growing up. Always keep your life long friends that encourage and support you, but be open to other professionals who's success will rub off on you and challenge you.

Best of luck and keep us updated on your progress!

Pacifist11 · 2019-02-14T21:10:47+00:00

You're 19 try before you buy. Find a friend or family member with kids. Offer to baby sit for a minimum of 16 hours straight. Imagine babysitting for 18 years.

mgtow-zen · 2019-02-14T22:51:40+00:00

Number 1: do not have children. I can not stress this enough. If you must have a child, wait until you are at least 32. I say this, because by then you will know better. :)

Your family will probably never understand. Not much sense talking with them about it. Women have zero clue, and they don't want a clue. The big shocker is that your mom does NOT want what's best for you. How could she when she refuses to understand? Chances are, your mom has a real rose colored view of womanhood and that she's been oppressed and blah blah blah. There really is no point in talking to your family about this.

You will need to find Love, without it you will be miserable. But what no one ever tells you is that Love does not exist in a woman. You won't find it in this world, and that includes female bodies. Most people go on a pointless never ending quest to find it, but they look to women for it and as a result, they never actually find it.

Resist any and all thoughts that would blame anyone for these things. Yes, it's unfortunate, yes it is painful and it seems like a grudge is justified but this is never the case. Holding a grudge will make you miserable until you let go of it.

The way to let go of grudges and resentments is to forgive the people involved. Life is illusion, we're all just characters in the matrix, try to remember it's just a program. None of this is real, and so him do g a grudge is stupid, like resenting a character in a dream.

Forgive women, your family and anyone or any thing else you can think of, for your own sanity and peace not because you're a "better person" the fact is, we are all truly equal, that is a fact.

coffeecup1988 · 2019-02-14T21:06:49+00:00

Never discuss with your parents, friends or family that you don't want to marry and don't want to start a family. It will just lead into many unhealthy discussions. To avoid it just say you haven't met the right one yet and that your time will come.
Red pill can fuck up your mind. The famous red pill rage will lose it's power over you. The overwhelming feelings will calm down, I promise you that.
Just enjoy your youth. You're young, when you can get laid and you want to, just get laid. Get some experience in life. Just don't expect any loyalty from them. Also don't expect it will be a long term relationship. It's just your time.
Focus only on the things you like. Never let any woman belittle your choices. Never discuss your choices. Just smile, ignore them and do your thing. Also never discuss with a woman. Just like you don't discuss with kids, you don't discuss with women. Discussing with kids will lead to nowhere.
Exercise allot, get allot of sunshine, smile and eat good things. Let the testosterone flow trough your veins. Maybe go to a MMA-gym. Meet other guys and start sparring with them. Build some comradery between like minded men.
Never show any weakness to a woman. If you want to cry, go to your trusted friend and tell him your problems. Crying is a natural thing, it's very normal for a man to cry. Just women don't have any empathy for crying men. They would step on you and make it worse.

(Sorry for the bad formatting, can't fix it on the app).

mgtowben · 2019-02-14T21:34:23+00:00

Whatever you do, DON'T get married. We've all done it so you don't have to.

Helstromme · 2019-02-14T20:46:34+00:00

Marriage and cohabitation are a trap dude. Live to make YOU happy, not your parents.

SeaweedTasteBad · 2019-02-14T21:29:46+00:00

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DickRulez · 2019-02-14T21:35:39+00:00

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BertTheWelder · 2019-02-14T21:53:35+00:00

Focusing on your career and foundation is a win-win. If you do decide you want to get married, you’ll get a better quality wife once you’re established. If you don’t want to get married, well, now you have a great career and lots of disposable income.

FemaleIsEasyMode · 2019-02-14T21:57:11+00:00

You are 19. You are a med student. You have many years ahead of yourself to decide what you want.
Graduate. Work. Build your career and self worth, then decide. Take care not to get metooed, used by friends or trouble with the law.

watchtheshipgodown · 2019-02-14T23:18:11+00:00

Your choice; be an NPC and do what you were programmed to do, or try and live for yourself. You only have one life.

DT1726 · 2019-02-15T03:57:24+00:00

First you must drill this into your mind: "men and women will never love each other the same way, and romantic love is but a farce to drive the consumption of goods."

The initial honeymoon of a relationship may feels great and all, but all that must come down. There are no high forever, but there can be peace. Look at your parents and you will get what I mean, the ecstasy will never last. The romance you feel from your partner at the start will be but memories, all you be left with is someone you are hanging out with everyday.

Yes, your future wife will be just someone you hang out with and there are very high chances that you will be hanging out with some nagging and crazy person. You should google Maslow's hierarchy of Needs. You do feel fulfilled in a relationship, but there are much beyond that, something more fulfilled.

Women are unlike men, they demand constant reminder of how they are loved. They will always want the high, not the calmness. You look at how they constantly buying new clothes, shoes, going to expensive restaurant, etc... and compare it to a guy. Men will feel more content easily with very little things compare to women.

If you get married or be in a relationship, then your life will revolve around her, not you. You are only 19, focus on personal development now and you will be much better off compare to your peers in a decade or so.

Edit: maybe you should talk with your cousin more and see what he'd experienced.

P1000123 · 2019-02-15T04:05:45+00:00

Shut your mouth.
Read everything on here.
Be careful and keep your mouth shut, you have access to what is hidden knowledge that everyone can see, but choose not to. Do not expose reality to others who don't wish to see it.
Blend in while you are learning.

Title	19 y/o needs some advice before I do something I'll regret
Author	MacroEncephalon
Upvotes	24
Comments	24
Date	February 14, 2019 8:43 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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