Any tips for meditation?

ncarolina66 · 2020-12-27T13:31:48+00:00

The most important thing about meditating is that you just have to go with the flow.....meaning there is no right or wrong way of doing it as each person must find their own way of doing it.

I put that first because you will find 100's of people and vid's telling you how to do it, and when you try them you will be like, hey, why can't I empty my mind of thoughts, why can't I get this to work, what am I doing wrong?.....NADA!

All you need to do is sit in a relatively quiet place for about 20 minutes and try to clear your mind of wandering thoughts. If you find this difficult, and it usually is (you will be surprised that crap thoughts that jump into your mind when you are trying to clear it of all random thoughts), they you can try counting your breaths....in, 1, out, 2, in 3, out 4...etc. or if you like only count the in-breaths or only the out-breaths, whatever works best for you. Focus on your breathing just makes it a bit easier to keep your quiet time free of random thoughts (which are going to happen anyway...and NO, you aren't doing anything wrong, it happens to everyone....maybe with the exception of the Dali Lama.....but I doubt that too).

If you are still struggling then I would recommend the book by, Dan Harris the author of the book “10% Happier: How I Tamed the Voice in My Head, Reduced Stress Without Losing My Edge, and Found Self-Help That Actually Works–A True Story”. Basically it's HIS story about how he wanted to learn to meditate and did all these things to finally learn it basically comes down to the above. Sit quietly, close your eye's, breathe in/out consciesly and slowly, count your breaths (if it helps focus your mind and keep out random thoughts....What am I doing later, Did I mail that letter, How many Cheetos are in a bag, etc.....) and that there isn't a set "right" way to do it or a wrong way. YOU have to find YOUR way and what works best for you, what will calm you down, focus your mind into NOT thinking, breathing easy, relaxing body/mind/soul, and hopefully having it rejuvenate, invigorate and revitalize yourself though this simple, daily relaxing method.

Hope that helps.

MGTOW for LIFE!

Report back if you can, if you found it helpful (meditation) and what finally worked (or didn't work) for you to maybe help others on this journey.

not_a_belieber · 2020-12-27T22:31:28+00:00

When you get into bed, repeat to yourself "what am I worried about? Can I do anything about it __RIGHT NOW__?" The answer is usually no. Say to yourself "Then I will do something about it tomorrow."

Sleep comes quickly.

mozppc · 2020-12-27T13:22:57+00:00

Check our dan harris, or sam harris. Both geniuses when it comes to meditation. Just Google , for example, dan harris meditation.

You can also try a guided meditation app such as Waking Up

king-of-the-light · 2020-12-27T16:04:14+00:00

Wim Hof

ToANewMe · 2020-12-27T20:56:58+00:00

I personally prefer yoga. I think the mental benefits are similar - calming, presentness in the moment, focus - but I find including the slow physical motions to help keep my mind from wandering. Also the stretches are great for your body.

Kini42 · 2020-12-27T14:23:11+00:00

Maybe you want try autogen training.

When done before bedtime, best in bed, you fall asleep like a baby...

--Reddit-Username2-- · 2020-12-27T15:11:38+00:00

The PotentialProject app.

mpierce38120 · 2020-12-27T15:25:06+00:00

The easiest way I've found is to just close your eyes and observe your breath. Your mind is going to wander off and that's natural. I just recognize (bring awareness) the thought (I'm thinking about dinner) and return my awareness back to my breath (and away from the thought). You mastering your own awareness vs. having your awareness just go wherever is part of the exercise. If I'm overly stimulated sometimes I will count to four over and over again with my breath. Or sometimes a mantra if I want to change my mood (also with my breath). If you're just starting, it takes a few weeks of consistently sitting there for 20 minutes or so to actually see a difference. But once you do, the difference is significant. And then it's like the gym, the more you do the bigger the difference you see. If you try right before bed, don't lay in bed. I always fall asleep. When you first start, twenty minutes will seem like forever. When your "getting it", twenty minutes will seem like just a few minutes. That "time drift" is a part of how you know your there.

JoeSmith1907 · 2020-12-27T16:05:49+00:00

I've done Bruce Frantzis's method. It seems to help although at first it was so subtle that I didn't realize what it was doing. He has you noticing any tension, contraction, and anything that doesn't feel quite right and you "dissolve" it. He's at Energyarts.com. The last time I checked, his student Dan Kleiman had something similar on his website as well.

Fuckmedaddy420uwu · 2020-12-27T18:23:20+00:00

You don’t need any books or tools for meditation. Sit down, close your eyes and then breathe. While breathing say to yourself when you inhale and when you exhale (breath in, breath out) But if you really want some help then check out the Wim Hof method

2020-12-27T19:18:47+00:00

Meditation isn't anything other than focusing and refocusing. Sit, observe your breath and when you start thinking of something else (every thought will suddenly seem important), you bring that concentration right back on the breath.

Then you'll forget and get lost in thought again and you refocus again. This is normal, don't get upset, you refocusing your wandering mind IS the meditation.

TLorrai · 2020-12-27T20:46:42+00:00

Stretch beforehand.

RJ_Diablo · 2020-12-27T22:13:48+00:00

Be aware of breathing, when you lose focus be aware of the it and bring it back to the breathing.

Meditation trains 2 aspects, not to lose focus and also to get it back if you do lose it

Crusty_Dick · 2020-12-28T14:42:46+00:00

Be water my friend https://youtu.be/cJMwBwFj5nQ

Title	Any tips for meditation?
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Date	December 27, 2020 1:07 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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