Awkward silence, is it a real experience or is it just an idiom handed down by the dead (non-thinking) and insecure?
There are two women in my work place, every so often in meetings and conversation they mention this in regard to customer interactions. I stay silent and do not know what the fuck they are talking about.
There is nothing awkward about it. I ask a question here, respond there, if the customer is not chatty and a two or three inquiries do not get them talking I tend to lay off. I find that being pushy and trying to force verbal interaction to be actually pretty awkward.
I will occasionally comment on the progress of the transaction, cracked a little joke here and there or something along those lines, but I might remain silent for several minutes while I concentrate on doing the work in an efficient manner.
These notions are like a cancer. One had the gall to yell across the store in my stead to get their information to pull up their account once. I quietly said, "You want to talk about awkward, that was awkward. Do not do that again." I thought afterwards that I should have added that she did know the whole situation I discovered upon greeting them and that she made a blind assumption, but I have since determined that would have been wasted effort.
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This is great, I've recently been wondering about the use of 'awkward silence' too. I notice it is used by those in the lime light of the mainstream and trends, people trying hard to fit into modern, 21st century society.
More than anything, I think people who say it are uncomfortable in silence. We live in an extraverted, urban society now. Women especially always have to fill the air with words just so something is entertaining them.
You never see useless chatter in cowboy movies or other masculine movies. Everything is to the point and the characters don't fill the air with useless words to make the other person more comfortable. They don't give a flying fuck, their main concern is themselves. (Besides of course manly banter between friends). Nobody feels the need to speak up because its silent. They are perfectly comfortable in silent instances together. Somehow society lost this Clint Eastwood type of masculinity.
You can be a silently confident/ introverted person but not be awkward. Don't let this phrase hold power, it's meaningless, used in a sense to degrade those who do not speak every second of the day.
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Silence is never awkward for me, others forcing the conversation is.
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