My(29m) wife(31f) just confessed that she had to sleep with her professor for her phd degree a couple of years ago. I can't talk to anyone, so I need some advice here.

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My wife and I have been together since high school. We've been married for 3 years and we have twin daughters (5f&5f).

My wife was pursuing her phd when we got married. She's really intelligent and she was awarded her phd( in political science ) a couple of years ago from a well known university. I was really happy for her and it was her dream. Now, she has a great job.

Yesterday, my wife told me that she had to talk to me about something really important. It was in the middle of the night, so I wasn't really paying much attention. Then, she started crying and told me that she had lied to me and cheated on me. She told me that she was sexually involved with her professor.

She tells me that she had no choice, because he was a douchebag and she only did it for her degree and I'm the only person she's ever loved. She confessed because she felt really guilty about this and could no longer contain it. I was really heart broken. We've been together forever and I never expected her to do this. I love her, but I don't think she has my respect now.

She wants to make it up to me and promised me full access to her mobile and social media. According to her, she never saw him again. But I really don't know. And I want some help with this. And I'd really appreciate some genuine advice regarding this.