Devastated

selfism_mike · 2019-06-30T11:33:31+00:00

All the love you felt was your own. The sooner you understand that she never loved you, that you just have been and still are a convenient tool that she can use for sustaining her existence, the sooner you will be able to separate also emotionally from her.

She is a parasite and a traitor and all humaneness you sense in her is just the projection of your own which is the only true one.

Women are zombies. Mistake them at your own peril for true humans.

throw_7 · 2019-06-30T11:58:19+00:00

This day may not mean much to most people. For me it's going to be an exceedingly painful one. On this day the court will release it's decree and my marriage will be dissolved.

You're wrong about that. It's going to be one of the happiest days of your life. True freedom, something that you've long since forgotten. You're going to be giddy with the feeling of being able to do what you want, when you want, with every penny of your income going towards the things that you like and not the things that somebody else likes.

It's going to be glorious.

user_miki · 2019-06-30T12:58:27+00:00

When a women made up her mind there is no turning back.It is superfluous to even try to change her mind.

She will change after while when you are no more interested and healed.The biggest mistake is to take her back at that point.

nickvanewijk · 2019-06-30T15:19:02+00:00

she's probably monkey branching to someone she consider to be better (than you). Women do this all the time. Pain is just temporary. You'll get over her

asprange · 2019-06-30T11:05:32+00:00

I feel for you. I’m really sorry to hear about your situation. I know it’s hard but remember this too shall pass.

holidaysboots · 2019-06-30T11:26:27+00:00

I feel for you, buddy. Pain is only temporary. Focus on yourself and occupy your mind until you snap out of it.

Lookinginbetween · 2019-06-30T15:42:14+00:00

Being successful is the best revenge. I know it hurts but let the pain fuel you. Women always keep tabs on their exes and make her regret it, she try to worm her way back.

Tonyb33 · 2019-06-30T15:55:53+00:00

Don’t worry you will hear regularly from her especially if you are a handy man. She will ask for your help fixing her new house, asking for a little extra when she is short, she probably expects to maintain her current standard of living and probably doesn’t earn a lot that’s why you are paying maintenance. You will notice she is nice as pie when she wants something and ghosts when she doesn’t. She also has a plan which involves another man who is likely to be in the vicinity.

Once you realise how you have been manipulated your sorrow will turn to rage and then your feelings of loss will soon disappear.

HughJeego · 2019-06-30T11:24:45+00:00

One of the most difficult tasks in life is removing someone from your heart. Try not to look for any answers at the bottom of the bottle,there isn't any. Keep yourself healthy and stay safe mate.

nigelh · 2019-06-30T13:33:12+00:00

You've had the AWALT experience. It's normal.
Currently you are so far from MGTOW we are pushed to be able to help.
Just don't find a rebound and think "it will be better this time"...
It won't.

Starter91 · 2019-06-30T13:39:17+00:00

Emotions are devils workshop

shatterthecrystal63 · 2019-06-30T17:16:26+00:00

It'll go away. Try and just take it easy, this is your chance to focus on you now.

In a year from, July 10th won't be a day of pain, it'll be YOUR Independence Day.

With that being said, if you need to get some shit off your chest, most of us here, including myself, are open to DMs or the chat feature. Response times may vary with me, but we've got you covered if you need it.

copast2 · 2019-06-30T17:41:13+00:00

My heart goes out to you, brother. Same happened to me. I treated her like a queen, but she cheated anyway. Just about destroyed me. Now instead of treating women like queens, it's time to treat myself like a king. It's not easy, but you have to learn to fall in love with YOU. Do nice things for yourself. Find what you're passionate about and do it. Work on bettering yourself, not to please a woman, but to please YOU.

Be well, bother. We're with you.

Older_Miggy · 2019-06-30T18:18:06+00:00

"She does try to ameliorate my situation by assuring me everything will be fine."

Well, in all fairness, eventually it will be. But not for a while. You're gonna have to take it day by day. And for God's sake, DON'T GET INVOLVED WITH ANOTHER WOMAN!!!

Also, as soon as the divorce is final, you must cut her completely out of your life. It's easier since you don't have kids. But no contact, no "how you doing," no lets have lunch, NOTHING. Cut this cunt out of your life for good. It's the only way you're gonna get past her and what you've been through.

I recently celebrated the 15th anniversary of my divorce. As long as you don't do anything dumb because of this woman, you'll be fine. Good luck.

Ody_ssey · 2019-06-30T12:03:12+00:00

She never loved you. She loved what you did for her. You were a provider and supporter for her dependent life. Now she is getting alimony so she no longer thinks you are required.

For a woman alimony is the best way to escape from doing a hard working job.

[deleted] · 2019-06-30T12:14:53+00:00

But the loss of money doesn't hurt me. It's the loss of the one I loved

I would be more concerned about the money, since she will use them for presents for another dude she will fuck. Those money in your pockets could have allowed you to enjoy life more.

After the 10th it'll be as if she didn't exist at all

Yeah, welcome to the club, even i made memories with a girl for years, they were never worth a thing. Women live in the moment, that's an hard lesson i learned.

She does try to ameliorate

Wow, i bet the effort of saying 4 word will leave her so tired that she won't have the strenght to suck a dick for an entire day!

pwnzusauce · 2019-06-30T14:52:51+00:00

We will be here for you brother, but you need to stay strong.

I agree with the poster who says all that love you felt was only yours.

Follow Keanu’s advice: get over loneliness by enjoying your solitude, treat yourself and just enjoy life.

This journey is short so make the best out of it.

Notlikeotherguys · 2019-06-30T15:15:13+00:00

Going through the same. 25 together/19 married. Caught her cheating with an ex. She told me she never once stopped loving him, which totally poisoned the many good memories I felt we created together. It's helped me to work on me. Go to therapy, get yourself in shape, reconnect with old friends or go out an make new ones (join a club that interests you: board gaming, motorcycles, The masons, the rotary), take up an old hobby or find a new one. Throw yourself into your work. Pay off debt. Take a trip someplace you've always wanted to go. Date if you think that will help, but I've found that most women in my age range (I'm 45) are burning dumpster fires, and I hang with them for shits and gigs, but keep them at arms legnth.

fasterfind · 2019-07-01T06:44:58+00:00

She's been interested in another man, and he reciprocated that interest. Else, she wouldn't leave you. That means she probably cheated. She developed that other relationship and in doing so, strayed emotionally and morally. She gave him time and attention that should have been yours. Affection and interest in your own relationship dried up.

In time, her new lover will be revealed.

She's never yours, it's just your turn. Love rarely lasts for life with women. They initiate the majority of divorce.

I've never experienced the end of a marriage. That is much more devastating that what I have put up with. There are no fitting words to console someone in this situation.

MafiosoMGTOW · 2019-07-01T07:33:15+00:00

Be grateful you don't have a child with her. It could be a lot worse.

bamabeatsny · 2019-07-01T20:46:37+00:00

There are many of us here who understand what you're going through, and are here for you, for support, a sounding board, and also, to prove that there's life after.

Hang in there. Please. It'll be worth it.

Title	Devastated
Author	halo1900
Upvotes	22
Comments	25
Date	June 30, 2019 11:04 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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