I'm not here to lambast this man. I'm not here to make fun of him. I'm not here to bring him down or insult him in any way.

However, I feel its important though for us to see examples of what to look out for.

This is a girl I met on Bumble fairly recently, and it turns out she has been seeing a guy for awhile (more than a year from what I can glean). She recently decided to "go public", if you will, with this man for her pregnancy announcement.

Picture 1

Picture 2

Picture 3

Picture 4

Take note of the body language and the caption. This is her debut photo album and happy photos celebrating being pregnant. 70% of all communication is non-verbal. I think it's pretty clear what the message here is.

Just in case, let me explain real quick... In Picture 1 we see what appears to be an uncomfortable smile from the girl, and instead of her hands lovingly embracing his, they are poised as if to grip his hands and remove them at a moments notice. Perhaps I'm looking too much into it you say?

Well in Picture 2 we see the photographer capture the moment of him going in for the kiss. Notice how far back she has learned away from him, forcing him out of reach and to work extremely hard for something as easily reciprocated as a kiss. Her arms are instinctually defense in posture and create a barrier between any bodily physical contact. God forbid their torsos touch. Also notice what looks to me like an uncomfortable facial expression. Maybe I'm reading it wrong...

But in Picture 3 where the loving kiss is occurring, we see her feet in what is commonly known as "the ready stance". This is often times a subconscious posture for preparing for fight or flight. She isn't in a typical feet-together one leg ready to raise up in pure bliss stance for example. Her elbow and forearm are firmly against the man's chest and continuing to provide a buffer against bodily contact, and her weight is on her back leg due to still pulling away from him. Her lips are not pursed for contact, and instead are retracted to give the most minimal peck possible.

In Picture 4 we see him triumphantly smiling about his prize, but what do we see in her? The camera caught her mid patting him on the chest as a friendly "ok, you win" type of gesture. Where are her eyes? Is this r/girlsmirin material? No. She's looking down and away from him post-kiss. The sign of someone embarrassed or ashamed. This is a celebration I thought. She has also resumed her maximum distance, and yet is still leaning back as to be uncomfortable. Look at his straight posture, and then look at her posture.

Keep in mind that this is a planned photo opportunity. This is literally the best she can fake it.

I also seriously doubt this man knows she has been on Bumble looking for hookups immediately prior to the pregnancy (that's where I come in), but who knows - he might.

Gentlemen, please look for nonverbal cues in real life and in your photos if you are with a woman. He may or may not know she was shopping around, but I'm going to bet on her hiding it just like she hid him on all her social media. Now he could possibly be raising someone else's baby with his wife-to-be.

Maybe we can just say she's uncomfortable with public PDA, maybe he pressured (ie: raped) her by forcing a kiss for a photo OP as her defenders are sure to say, but then again she did hide him from social media and was on dating apps.

Anyway, take from this what you can. Don't fall for the unicorn and GYOW.