Feeling helpless

mathens247 · 2019-01-26T16:42:04+00:00

This is a dark time but time is constantly moving forward it’s always gonna get better, now what I’d say to do is lawyer up and get ready. Divorce is messy and you’ve got to be prepared. But when your not working on freeing yourself learn new things or try new experiences

Start small for instance I’m now trying to Learn Dothraki language from GoT

Floofyboy · 2019-01-26T16:47:18+00:00

Ok this isn't gonna help a lot, but as anyone here would tell you, marriage is always a mistake in the western world. Now, as other posters have said, lawyer up to reduce the raping your about to get as much as possible.

As a general rule, i'd always assume the women you're with is probably gonna break up at some point once she can't resist chad's dick anymore. So always keep yourself in shape, etc, ready to flirt new girls for when it happens.

Mrsherby · 2019-01-26T16:50:43+00:00

You might have to let yourself die. And I mean the person you are now. There's good in you and a sense of what's going on, but you've just broken through the surface. The foundation you've built your life upon has brought you here. You stated that she is the person that means the most to you. That's the core issue. It isn't you.

boisdevie · 2019-01-26T17:09:28+00:00

" I feel absolutely worthless " - and that's precisely why you put up with that shit. I wish you well but I'd say you need therapy to work out just why you've tolerated this for so long because unless you do you can discount any ideas of a successful relationship in the future.

BertTheWelder · 2019-01-26T17:14:30+00:00

Don’t focus on the bad things you did. Focus on the bad things she did to you. She stained a shirt and ruined your honeymoon?!

There’s nothing you could have done differently to fix the problems. Best you could have done is delay the inevitable. Better it happens now than ten years down the road and when you had a child.

You will heal. Just allow yourself to do so.

JerryNewton7 · 2019-01-26T17:13:26+00:00

"BPD" Seems like all women have it. If you don't see it in woman is because it is probably "dormant", but it will come out eventually.

writefromwork · 2019-01-26T18:41:52+00:00

There is nothing further for you to do to salvage the marriage. It is out of your hands. Follow her example and cut all communications. You will need time and space to heal.

Focus on yourself. Survive each day by day. Contemplate the future once the divorce is done.

You will learn who your wife really is once the divorce starts. You won't like it.

Once you are rid of her after the roller coaster divorce you won't miss her.

Find a lawyer and begin preparations.

Likely at some point she will come crawling back. Do not relent and do not respond unless you wish to repeat the experience.

You might not feel like you will get through this. You are stronger than you think. Don't give up on yourself.

Tonyb33 · 2019-01-26T19:27:40+00:00

One other thing force your body to the gym. It will make you feel so much better.

sketchpad4u · 2019-01-26T18:25:36+00:00

OP I think it would be helpful if you're clear on what you want. Are you 100% wanting her back? Or do you have a part of you thinking you lucked out? Better to be divorce raped today than when your too old to rebuild your wealth.

Shep432 · 2019-01-26T17:11:29+00:00

The day she was leaving I tried to give her the car (we only have one it’s paid off) and half of the savings $(3500) she didn’t want anything she wasn’t even going to come get her things, would tell me to throw it all away (mind you we’ve lived together for 9 years) I had to guilt trip her into to coming and getting her things, I told her I wouldn’t fight her and that I would just sign the papers but I don’t want to at all. We don’t have a house or kids we have the one car and rent an apartment. It hurts so much her walking away from it all I have invested my entire worth into this woman she was my motivation for everything going to college working hard trying to build a family.. and to just give up on it all crushes me. I feel like I have nothing left I don’t even know how to go on she was half of my indentity and now that she is gone I am lost...and wouldn’t you know I got a letter of pre-approval for a home loan yesterday...so much for that I guess I just don’t know what direction to take I can’t picture life without her

Shep432 · 2019-01-26T17:46:24+00:00

It feels like I’m dying that is for sure. But I get what your saying just so hard it’s like I put all of my self worth into her just so hard to imagine life without her

Tonyb33 · 2019-01-26T19:25:27+00:00

There are no good things or bad things there are only things. Only you can assign feelings to things. You can view your circumstances in two ways. 1. You have somehow annoyed your perfectly reasonable wife and she has lost your baby and left you. You are now alone and the only comfort is your work. 2. You have married a woman who is mentally ill. Due to her illness she will have highs and lows great fun on the highs nightmare on the lows. She will attack anyone in her ambit and once she has driven off everyone she will go to town on herself. You are incredibly lucky. If she had delivered the child you would be facing a second problem of supporting your baby in the hands of a mentally ill woman who wants to make you suffer. Do not go down with her. Focus on your job, your health and your money. Hire a lawyer jettison the bitch.work out buy some new clothes have a holiday drink a beer in the sun. Focus on how lucky you are. You my friend have just dodged a bullet.

Title	Feeling helpless
Author	Shep432
Upvotes	10
Comments	17
Date	January 26, 2019 4:37 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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