Feeling lost in life

DeplorableToast · 2020-05-09T02:14:13+00:00

my friends

You're surrounded by blue-pilled NPC's.

RUN! Stop listening to other people!

Kupo_Master · 2020-05-09T03:41:19+00:00

What you are feeling is not unusual at all. There is a point in your life when you may feel it was all a big con. Study hard, go to university, get a good job and then what... nothing - life is not about progress. It should be self evident that since life inevitably ends with death, it’s not a continuous path of progress. It’s a journey. How it will go is up to you but you need to stop looking for consistent “progress” because setting expectations is the worse way to be happy.

1) Rise above society pressure or expectations. Don’t listen to people around you volunteering “advice”. Truth is they don’t know anymore than you do. They are just parroting things they have heard or believe to be true 2) You live in a free country, you are free. Remember this is a gift; many people in the past died so that you can make these choices rather than being a slave to a master or the state 3) Make time for things you enjoy. If it’s math and science then it’s math and science. Whatever “people think” doesn’t matter 4) Relationships don’t bring happiness. It’s a huge mistake to imagine you place your happiness in someone else’s hands. Deep inside people are so intrinsically selfish they only care about themselves. Relationships can bring other things like family; but you will not find happiness or purpose

Reading your post it seems that you suffer from depression. It takes (a lot of) time to beat depression. Take it one step at time; you need to build slowly but surely a path forward.

ProcedurallyCreated · 2020-05-09T03:50:52+00:00

Fuck your "friends" and fuck your parents. Do whatever you want, whenever you want. Everybody is lost and no one belongs anywhere. If someone says the opposite he's either lying or deluded. You sound like you are from India or some other under developed country. Have fun while you can.

manhoodshittyshit · 2020-05-09T04:14:03+00:00

I am also a big introvert and I can read books for a whole week-end without seeing anyone. To me, that's simply awesome. My mother is dissatified because I don't see here often, but when she complains and tries to make me feel bad I see her even less. Nowadays she learned to accept my pace and rarely complains.

I understand your syruggles. In my early twenties I felt compelled to change and I did full contact combat sports, weitght training, PUA stuff (pick up artist) and I was even a member in swinger club for a year. I did gain a lot of things from these experiences, and it definitely pulled me out of my comfort zone. In the end, however, I went back to my nature as an introvert. Nature always come back, and I am a MGTOW monk now. No relationships with women at all. I enjoy the peace and quiet more than I could have realized several years ago.

I can't tell you what path is right for you. However, I can tell you that you shouldn't do things just because people pressure you. If you donany of these things, do them because you see value in them.

Try to write down the pros and cons of listenning to your friends and family's ideas vs not listenning to them. The answer should be clear.

rapister · 2020-05-09T04:04:27+00:00

Life is about doing what you like, and not doing what people want you to do. That's the true meaning of life, and that is how you will be happy.

Yes, sometimes we need goals in life. We may or may not succeed in the end, but it is all about the journey and deciding to try.

If I were you, I will set my new goal to move out and be fully independent, away from parents, and be a man.

Thereafter carve a career in math and science.

That being decided, you have way more things to do than chase some mediocre puzzy or attend yoga classes.

All the best.

Ody_ssey · 2020-05-09T06:01:10+00:00

They tell me I will never rise in my career and I will be forever alone.

Funny, a married person after divorce struggle to see his kid, lose lot of money, lives in depression and is forever alone. But your friends won't tell you that.

I spend most of my weekends reading about math and science

This is the most productive use of time. You are utilising your prime years of life to prepare for better opportunities. No hobby is better than a work which you do it as hobby.

My friends tell me "Money doesn't matter if you have no one to spend it on."

There are lot of things you can spend money on. Spending it on women just to keep them in relationship is poor investment. Once you become independent, you can buy house, car, bike, travel, gym equipments etc.

"Nobody gives a fuck about math and science. You're such a nerd. No one likes that."

They are saying this because they themselves lack quality of working hard. Seeing you doing it as a hobby can scare anyone who is unsure about his furture and then they try to downplay it to demoralose you. One has to be a nerd if one wants high paying job which nowadays are given to women by gender quota.

Science and math is the most interesting field I've learned in my career. Now I've a job but I still watch YouTube videos on Science and math. Being a nerd about something is what gives you success.

How much you have achieved before anyone else is seen as a person with strong personality and other people want to validated by such people. The women they are setting you up with eventually settle with a guy who was preparing in his prime years and now has a good job. This is where mgtow says to say NO to them because they are searching for a clean up guy.

I don't see how being an introvert, you are wasting your time. You are spending it on things you see as your priority. However when you have enough study for a day, then if you feel you should go out with your friends then go out. But you don't have to take validation from them about your priorities.

Unless it is something which you deem it as more priority than what you are doing at home, then go out else say your friends "maybe next it's not my priority right now."

BroscienceGuy · 2020-05-09T09:34:57+00:00

It bothers you because you are human and by nature crave that validation of climbing the social ladder.

Freedom comes when you have full control over yourself and cultivating life to your will

Atton_Risk · 2020-05-09T17:26:20+00:00

Stop living your life on the basis of the approval of others. They don't give two fucks what you actually feel.

SufferableKant · 2020-05-09T09:55:14+00:00

"I used to feel like my life was progressing but now it seems to have stopped without the life script. It was school, job, marriage, kids but I stopped after the job part and never got to a relationship."

I think a lot of us fell for the lie that we just need to follow all the rules, do everything as we're told, and our reward will be a perfect happy traditional life, with a wife, two kids, a dog and a nice house in suburbia with a white picket fence. If you haven't noticed by now, that's all bullshit. You can make all the right decisions, and play all the right cards, and life will still screw you over if it wants. Fairness and justice are human constructs. Sometime life just says "Fuck you" and that's it.

"I stay inside during the weekends even before the quarantine started. (...) I spend most of my weekends reading about math and science..."

If you don't have any interest in going outside to do activities, and you force yourself to do it to gratify other people, inevitable you will just end up wanting to go outside even less. I'm not saying step out of your comfort zone; if you want to go outside to go hiking, or cycling, or road trips, or fishing, or stargazing, then that's great, knock yourself out.

But going outside, solely for the sake of partaking in some hobby you have no passion for, and just going through the motions, all so that you're increasing your chance of bumping into women? That is a massive waste of your own time and energy. It devalues you and your personality into being worth less than the momentary value of a stranger's passing fancy.

All those people looking down on you for liking reading and maths and science ‒ modern civilisation as we know it was built on these foundations. We haven't arrived where we are today and accomplished what we have because of people looking pretty, or solely due to rock star science type celebrities. It was through the hard work, talent, skill and passion of people who loved and cared and were passionate about maths and science. Now your friends might be right that no one cares about these fields for the sake of the sciences themselves, but their entire way of life is built upon those foundations.

"I don't spend enough money. My friends tell me "Money doesn't matter if you have no one to spend it on.""

Having money you don't spend provides you with a) a safety net when shit hits the fan, and b) it broadens your opportunities. Blowing your hard earned cash on vapid consumer goods, whose sole benefit is to increases envy among your peers and thereby increase their desire to spend money? That is a dangerous and addictive trap to fall into.

Having capital invested that you aren't spending gives you the option, or rather the opportunity, to make otherwise impossible decisions in life. The option of moving to live or rent somewhere else if it becomes necessary to do so. The option of being able to leave your job and spend a few months looking for another one without worrying about being evicted. Being able to emigrate to another state or country if things really go south. Even if you don't need to make these decisions now, their might come a time when you might need to, and when that time comes, you want every option available at your disposal.

My advice: live within your means, and make sure you have a plan if, no matter how unlikely, life goes awry and you or your family are met with an unexpected financial disaster. Job loss. Getting hit by a bus crossing the road. Cancer. They might be improbable, but never lie to yourself and say "It won't happen to me."

Always be prepared.

"I am not attractive enough."

In humans, don't value appearance over substance. I know that it's hard to truly believe in that. After all, we live in a world that celebrates people for being beautiful, and no one can undo biology and untold millennia of human evolution. The only solace I can offer you is to remember that beauty is fleeting. All those women looking down on you are only ever going to depreciate in beauty. As someone said, loosely paraphrased, "There are new 18 year old girls every year, ready to take their place."

"I can't travel anywhere during the pandemic."

Travelling can certainly broaden one's horizons, but travel just for the sake of travel is not going to solve anything. Especially so when we live in the age of internet where you have so much experience and exposure and knowledge of everywhere around the globe right at your fingertips. I'm probably a bit biased here because I dislike travelling, but don't fall for the trap that merely going to different places will fix every ailment in your life.

Globe-trotting is just the chance to feel bored more places, faster.

— Chuck Palahniuk

"How do I make progress in life? Is it worth conforming to society or should I stick to my own path even if people hate me? "

At the end of the day, you are responsible for yourself in this life. Your happiness, your satisfaction, your well being, are all the responsibility of you, and you alone. Whichever choice you decide to make, it is for you to make, and no one else. You are not here on this earth for the sole reason of making anyone or everyone happy.

My advice to you would be to do the things that improve and better yourself and help you become the person you want to be. Not wishing that your were better looking or more popular, so that you would be more sexually attractive to women, so that you would get laid more often.

You. What are your passions and goals and interests in life?

One day when we are all old and laying on our deathbeds, we are going to look back on our lives. What do you think you'll be pondering then? That you wasted all those weekends reading, broadening your mind, contemplating differing points of view, analysing new perspectives, studying and understanding new principles that will let you see life in an entirely different light?

Or do you think you'll look back in regret at not joining yoga class in the Summer of 2020, so that you would conform to someone else's (^possibly ^mistaken, ^we ^are ^all ^human ) ideal of what everyone should aspire to? The old adage "You cannot please all the people all the time" really rings true here. And even if you do please them today, with the mere changing of the wind they can easily find something to hate you over tomorrow.

People will come and go in your life. But your life stays with your as long as you're alive.

Do not squander all the years of your life on doing things that make you hate yourself.

Title	Feeling lost in life
Author	CalmElk
Upvotes	11
Comments	14
Date	May 9, 2020 1:59 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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