I was in a dead bedroom for a couple years before I finally stopped simping for my ex. She eventually asked for a divorce because she was stressed out all the time since she couldn't get me to bend over backwards anymore. The relationship was over once she lost control.

All throughout our marriage I made over six figures, and would often have arguments with her about what we should and shouldn't do with our money. It took me lots of arguments over the years just to maintain and build a moderate nest egg. By the time we divorced we had about $120k in cash as well as some other assets like our vehicles paid off.

We split everything 50/50 in November and she began pissing through money on home modifications after I moved out. She then began a new job that I imagined wasn't very high paying. She quit that job after 2 months.

While we were married I helped her with her college assignments and supported her even though she constantly put her stay at home mom duties on me. But the entire time we were married I tried to convince her that she didn't know what it took to make a buck.

She grew to act just like those women that complain their husband's who spend 10 hours a day at the office don't have time for them. Meanwhile I knew that the job I had was very rare. I know now that she's likely stressed about where the money is going to come from.

I finally feel validated that over a six month period she's been employed for 2 of them and her reson for not being employed further is her own lack of discipline. It validates everything I felt was true in the marriage.

What's more is that I'm losing my current job at the end of this month, due to contracts ending, but I've already secured a new job and accepted an offer to begin at the start of May. I will have no lapse in employment and still be earning the same.

Just keep your head down gents and keep doing what you know is right. Despite paying my ex child support and a small allimony (only a year and a half left), I've reduced my monthly expenses, live more comfortably than I did married to her and my savings is growing faster than when her and I were together.

Life is looking pretty good, and if I can get through these next few years the way I want to, I might be able to start looking toward retirement in the next ten years at around 45.