How to cure Oneitis I wrote this as a comment to another redditors post, but thought I might as well make it a new post, since it seems to be a severe problem for many men. also, sorry for fucking up the steps numeration, Reddit won't let me format it as I want. Anyhow, here we go:

Oneitis can be a motherfucker to cure. You see, while time heals most wounds, it doesn't heal oneitis, only numb it to a certain degree where maybe not every moment is fucking pain.

But it sure as hell can make you think about her every time you go to bed, or every time you wake up, no matter if years have passed.

This is ho you end up with stories of men that have waited for a woman for 20 years, maybe their whole life. Otherwise normal men, but with this bug called oneitis.

Luckly I have found at least one cure for oneitis. Here it goes:

  1. Realize that oneitis is not about her, it is about you. How you feel about yourself and your situation. Most likely you feel like you never going to find someone better than her, or anyone at all because of how your/your situation is. It is her or nothing.

  2. Realize that you can change this feeling both by changing your perspective on yourself and your situation and changing your actuall self and the situation you are in. When you realize it, do it!

Step 1 and 2 are crucial as preparation to move on, and to not end up with oneitis next time. But they are not enough as a cure. To cure it you'll have to follow an additional steps:

  1. Fuck and date another girl.

I know this is controversial to say as a MGTOW, but this is a serious fucking state to be in. If ou fuck and date other girls you WILL forget her, problem is that you might get stuck in this other girls claws too. the reason you have to date her and not just fucking is because oneitis is a pair-bounding fucked up. Not a ons.

The trick is to fall for the other girl, but not continue beyond the time you spent, or the feelings you felt for the first girl. Then you break up with the second girl.

  1. Rinse and repeat.

Now you'll probably miss both girls a bit, but the second more, find a third and date her, do the same, but don't spend longer time or invest more emotions in her than you did with the second girl.

This is a way to ease out of the withdrawal and in the end you'll just have to fuck a girl or even flirt a little to forget the latest one. it doesn't even have to be that many girls you work through to get there. But they will all just be a blur or a memory, you will not miss anyone specific, but might most likely miss being with someone generally, an unidentified partner. But we all do that, and I promise you that it is way better than having oneitis.

  1. Ending.

I did this, and damn what a relief. Take note that this is also the exact tactic all modern women use to handle breakups, completely fucking up their ability to pair-bound.

However, I think the results are more detrimental and permanent in a woman (bc of hypergamy) and we will most likely be able to pair-bound in the future, even if they won't. On the other hand, who the fuck cares if we won't be able to pair-bound. I have given up on women and want to be MGTOW my whole life anyway.

Good luck brothers!