I was a young fool

LogicBeforeEmotions · 2019-09-17T02:53:11+00:00

I'm only 26.

There you said it yourself. You are only 26. You still have a lot of time to be successful and happy; depending on whatever your definition of success is.

Firstly, set a base on what goals you want to achieve. Build the skills to achieve those goals. Then apply those goals.

Be independent. Invest wisely and don't let distractions come in the way of your goals.

As for the debt, i would advice paying it off ASAP. Get a job, start a low investment business on the side. Work 2 jobs at a time. Anything necessary. That was a big mistake. At the very least, you know better now.

qazedc0987 · 2019-09-17T04:14:22+00:00

You didn’t make mistakes, you gained experience.

There is neither good nor bad, but thinking makes it so.

Good luck.

Shewanthalf · 2019-09-17T03:08:27+00:00

Please help

There's nothing we can do, but there's a lot that you can do to help yourself. Here's a good list:

fix your finances, /r/personalfinance can help
as you do that: THINK! What is that you want out of life? Read. The sidebar has some good reads. Read as much as you can, whatever you want, decide what you want, go for it.

Optional: hit the gym and lift. /r/Fitness has all you need.

iscandar74 · 2019-09-17T04:44:02+00:00

Learn to be happy with multiple women and be loyal to none. Learn to understand relationships are only temporary. Learn to accumulate wealth. Financial security is your only friend. Learn to act like a business. Treat yourself as a corporation. When deciding things ask yourself is this good for my corporation. If not then act accordingly without any emotion. Women are good for short term relationships. Always take more then you receive and move on when it's not beneficial. Remember that's how they see you.
Get several citizenships and passports. The laws in the USA and some western European countries are bad for men and bad for asset protection.

betterforitall · 2019-09-17T03:11:34+00:00

You learned an awesome lesson the easy way. Three short years.

Walk it off son.

PhoenixRising-MGTOW · 2019-09-17T03:27:42+00:00

At least she hasn’t sued you for child support... yet. You set the precedence by playing daddy. In some states that’s grounds for a child support lawsuit.

QuantumSanta · 2019-09-17T04:55:57+00:00

Your experience, although shitty and fucked up, will stand you in good stead for the future.

Get financial advice asap, and possibly legal advice.

NEVER get into bed with a single mom. Just do not do it.

You will never be their father, ever. You will be paying out for their needs though, on an ongoing basis.

Grant1412 · 2019-09-17T05:16:35+00:00

Do not panick.

You'll be amazed just how affectively you can grind and you will be out of debt considerably faster than you'd expect.

You were a fool, but now you are wiser for it. That means you have a chance that a lot of guys don't get. Grind and start filling up that debt hole. Life is going to be good.

[deleted] · 2019-09-17T06:01:04+00:00

Just be glad as fuck that you didn't get her pregnant too like those other sorry sons of bitches lmao!!! That would've compounded your problems even more, and it could've easily happened too considering y'all were having sex and like you said, she's gotten pregnant on multiple occasions before by multiple guys lmao.

But as far as mistakes go, this doesn't seem too bad. Fine, three years of your life were wasted, but people end up wasting three years or more after shit that's way worse than a bad relationship (prison, debilitating mental/physical illness, a bad MARRIAGE/DIVORCE lol, etc.). I'm not sure how much debt exactly you're in or any other deep details of your situation but from what I can see you're still young and going through a rough patch that many people before & after you have/will go through. You'll live to fight another day, just next time you'll have time-taught wisdom on your side!

quickGunShoot · 2019-09-17T07:39:46+00:00

Take it as it is - Experience. You learned a lot. Now GYOW.

Morelifetho · 2019-09-17T07:43:48+00:00

What did you do if you dont mind me asking?

DannyTTT55 · 2019-09-17T07:46:48+00:00

You learned your lesson early, some men aren't as lucky

AncientMGTOWWISDOM · 2019-09-17T07:52:03+00:00

Never raise a girl up by lowering yourself, it has never in the history of man kind worked out for a man. You need to have a "program" and the woman needs to get down with it.

HotAndColdSlaw · 2019-09-17T08:00:42+00:00

Did you get married?

Do you have to pay alimony?

bannerlord · 2019-09-17T09:13:31+00:00

if it makes you feel any better also fell into the trap when I was 25, I've bounced back and so can you! Just be aware that it you ever feel bad to not fall into other vices to feel better. It is easier said than done

Shewanthalf · 2019-09-17T10:30:46+00:00

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MuleFool42 · 2019-09-17T14:52:08+00:00

Break up, get out, and hope she doesn't go after you for child support.

Start with that and then focus on you own needs from there.

Title	I was a young fool
Author	Shewanthalf
Upvotes	58
Comments	59
Date	September 17, 2019 2:35 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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