I was used.

the_valient · 2017-08-29T07:44:08+00:00

It happens. You're young. Your emotions obviously cloud your judgement. As a disinterested observer this girl comes across as callous and immature. You shouldn't care about her anymore. She was a bad person then and will likely be a bad person her entire life.

the_valient · 2017-08-29T07:51:24+00:00

Why do you even think about someone who never gave two shits about you? It's not like you guys had sex or anything.

If you don't find MGTOW to your liking, you should check out TRP sub and learn a couple of things there. They have some good books i suggest you to read.

In the end you gotta know that it's hard. We all grew up beliveing that we live in a good world, and that women are these "special" delicate benevolent creatures. It's hard when you find out that all that is bullshit. I mean look at all the seduction subs. They all go on and on about how men should approach, talk, lead, behave in a relationship and shit, but for all that what does a woman have to do? Just have pussy. So brother, fuck relationships, it's a bad deal.

RattyRoach · 2017-08-29T09:12:22+00:00

If you hate society now, just wait until your older. You'll hate it even more, probably want to burn things down. Got to keep strong though, give society the middle finger when you can and don't let it get to you. Use society for your benefit, don't let it take from you more than you get from it.

As far as women go, that's always a losing game. It just depends how much you are willing to lose to get a small token of worth.

Bmagik162 · 2017-08-29T11:25:00+00:00

Dude she was basically being a female, and you were being a simp. No offense, but this experience as a lesson ok...

secret626 · 2017-08-29T08:12:39+00:00

Brother, you sound like an emotional guy. It is normal to experience these. It is normal to hate society, friends and that girl.

I experience same things and I had stories that keep me sad for 3+ years.

Women can't love men. They can't. They are looking for resources and daily feelings only.

If things change, she will forget you in a minute and find another dick.

Focus on yourself, stop looking for a unicorn and don't be emotional with women.

Watch this: https://youtu.be/toqhcb9TllY

ishyman · 2017-08-29T12:46:53+00:00

You got oneitis for a girl who wanted to keep you around for comfort. You caught feelings. Not a fan of TRP but look up "oneitis" on that sub and do some reading. Get a hobby and make friends. Keep yourself busy and understand that AWALT. ( all woman are like that) it's her nature to branch swing. Can't be mad at her for that. Just accept and move on

Pellaeon_redpill · 2017-08-29T18:12:34+00:00

This is my story though what do mgtow think, what should I do with this girl.

Without question, cut contact with her and forget her.

I hate my parents, society, and I hate my friends. All laughing at me and using manipulative tactics on me rather than being upfront and friendly

It sounds like you have very weak boundaries. You will continue to be manipulated until you learn to establish strong boundaries.

For your immediate pain, I would suggest Emotion Free Tapping: www.emofree.com/eft-tutorial/tapping-basics/how-to-do-eft.html It sounds like hokey bullshit, but it's worked for me and several of my friends.

For establishing better boundaries, I would recommend the book "When I say no I feel guilty" (https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B000K0GNVU/)

If you are going to continue to pursue women, I suggest you gain a much better understanding of their actual nature. All women have the same fundamental nature, even if some have better control over those instincts than others. Here is one post that is a good start in understanding some of that nature: https://therationalmale.com/2014/03/16/preventative-medicine-part-i/

And she got me into a habit of saying I love you to her and she kept saying that she didn't love me back.

I encourage you to change your perspective on this. You are constantly using language that indicates you believe you had no control - "she made me do/feel x." This encourages you to remain a victim. Take accountability for your actions and feelings. You can't control what people do to you, and you can't directly control the feelings that rise in response to stimuli. You can, however, control how you choose to react, and whether you dwell on any given feeling or simply let it go. It's not easy, and it takes practice, but it's a hell of a lot better than letting yourself be controlled by your environment.

cyborg_type_darkness · 2017-08-29T23:35:26+00:00

Even if she would become your girlfriend again she will fuck you over anyway. Cut contact with her. I know it's sad but it's for your own best interest. Don't let people use you. If your friends laugh at you don't be their friends. You have more worth then you think.

JOEYBLUNTZUSA · 2017-08-31T01:40:11+00:00

what should I do with this girl

Cut contact. That includes blocking her on your phone and social media. If you try talking to her about it, she will either call you a piece of shit (for discovering her game) or try to reel you back in to be her emotional slave and source of emotional validation while she uses Chad for physical validation.

Fuck her, she's an AWALT. I've been there. I was you at 20. Check out my post https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/6x2tt7/my_story_and_journey_to_a_new_self/. This is from today after years of suffering. Avoid it at all costs.

karzin · 2017-08-31T11:35:05+00:00

You got manipulated. Basically, she needed a shoulder to cry on, someone she could rely on and that would give her attention.

Thing is, living in the past is never healthy. Learn your lesson from your experience and move on, hatred will only lock you there.

alteracycloneiv · 2017-08-29T17:22:37+00:00

Lol. What you are describing is a pretty standard situation that most guys experience while dating. Its just one of the many things you need to keep an eye on. Also, start using the one-strike-youre-out rule. Its going to save you a lot of headaches if you plan on continuing the chasing of the pussy.

Title	I was used.
Author	the_valient
Upvotes	20
Comments	26
Date	August 29, 2017 7:35 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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