So I met a girl from OkCupid this week, and we had pretty much everything in common. Around the same age, both work in the field of technology, both own our own homes, don't have any kids, want marriage and kids, are in good shape, attractive, have similar interests (painting, exploring, traveling, food, movies, etc.) live about 15 minutes from each other and had an awesome first date.
At the end of the date she said that she wants to see how we get along after spending more time with me because she isn't exactly sure what she wants. But when we first talked, she said she wanted to get married and have kids with the right man. Guess I wasn't the right man, because the text she sent me was the following:
I have been thinking about us. I do like what you are offering. However, I am struggling to find the chemistry between us, so it might be a rocky sailing, in which we don't need. I hope that you understand. You sound like an interesting person. I hope that we can remain friends.
I politely responded to her with how I felt of which she then wished me luck, and I to her. Sadly it was another loss, but at least I got somewhat of a reason why she doesn't want to pursue me...lack of chemistry.
I am not going to remain friends with her, and also, the "chemistry" I felt and saw on our date was pretty great. So that's strange to me. I guess people fake feelings and chemistry on dates, at least that's my impression of what took place.
But hey at least I wasn't ghosted, she had the courtesy to text me and offer some closure, so there is still hope for some people out there!
[–]Cestus_Saphrax0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
That's because they always think "I can do better !"
Maybe he wasn't >= 6ft and did not look like chad.
[–]ctgjerts0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
She didnt ghost to keep him as an option down the road. If nothing better comes along I'll reach out and ask for a second date and miraculously there will chemistry the second time around.
[–]Imperatum151 point [recovered] | Copy Link
Be her "friend" only for her to ever contact you when she needs emotional support (or free meals) as she deals with her problems and Chad treating her like shit. Sure it's good OP decided not to be her friend but he failed to realize, or acknowledge deep down, that women only enter into any type of relationship with men when it benefits them only. She won't give a shit about you when you need the support a friend is supposed to give.