Just ended a relationship

debanked · 2020-02-03T12:25:12+00:00

Remove everything of her from your life. Archive all texts, conversations and photos and store them where you can't get easy access. Delete all other copies on your devices.

Block her and avoid others who may have photos

If you think of her and get in a 'mood' work out what that feeling is and why your feel that way, acknowledge it's OK to feel that way, but remind yourself thinking about it in circles won't help or change the situation

Eat well, exercise, hit the gym, read a book, see your friends, etc

It hurts by design so go easy on yourself and give yourself time to heal.

Trust_No_Bitches · 2020-02-03T14:04:03+00:00

The hardest thing you're going to have to do is kill the dream. You've got to face reality that she didn't love you, she was never going to fulfill any of those plans you two made for the future, and she is never coming back... She may try, but you're not giving her a second chances. This is the hardest part, the second hard is is putting yourself first and taking care of your needs for once.

You've got to find a way to make yourself happy and forget about her, make your self feel the love you had for her, and meet your own needs without depending on anyone else. This could he playing video games, working out, listening to your favorite songs, treating yourself to something you really want, and reminding yourself why you're glad to be alive. The more you do for yourself now the easier your breakup will be.

The only third and final stage of this is accepting the red pills and going MGTOW. Red pills such as "there is no such thing as love" there's only a chemical reaction people mistake as love, "there is no perfect woman for you" your unicorn doesn't exist and AWALT or all women have tendencies to be a deceitful, betraying, whore, and "only you can love you unconditionally" because you're the only person who will love you all the time, are the hardest to swallow but once you accept them you do whatever you want. Go MGTOW, monk mode it for a while, decide to pump and dump, the world is your oyster after that.

You'll know when you're ready to date again when can think about your ex and not feel angry or sad about her. Your only thought are going to be something like "I can't believe I ever saw anything in her" or "She screwed up losing me." You have to be a little arrogant about yourself otherwise the self doubt is going to creep in and take over your thoughts.

TooAwareToCare · 2020-02-03T14:16:32+00:00

Take up a new hobby, build some new neural pathways.

The more you think about this girl, the stronger you engrain her into your mind.

If you find yourself reminiscing, go for a walk.

The quicker and better you build over it the quicker you forget.

Don’t force it either, that only builds resistance.

Learning to go with the flow and enjoying new experiences is key

Go live for yourself!

Let the memories lay

goustebas · 2020-02-03T12:24:39+00:00

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brontide · 2020-02-03T14:22:29+00:00

Invest time in yourself. If you don't like being alone then ask yourself why. Get a job, lift weights, go for a run, learn a new language, read a book, watch the movies you like, start investing for retirement.

evergreen35 · 2020-02-03T16:54:35+00:00

How to Get Over Break Ups and Betrayal - Jocko Willink and Echo Charles

Your DNA won't let her go- huMAN

BuddycatOwO · 2020-02-03T17:16:16+00:00

Find something to do solo, like a hobby or a game. I've been playing Escape from Tarkov recently and it's a difficult yet rewarding game that will keep your brain occupied, and theres even a community discord where you can play with other guys if you feel like meeting some new people.

narmohare · 2020-02-04T02:31:58+00:00

Pm me if you ever need to chat.

PrinceRaj53 · 2020-02-03T12:25:46+00:00

Context and story first. What happened?

Title	Just ended a relationship
Author	goustebas
Upvotes	52
Comments	20
Date	February 3, 2020 12:16 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/ey6bl2/just_ended_a_relationship/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/MGTOW/just-ended-a-relationship.373146 https://theredarchive.com/post/373146

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