Looking for some advice around the holidays

pwnzusauce · 2019-12-23T19:45:12+00:00

I have no one to rely on. If something happens to me financially, or with my health, I am truly alone.

Even if you get married/date someone as soon as the shit hits the fan or the hard times come around the first one to jump off the ship are the women. Don't believe me? Keep browsing this sub, lots of men experience this firsthand.

You better make some good male friends who can be there for you.

Ignore those people with their "offputting" comments, misery loves company after all.

If you feel lonely get a dog/cat. If you want some nice vagina then go for a fleshlight or a doll, feels much better than the real deal without the smell and any of the buyers remorse after you get the poison out.

2019-12-23T19:43:05+00:00

I don't think it is normal for your friends to be that way. I think when people start coupling up they tend to want to hang out with other couples. When you have kids you tend to hang out with other people that have kids.

That sad part is that in about 10-15 years about 40% of your guy friends will be single after divorce.

Sorry to hear about your dad and mom and the tough family life. I am sure your loneliness can be overwhelming at times.

ctgjerts · 2019-12-23T19:48:22+00:00

Most likely their wives dont want them hanging around you. Out of fear that your freedom will be infectious and they'll have to step up/put out to keep hubby in line.

plainnsimpleforever · 2019-12-23T19:44:25+00:00

I wouldn't try to psychoanalyse them, mate. If that's who they are now, then what can you do? Their circumstances have changed and maybe the wives have them under their thumbs, or maybe they are jealous by your business success. Who knows? Just be a stand-up friend and maybe they'll come back. Plan for the worst, hope for the best.

theJackBurton13 · 2019-12-23T19:55:42+00:00

I blame the wives. I could see them not understanding being alone but to actually “disavow” you is pretty fucked up. Guess they weren’t really good friends.

Curgan1337 · 2019-12-23T20:09:54+00:00

My friends are not like this, I would recommend building some new friendships to replace the toxic people that have abandoned you like this. I understand that may be hard with the long hours you work, try and make time for hobbies that men frequent and it may help. Best of luck brother.

2019-12-23T20:20:39+00:00

That's pressure from their women and the guys are knuckling under to keep calm at home. Women don't want their husbands around single men because you will just end up reminding them of everything they gave up to be with her, and she fears (with good reason) that he will conclude the trade wasn't worth it.

So yes, this is very common. Your best bet is to make friends with guys who have been divorced or who never married by choice (e.g., not incels).

fibbingcat85 · 2019-12-23T21:13:21+00:00

Yes it is normal and sad. Women don't like single men around their husbands. The smell of freedom. I am in trouble with my wife just for posting on MGTOW apparently I am suppose to think men have to be married. Anyway be happy and try to find new friends through the MGTOW community is the best advice I can give. God Bless

GreetingsFromErf · 2019-12-23T21:15:37+00:00

I have no doubt at all that your friends are hearing it from their wives on a daily basis. They have essentially been brainwashed by the hive mind. Maybe you should just tell them you're gay. That seems to have a lot of street cred these days. Sorry to say, that isn't as much of a joke as it should be.

HoldenBalzac · 2019-12-23T21:36:58+00:00

I've had some good friends who drifted away quickly after they married. The wife becomes their primary focus, she demands all their time and attention and she starts to control who they're allowed to see or visit. I've come to accept it as normal that a friend will disappear after he marries. So I have to force myself to socialize and try to make new friends. So far as your professional life and business, it might be wise to find an attorney, Draw up some papers about durable power of attorney in case you become incapacitated. Give instructions re the whole DNR (Do Not Resuscitate) dilemma. And depending on how old you are, consider becoming a mentor to a young man or building a master/apprentice relationship. There are a lot of young men out there who have no direction and could benefit from a father figure. Part of being a leader is training men who can take over when you're ready to retire. but I suppose that can't be done in a very small organization.

Triops56 · 2019-12-24T00:10:49+00:00

The exact same thing happened to me with two of my closest friends. We have our guy time together, mountain biking and camping, but I am painfully excluded from dinner with the wives or any other mixed social events. And that only happened after I stopped dating. All of the years prior I was always included in everything.

So, if you want to maintain any kind of mixed social life, I highly recommend you not bring up anything even remotely redpilled or MGOTW. But then, do you want to live with all that truth suffocating under the surface?

Hard times call for hard choices.

2019-12-23T20:09:55+00:00

How would one start an IT consulting business? I would love to do that...

Living_Sojourner · 2019-12-23T21:23:25+00:00

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MickeyS1982 · 2019-12-23T22:15:32+00:00

That is not normal in my experience, my married friends tell me how they never get laid. Or that they are divorcing. I have lost and gained many friends over the years. If they abandoned you because you live by different rules, then let them go. They are a waste of time. Set yourself up with supplemental insurance and savings in case you get injured. Find like minded people.

techstural · 2019-12-23T22:24:13+00:00

I have been on my own for over 30 years. Maybe one difference is that I never started a business, but always cultivated my skills and sought employment. I guess both approaches have their own dis/advantages. Just try to safeguard your life/work as much as you can, making sure there are good prospects (or else, alternatives) for the future, trust yourself, and try not to worry too much. A lot of life involves worry, but often, nothing bad ever happens, unless you are making bad lifestyle projects (like drugs/alcohol, poor health, marriage, etc.).

WrongTime01 · 2019-12-24T08:16:10+00:00

Try to find new friends who have either been through similar things or have a similar mindset/lifestyle. There’s more of them out there than you think, but whatever you do, DO NOT get married or into a serious relationship. Unless a living hell is your ideal lifestyle, it is smarter to just stay out of it (and avoid women in their 30s & single moms like the plague)

Title	Looking for some advice around the holidays
Author	mgtow_temp
Upvotes	21
Comments	27
Date	December 23, 2019 7:18 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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