Lost...

DesignRed · 2018-05-23T17:13:18+00:00

There's no point in committing suicide. You're not married anymore, which means the worst part of your life is now over. Consider every day going forward a gift that you are no longer a slave to the whims of an uncaring cunt.

silive · 2018-05-23T17:31:53+00:00

You must drum the following thing into your head: Unless you look like a Greek God, every time a woman expresses an interest in you, it's because she wants to take advantage of your time & resources. She wants you to be her shopping "partner", taxi driver, walking human shield and emotional tampon. Are those the things you really want to be? Because I don't! I'm sure you can bike, lift weights, read philosophy, learn a foreign language (could come handy when it's your time to retire). The list is unlimited.

MyTwoCents101 · 2018-05-23T17:09:11+00:00

Go hiking through nature. Take steps to get in shape. Volunteer at a charity.

DangZagnut · 2018-05-23T17:25:02+00:00

Although not for me, have you considered a dog? Sometimes that can be helpful so you have something to do, come home to, forces you to walk or spend time with it, teach it to get you a beer from the refrigerator, etc.

ZeroBlink · 2018-05-23T17:12:59+00:00

You need another way to validate your own self-worth, other goals than women.
There's always things you can do to make the world better, for yourself and for others, If you care about that sort of thing.
Accept the praise for the good things you do and let go of the things that you have no control over.

drizztdourden420 · 2018-05-23T17:14:19+00:00

Nobody but you can make you happy. Concentrate on yourself and your own needs for a while. Just put yourself first and start doing things that make you happy. Maybe some bucket list things that you always told yourself that you wanted to do but never got around too. Once all of the bullshit you've dealt with is in the rear view mirror a little bit then it won't look or feel so bad.

Let's some time pass and again, focus on yourself.

801735 · 2018-05-23T17:17:14+00:00

Heavy thoughts, huh? The past, the future or the present? Or just exhausted mentally and emotionally? Physical activity? Some personal you time? Any ideas about small steps you could take that would at least not be bad, even a little good, no matter how small?

GlassOnion3141 · 2018-05-23T17:40:41+00:00

The central message of MGTOW is that a) most men deal with this BS b) it's not really your fault at all. That's consolation enough, methinks.

scarletlagomorph · 2018-05-23T17:56:15+00:00

Every time that the thought of suicide, or any self-harm for that matter, crosses your mind, stop whatever you're doing for ten seconds and just keep repeating that you matter to yourself. You've invested so much into your roles as husband/father/provide/protector that you've neglected growing your own identity and sense of self-worth in the interim.

A man's happiness is all about goal achievement so start working on self-improvement projects. Starting going to the gym if aren't already. Consider starting to train for a marathon or tough mudder contest, something high-intensity and goal-oriented. Take up a productive hobby, like gardening or carpentry, something that you can, at the end of a long day, step back and look at something that you achieved. Every day that you achieve the goals you've set for yourself will be one more day that you'll be able to see that you aren't just stuck in place.

Keep your chin up, brother. The past won't ever get better but the future easily can.

veasel79 · 2018-05-23T18:11:47+00:00

Thanks to all those that dropped by and commented, glad for the tips and perspective brothers. It's nice to know there is a place to talk with other good dudes.

Cheers 😁

Official_RCLE · 2018-05-23T17:50:47+00:00

I know this feeling. Try to discover yourself. This probably feels completely different from anything you have known, because you never had the opportunity to do so. Now is the chance!

veasel79 · 2018-05-23T18:42:46+00:00

Don't EVER kill yourself over a woman. If you do that, she wins. You want her to win? You win by going your own way and being happy.

AcrobaticAge · 2018-05-23T19:01:04+00:00

I have depression and I have had suicidal thoughts.

My most nasty suicidal crisis (I almost killed myself) was triggered by a woman with a really bad timing, since I had a lot of other problems not related to her.

I still have depression, but I get by and I really like to live. And most of all, I'm glad I didn't kill myself. No whore is worth taking my (your) own life.

Luminaffy · 2018-05-24T14:21:24+00:00

You cant get rid of suffering. But you can unplug from it. First step is to apply that knowledge. Second is to do something else. Anything that you dont associate negatively with will have an positive effect.

Title	Lost...
Author	veasel79
Upvotes	17
Comments	36
Date	May 23, 2018 5:07 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/8ll1m6/lost/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/MGTOW/lost.553233 https://theredarchive.com/post/553233

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