Need advice MGTOW

danp321321 · 2019-07-04T06:40:43+00:00

Hey Pal. Things always look worst before they improve. The only way is up right?

I guess it's all about incremental improvements, dont try and fix the whole thing at once, try doing a couple of small things every day that are going in the right direction.

Slowly slowly catchy monkey and all that.

Good luck pal, you can do it!

DangZagnut · 2019-07-04T11:35:40+00:00

I’m not entirely sure why you included my name, but you did so here goes.

I know nothing about ptsd, other than the dry psychological nonsense. I’ve not ever lived it or been burdened by it, so for that you have my sympathies.

It sounds like you’re not in the best place right now, clearly some stress, depression, and some anxiety mixed together.

I’m not going to try and tell you how to fix individual problems, debt, writing a job resume, etc. are all covered in subs like /r/personalfinance and places like that. It’s been extensively covered there.

But I’m going to share with you some tricks that can help with the underlying core problems.

I’m going to ask you to commit to doing three things and see if they help. It’s not a will power thing. It’s just three simple things which I know you can do. It will assist in getting the foundational rut out of the way. It won’t “fix” things, it’ll tilt things. This is about fixing some brain and perspective things based on how it affects your brain’s neural network.

First, every day, take a morning piss. And then make your bed immediately. Tight, quarter bounce quality. Boot camp requirements. Make it as perfect as you can, not just throw a comforter on a mattress. This first technique you find required in two places. The military, and jail houses. For pretty much the same reasons.
Second, go for a walk in a different direction every day. Don’t have just do one course you take. Maybe go get some coffee, walk through woods, the neighborhood, up one road and down another. Whatever. Goal isn’t important. But mix it up. Additionally if you drive somewhere take a different course to and from destinations as often as possible given the situation. Don’t walk or drive the same zombie path.
Third, and this one is tricky, get a job. Not a career, you keep doing that, but anything. Bag boy at a supermarket, flipping burgers, being a dishwasher. Wherever a “help wanted” sign is, so that. You can always find something better later and quit. In fact the lower and stupider the job the easier that’ll be.

Commit to these three simple tricks for, say, a month.

They sound stupid but you’ll be different, happier, and have found you can accomplish things you might have though you couldn’t next month. And then keep doing them. To help support #2, vary your diet. Get a recipe and try it out, and change the taste inputs to something else. Obviously food is expensive but there’s a lot of changes you can make with vegetables, sauces, etc.

[deleted] · 2019-07-04T13:40:43+00:00

/u/DangZagnut gave you some solid advice.

It's not about making your bed... it's about creating order from what feels like chaos. Start small, like creating order in your home, and expand from that small beginning.

Don't sweat the stupid payday loans or whatever... your credit score will take a hit... so fucking what?

Like he said, get a job... any job. Then slay that shit... Be a goddamn dish-washing master... or whatever...

Most important... stop being defeated by your failures. A failure is an opportunity my dude... seek it out.

20 years from now, you aren't going to be telling stories about some lukewarm situation where everything went kinda Okay. You'll be telling stories about overcoming adversity... how tough it was, and how many times you failed before success happened.

Persistence is key to this.

Your fishing pole, the bait you use, the spot you pick and the time of day all matter to catching fish. But by far the most important part of catching fish... is actually being there brother.

Csedilla · 2019-07-04T06:53:24+00:00

Going to second danp321321's comment, life will continue to move forward (sometimes dragging us through the fucking dirt in the process). I can relate to having a lot of anger, it's what some of us are surrounded by almost constantly (hate and indifference I call it). See the changes each day and adapt as best you can.

Boomerangs-and-beers · 2019-07-04T10:06:00+00:00

Sorry to hear about your situation brother. With your work issue, I’d suggest labour hire work. Might be shit work at the start, but if you find something in the construction industry they’ll probably take you on. And just from experience they take anyone so getting started shouldn’t be to bad

RedPilledFanatic · 2019-07-04T09:17:26+00:00

I'd advice you to seek treatment for your PTSD OP. I see very good results with EMDR treatment. Not always but in most of the cases. Face the ghosts in your mind first or they'll haunt you for the rest of your life.

Try to arrange settlements with your debt collectors as well. And take any job you can to at least sustain yourself and keep the debt collectors at bay.

MrMagtow · 2019-07-04T13:34:42+00:00

First thing to realize is you're not alone. Many people in the same boat as you. Call your local government offices and ask whom you can talk to about having all your debts amalgamated into one. That will take all the little monkeys off your back and put one medium sized monkey in the cage.

As for work, there are always jobs out there - government organizations are always advertising for more staff. Pick something which you're good at and work hard to get a good reputation (takes 6mo). Then ask the boss for a transfer to a position which works well to reduce your PTSD further or a raise.

Got to keep in mind that your crap now is temporary. It's like hunger, annoying and gets painful the longer you ignore it until you put some food into your stomach. Talk to people, ask for help. Most people are willing to help - unless you get them at the wrong moment. Stay on Target.

NietzscheExplosion · 2019-07-04T17:45:54+00:00

The only debt that is a problem is bitch debt that gets you thrown in prison(alimony childsupport).

Just declare bankruptcy and fuck those idiots for giving a guy with no job, money. Unfucking believable i gotta buy moar gold and crypro....

mgtowguy3 · 2019-07-04T10:59:00+00:00

Funny. I grew up in a small town full of guys who flew Lancaster bombers or were in the armoured Corp during the Second World War.
You sure as fuck didn't hear them whining like this.

Title	Need advice MGTOW
Author	Drayelya
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Date	July 4, 2019 5:55 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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