Need Advice

SlainFunicle · 2019-08-23T22:55:17+00:00

You feeling trapped is your mind telling you not to do this tell her marriage is not for you right now, go on youtube and listen to tom lykis dream killers and marrying too young marriage is for men who are fools

shatterthecrystal63 · 2019-08-23T23:56:17+00:00

Any advice on how to move forward in splitting up in a not so fucked up way?

Lol dude please, it's been half a decade, you're asking a lot. My best advice would be, plant C4 on the struts holding the relationshit together and blow that fucker up.

Kick her out. I don't care if she helped through a dark time, she's going to provide a far darker time for you if you go through with this nonsense. You're already on the fence, bring the other leg over and quit pussyfooting.

You want some personal experience, my recent ex and I split back in March or February. Can't remember, she was important to me, but not important enough for details. She was actively trying to cuck me into marriage with manipulative tactics that at face value, I didn't pick up on (trying to put her name on my car because she was the breadwinner I'll admit, being an RN, but it wasn't to help me, it was to lock me down), but I had a sense of it.

We got into it over a weekend because I straight up told her I'll never get married. She asked "so if I WAS pregnant, would I be becoming a single mom right now?" To which I replied "that question had a lot of load behind it".

Her response? "Yeah, yeah it kinda did..." Gotcha bitch. Trying to guilt me into settling down with her fat ass by implying she was pregnant. I always wore protection, and watched her to make sure she didn't try to sperm-jack me (yes it happens). Next thing I knew, we were done. Easy as that, 2 years dating, one living together.

Half a decade is gonna suck, but I'll share a phrase that helps me through having to do stupid shit: "do it now, while it's fun".

Best of luck.

CoinSwapTrader · 2019-08-24T00:39:19+00:00

dump her at the altar....or just dont sign the stupid state marriage contract....have a party but dont sign the contract!

DDay_woke · 2019-08-24T00:48:08+00:00

Bro. If I'm being honest with myself, I doubted my future marriage the week my wedding. And I'm not talking normal stage fright. The way she was acting that week was seriously concerning. Like I wasn't the costar of the show. It wasn't a small thing.

Fast forward 4.5 years later, I'm getting divorced because she fucked 3 dudes and almost passed STDs onto me and our child.

Listen to your gut. As hard as it is now, it will be harder later. I ignored my voice once. Never again.

Sciguy314 · 2019-08-24T01:00:17+00:00

just remember that piece of paper you sign as a legal binding document and a contract. If you guys are religious you can have a spiritual wedding and make your commitments that way and you still vow to each other verbally. Actions matter (signing a contract) words matter too but that’s a direct reflection of the individuals character. It’s a contract. Let me say that again... IT IS A CONTRACT. Have a celebration and commit to each other with your vows. Don’t involve the state it’s non of their business anyways. Would you sign up for a cable tv package that offered unlimited data, unlimited ppv etc? And then when they turn it off still expect you to pay your bill and if you don’t they sue you (and win 98% of the time) for not paying even thought they didn’t fulfill their end of the bargain? Or would you like the same option and pay month to month?

iseehot · 2019-08-24T03:33:31+00:00

You have been dating her since you were 14. Are you aware of how they tether grown elephants?

She supported you in getting you life clean, but you did the work and are still doing it to keep from backsliding. She will coast on the little effort she put in for as long as you let her.

wathon2 · 2019-08-24T09:35:36+00:00

RUN for the hill.

she doesn't work or go to school, what do you think she does when you are at work all day busting your ass.

You are an apprentice electrician, you should focus all your time and money on your career. If she baby trapped you, it's fucking over.

At the end of the day when all is said and done, there is ZERO benefit for you in marriage; only a life time of obligations and potentially great suffering.

Anonymous-Samurai · 2019-08-24T10:01:06+00:00

Do your best to get a refund for everything

Then tell her that you're calling off the wedding

jkarovskaya · 2019-08-24T14:56:19+00:00

$20,000 on a wedding VENUE, and you're still just an apprentice, and she's making small money or nothing at all?

That's insane, you should just call it off.

You're still very young, and in my book, most men will not have the maturity or consciousness of their own soul, their own life direction until they are about 30.

DO NOT MARRY HER!

End it, and live your own life

Title	Need Advice
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Date	August 23, 2019 10:42 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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