Need your help.

HIGHLORDOFSHITSTAINS · 2017-02-19T01:28:36+00:00

Idk man i damn near drank my myself to death. I don't suggest you do that.

Hit the gym? Force yourself to do shit.

Everytime you think about her you gotta do 20 push ups.

Hit a punching bag.

Ariesthatwatches · 2017-02-19T02:00:21+00:00

Try meditating and find out why you feel like you needed her acceptance.

Maybe once you identify the underlying issue, you can constructively and intentionally reverse or mitigate the problem. Or at least identify the problem when it resurfaces from time to time and try tackling it in a productive manner where you focus your mind on something else.

To be completely honest, there is no one trick to stop the feeling what you feel. You'll have to grow as an individual in order to overcome that feeling.

I struggle with it. But I'm the type to get angry/motivated, and that motivation/anger will usually lead me into a completely different train of thought. I'll usually end up working out. That usually helps me out cause it releases endorphins which makes me feel good. After that It'll be the farthest thing from my mind. But each person is different, something else may help you out vs me.

IronPimpernel · 2017-02-19T02:03:03+00:00

Sure, man. She's all up in your head and you need to excise her like the damn tumor she is. I took up alcoholism for a few years, that's done the trick but I do not recommend it. Daily meditation is a great help for training your brain to toe the line. There's plenty of things to fill your life with - Reading, physical exercise, art, work, e-sports. See, the problem is that pussy is a drug and you are an addict. Having the drug taken away from you (the chick leaves) is your rehab. She's not coming back. She doesn't love you. She's the one responsible for making you feel this way, so fuck that bitch.

Here's something that helped me when I couldn't shift the funk: Spend a day in mourning. Just drink, cry, break shit, whatever you need to do - just do it alone. Then after that day is over, you will no longer have the slow-drip emotional torture that you had. Where that was, there will be nothing. Only you will remain.

Rescuedbeta · 2017-02-19T01:56:46+00:00

Is your house clean? Is your dishes done? Do you cook your own meals? Any projects you been wanting to do? Do your friends have any you can help with. Have a dog? Take it for a walk. Go to gym. Wash your car. Go to batting cages, gun range, driving range. Avoid porn, alcohol and probably romantic music, movies. They will make you miss pussy and wipe out any progress you make. Your body will give you energy you just have to tell your brain to fuck off. Once, you start accomplishing shit you will gain confidence, willpower, mental fortitude.

Lorddevonshire · 2017-02-19T03:28:03+00:00

I've been devastated by my first girlfriend and another one I had in my late 20's. Both were 3+ year relationships. I handled them both almost the same, I didn't understand what was going on. It was intense pain. Both times I drank enough alcohol for a lifetime and engaged in self destructive behavior. Eventually I woke up and decided to never feel like that again.

There's already sound advice here. My advice would be patient with yourself and understand that it's gonna hurt for a while but the pain will end eventually. You'll be able to build your life back up.

If I could do it again I'd try to avoid alcohol. It compounded my problems beyond my heartache. Good luck and keep your head up, fake it until you make it.

byers18901 · 2017-02-19T02:36:26+00:00

Was she your first serious girlfriend? I know with my first serious gf when we broke up it tore me up inside for months. I loved her so incredibly much. But that's the rub. You love her. She doesn't love you. Not the same way you did her.

Now is the hard part. Letting go. It's hard. It's soul crushing. But each day will get a little bit better. Until she is just a string of memory. Ephemeral. Popping up in your consciousness from time to time. Until she drifts back into the ether.

There's a strong likelihood she'll never be fully gone. That's okay. Just try not to dwell on it.

Take it one day at a time. And just try to make each day better than the last.

As far as getting out of the funk you need to lift weights. Even if it is simple body weight resistance type stuff. Read 15 minutes a day minimum. Has to be something tangible you hold in your hand. Like a book or magazine. Aim to take a 15-20 minute walk everyday. Both of these activities are the MED to release endorphins to boost your mood. Also cultivate gratitude.

In the morning take 5 minutes and think of three things you are grateful for. Write them down so you see it. Could be your first car you ever had. A compliment you received. Your house. Waking up. A vacation you took. Your job. You get the idea.

Meditation is also a good idea. Or at least practice mindfulness. So when you feel the funk coming you can at least be cognizant of it and try to push it away. Or drop and do a pushup or more even, if you feel the darkness coming on.

R/nonzeroday - check it out. I think it will be of some help to you.

Just do the best you can. And forgive yourself if you have a bad day. We're only human.

Best of luck to you brother. We're here for you.

Iseewhateyesee · 2017-02-19T02:54:34+00:00

Why cry over spilt milk?

Read the Manipulated Man if you haven't already.

As you do, you'll notice something.

We are but bees in a beehive.

But that spell can be undone.

It's not easy, it may take some time. Learn. Strengthen. Be.

Time will reveal the truth if you so seek it. I too went through something like this. But I know definitively that if shit had not gone down the way it did, leading me into my first bit with depression, I would have been in monumental shit for the years to come.

You've heard the stories: divorce rape, not your child, abuse charges...the list goes on.

You get me? One day you'll thank her for the knowledge you're soon to withhold

phreshstart · 2017-02-19T05:04:58+00:00

I know some mgtow here will downvote me for bringing this into conversation... But what helped me get over it really fast, was taking in the red pill knowledge. It helped me rationalize what and why she did and it also helped understanding my blue pill mentality. Checkout the sidebar and read some of the posts. Don't start pumping and dumping because it will get you nowhere. But learn about Oneits and AWALT. That's just my opinion, as a mgtow you're free to do whatever you want.

iamlikethewindbaby · 2017-02-19T05:36:05+00:00

Stay busy and wait.

mofono · 2017-02-19T06:14:37+00:00

Stay calm and go MGTOW.

Morb357 · 2017-02-19T06:25:33+00:00

Martial Arts can be a great way to focus on real goals. Whether its Eastern like Karate, or Brazilian Ju Jitsu or European like Longsword; you can set real reachable goals and meet some great people.

I personally train sidesword and have met most of my current friends from this activity and I feel like I have become quite proficient with a blade. I may eventually travel to Europe and compete against the masters of the art someday---another goal to try for.

Title	Need your help.
Author	FuckedExistence
Upvotes	24
Comments	14
Date	February 19, 2017 1:09 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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