I (19F) messed up and got pregnant by my BFF’s (20F) dad (48M). He doesn’t want me telling anyone but I feel like I need to talk to my BFF for support.

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Like the title says, I messed up big time. My best friend’s dad took her to a trip in Europe after the winter quarter at school and invited me. He even paid for both our tickets and lodging. It was my first time in Europe, excited, and (legally) drinking. Eventually it just got to me.

The last night I was hanging out at the hotel bar with my best friend’s dad because my best friend and her mom had to go back to the states a day early for a family thing before Christmas (her dad does not get along with the in-laws so he had a different itinerary home). Anyway I got really smashed because alcohol and free (he was buying)...and next thing I remember was having all sorts of sex with him or towards the end of it. I don’t quite remember the details. Fast forward to now, I’m pregnant, still super early, so he wants me to get rid of it and not tell anyone. I just feel scared and want to talk to my best friend. Definitely not talking to my parents (ultra conservative and they would not understand).

Should I ask for permission to talk things through with my best friend? Get emotional support from her? I just know she will support me no matter what and come with me to the clinic, that’s the kind of besties we are.

TL;DR: Got knocked up by my bestie’s dad and I really want to talk to her about it and get some emotional support, but he doesn’t want me to.