Past regrets...

Haunting_Might_2797 · 2021-01-05T09:50:03+00:00

“Finish every day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit to be cumbered with your old nonsense.“

Raph Waldo Emerson

rocky_racoon_2020 · 2021-01-05T09:44:16+00:00

The sad people are the ones who keep making the same mistakes.

We see this all the time with Simps.

I was going to a marriage consoler years ago. Great woman. After just a few times my wife stopped going but I continued. She just asked me questions, that got me thinking. I did lots of thinking about myself. I read many books. Then I realized I was doing something that is very common. Repeating an destructive relationship from childhood. She never told me that. Just asked pointed questions about my parents that I never thought about before. How I was treated.

After a while I said to her, how come it took me until 37 to figure this out. Her answer will always be in my mind. She said, "Some people go their whole life and never figure it out."

Be grateful you can see the mistakes and are able to move on, even capitalize on it.

I divorced my wife a short time after this and this insight opened my mind to possibilities. Both in my personal life and business life. I changed my attitudes. I became a positive person not a negative one.

worthyK28 · 2021-01-05T08:15:06+00:00

I understand man the past follows you no matter where you go and you can feel the regret crawling on your skin. Just learn on how to use the past to steer you into the person you want to become, by doing that you will fall into the stages of forgiving yourself.

Nd5jy74636 · 2021-01-05T08:31:09+00:00

You can't change mistakes, only learn from them.

That being said, many men get stuck with decisions they made in haste when they were in the teen years.

Be resolute in your decisions, the odds were not in your favor for a fairy tale perfect relationship.. and more likely quite the opposite.

lastminutedash · 2021-01-05T08:31:09+00:00

You've got to realise that now you're different to how you were back then. You've changed, see things from a different perspective, and have the advantage of hindsight.

Nobody gets everything right, and in our cases, often get a lot of things wrong. Knowing you would do things differently now means you've improved as a person, and that's nothing to be ashamed of.

The hardest thing to do is accept you can't change the past, and what you thought was a good course of action then didn't turn out to be all that good. A little forgiveness on your part wouldn't hurt.

jd46249 · 2021-01-05T07:51:47+00:00

What experiences are you talking about? Dating? Being rebellious? Drugs?

Not sure what’s stopping you now.

Stalwart88 · 2021-01-05T13:10:59+00:00

I'm in my 30s and i can't think of a single worthwhile opportunity i lost since my 20s

prbonfanti · 2021-01-06T01:44:31+00:00

We can't go back to the past, or to know the future, overthinking about both can give you lots of anxiety.
Experiences can be fun, but many of then end with trauma, debts, jail time, diseases, treason,etc.
As you didn't had a lot of them in your mind you only consider the good part not the consequences, and even if some of those girls didn't became enraged landwhales, there is nothing to gain burning synapses on that.
Chart some good objective for your life and make it happen, even if you don't get the prize in the end, will make more sense than pointless regret.
I am writing this to myself too, of course.

RaiderBoyComingIn · 2021-01-06T09:59:15+00:00

Most of us go through this feeling, you are not alone.

Title	Past regrets...
Author	Helpmgtow
Upvotes	20
Comments	11
Date	January 5, 2021 7:43 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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