Please brothers, help me.

Stopbeingfuckingbeta · 2017-06-09T16:25:42+00:00

You sound like you're focusing entirely too much on what other people are thinking about you. Don't worry about relationships right now man, just find some things you enjoy doing and relax. Don't listen to your family or any girls telling you anything negative, they're 100% just jealous that you have the drive to do something they don't. If you're happy with your life the drive will come so focus on chilling out and having a good time.

MigTau · 2017-06-09T17:04:37+00:00

TRP was once a place much similar to MGTOW, where the premise behind self improvement was doing it for yourself and thereby detaching your worth from women - but ironically attracting women through that process. Getting a 32 pack is great, unless you expect something in return from someone else. If you are still tethering your self-worth to women you lose in every way.

Marque01 · 2017-06-09T16:26:04+00:00

If you were in a 4 year relationship, you've already experienced what it's like.

DThrillard · 2017-06-09T17:02:22+00:00

I got out of a 4 year relationship with a really bad emotional abuser. Same girl I was with when she was killed and revived in a car accident cheated and left me when I lost my job.

I want to go full MGTOW but I still want to experience relationships even though they may be fake.

I don't get the cognitive dissonance, brotha. Sounds to me like you've already experienced it to a T. All relationships end up with the woman becoming very unhappy and ruining your life, just some of them decide to stick around because it's easier than leaving and trying again.

If you want a relationship, go get one. They're literally the easiest things in the world to get. But it won't make you any more fulfilled or satiated. Those things can only come from within.

mentalidade_logica · 2017-06-09T18:13:02+00:00

I don't proclaim to have all the answers but this is how I would go about it: Edit

Step 1) Plan to move out of the nest -now. This will immediately boost your self-worth.

Step 2) Focus on yourself and only yourself and unless they are putting food on your table everyday, adopt the attitude "I Don't Care" and repeat it everyday. Listen to MGTOW videos, Sandman is pretty good.

Step 3) Make a wish list with attainable incremental goals and reward yourself accordingly, such as trip a new toy, etc.

Step 4) Yes experience life but always remain MGTOW + Debt Free. A lady of the evening, a fling, a sex robot, etc.

Blue Pill is a combo of Nature (hard to control) + society (easy to control). Start with the weakest link; use Ms Palmer and her daughters frequently to address Nature. Be strong Bro!

PillowCastLongShadow · 2017-06-09T19:59:04+00:00

You've been working for months to improve yourself. This is good, but why did you do it? Your reason was to impress someone that doesn't care about you. Should you be left feeling better or worse about yourself? Women today don't usually even pretend to value men. At least a billion men show them continuously that they don't need to pretend.

You are looking for validation from someone who doesn't care. How could this ever impart value to your life? If you can't find inner validation your only other option is to find something or someone to provide that validation. If you are a theist you would look to God for this. If you aren't then it must come from elsewhere. It is impossible to separate your feelings from your beliefs, many pretend to do this unsuccessfully, so you need to be prepared for the times that inward validation doesn't work.

Be mindful when you get the desire to be with someone. Break that down and examine it. Be fully aware of the desire and then begin distancing yourself from it. Visualize the desire as being spatially separate from your body. Affirm to yourself that the desire is not you. You have fused the idea of relationship with the emotion of happiness. Research mindfulness techniques and DBT as they address how to get past mental stumbling blocks and instruct how to break apart fused constructs.

Lastly, accept reality to prevent suffering. This alone does not stop the pain but you will not suffer. This radical acceptance is just admitting what reality is. Women don't care and only put up with some men for a short period of time. You have placed your worth in their hands and now you feel the pain. Do not approve of this but accept the reality as true.

TL;DR Do you even lift bro?

mdcrubengonza · 2017-06-09T17:53:27+00:00

Lift. It's not hard. Until then, keep at it with women or don't. You'll learn. MGTOW and TRP are not exclusive to each other.

dirtydog113 · 2017-06-09T18:22:40+00:00

Something I did a long time ago .. threw a pack on my back , and just went.went wherever.Hitchhiked. Had some emergency money left with my parents if needed . Odd jobs for food , fishing to eat as well . Camped wherever , on beaches , under bridges , under the stars by a fire . Just relaxed and learnt to be happy for myself. I think it was what got me into my last LTR .I was happy with who i was and where life was going for me.After 23 years of blue pill ,now getting over the red pill rage. Just relax , dont overthink .spend some time with yourself. Dont worry about women.

Minister-For-Men · 2017-06-09T19:37:15+00:00

Sounds like ur exaggerating over heartache. If uve had a four year realionship, ur not in the bad position you think u R.

Your abusive relationship....did you report her to the police?

Why not?

Title	Please brothers, help me.
Author	Stopbeingfuckingbeta
Upvotes	14
Comments	18
Date	June 9, 2017 4:19 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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