Seeking support and guidance

manthrowingmyownway · 2017-07-26T06:24:34+00:00

I think your age could be playing a role here. If you're young and you libedo is strong then you'll have a tough time, but it gets better with age.

Otherwise/also my other advice is keep taking red pills. If you know you it's like to have a GF then you know how much of a time and freedom sink it can be. You just need the logic of the situation to overcome your emotions.

Of you were lucky enough to have a NSA arrangement then realize it was never forever. It never is.

Mr_Career_Day · 2017-07-26T05:54:48+00:00

I went through this exact thing about a year ago, and it was pretty terrible. On one hand there's this masochistic side of yourself that enjoys wanting and longing for someone, while on the other hand the logical side is saying to give up and leave it alone.

All I can say is give it time. Eventually the magic will wear off -- probably in phases that include depression or anger -- but things will certainly get better and you will be free as long as you choose not to torment yourself overlong. Fill your mind and time as much as possible with positive things, things you enjoy.

Remember, it is always better to be lonely and alone than lonely and in a relationship.

Best of luck to you. I hope you can overcome this soon.

protonexus1 · 2017-07-26T07:54:38+00:00

You are in love with a figment of your imagination.

801735 · 2017-07-26T05:38:56+00:00

~~Are you a woman? (It is a valid question, what!)~~ checked history, ok.

Who defines that "being a Real Man©®"?

_Hachiman_Hikigaya_ · 2017-07-26T06:03:56+00:00

Try swimming dude. It will helps. Take a cold shower's. Spend your time in nature. Channel your feelings on the knowledge. Try learning new things on online.

RealPoliPundit · 2017-07-26T07:05:04+00:00

Go to a German or Austrian FKK, and fuck dozens of girls who look like this for $50 a pop. Completely legal and regulated.

Save up a couple of grand, and do this. Think of it as "MGTOW University," the most awesome college experience on earth!

Fulfill all your fantasies, those girls are not shy. Tell them the truth, that you're trying to forget a girl; they'll be eager to help, especially if one of them looks like her.

Have at least one threesome. Or foursome. Or fivesome! Pay only the official prices, don't let the girls take more.

Take some Cialis to make it even better; you can buy it online.

You'll quickly be sick of women, and can then move on to more interesting pursuits. Moreover, the bitchy land whales at home will never compare to your FKK memories; so you'll have little tolerance for ugly American women.

When you return, follow the Buddha's dying advice about women: Don't look at them. If you see one, don't speak to her. If she speaks to you, be mindful and maintain self-control.

If you feel the urge in subsequent years, go to "university" again, and refresh your knowledge.

HumanBeingOfEarth · 2017-07-26T10:34:00+00:00

You're lacking self love. When you truly come to accept and love yourself you will never feel the need for anyone elses presence. You're allowing this fantasy define to your love. This is a desire that will (like all desires) lead to suffering. Give yourself permission to enjoy this human experience. Check out the four noble truths to Buddhism this also will help with your suffering.

Four noble truths;

Existence is suffering. Life all around you is suffering. Even the fact that you need to eat and drink water will cause suffering if you do not manage it properly.
Suffering come from attachments and desires. Rather attached to objects or ideologies, or desire money and women, hell even attached to expectations will lead to suffering.
To reduce suffering in your human experience you must let go of attachment and desires. To reach Nirvana (inner utopia/happiness) you have to learn to be happy here right in this very moment on Earth with nothing else but your own good health.
To achieve 3 the Buddha recommends you follow the eightfold path.

stringedbeams · 2017-07-26T13:27:54+00:00

Any advice on how to get out of this situation?

No but I feel this too OP:

Despite what I know, Red pill and all; my logic telling me what is really going on, I can't get rid of this feeling.

I just "run" with and from it and keep focusing on the next thing I need to be working on

(edit: journal free writing helps too)

Oceanus234 · 2017-08-01T21:22:13+00:00

I will try to help you here. I am 21 and yet never even kissed women and suffering from dysthymia. I am studying IT yet I failed my programming exam 2 times now and I need to pass this to be able to get a diploma. Getting out of the bed is hard not to mention something like computer programming. And while I don't go out much and have few friends that I see few times a year, I mean they rarely bother with anything but themselves. I am thinking a lot if a girl or something will fix that hole of despair and constant battle with my mind which is primarily that idea of love we all here think existed. Although maybe there is some, for now it is very distant and not worth the effort probably. I see that you ask yourself:

Why is my brain doing these crazy shenanigans? I feel like I am being puppeted by someone wanting me to go into a relationship, get a family and so on.

There is nothing wrong with wanting love and relationship, we are humans, you have empathy and from what I can see you are an intelligent man trying to find your way out of the hole. You have feelings and very strong emotional intelligence, something that women LACK. So after all this I just remember what kind of beings females are, remember hypergamy and basic social construct that is today with all virtue they lack.I remember number of partners they have today as soon as before 21,22. Plus some sleep because it is very helpfull. Its like you are dead, cant feel pain, yet you are alive. And I am back on my feet again. I am afraid that this is thing that never go away completely. But you can take necessary steps to ease it and to remove it from head when time comes. Asking for help here already showed what kind of man you are. The one with empathy, awarness, and feelings, again something that majority women today will never have. Do not compete with anyone over a women nor her "love" that you think she can give you.

"Here's what they want from me They're asking me to eliminate some of the women hate But if you take into consideration the bitter hatred I had Then you may be a little patient and more sympathetic to the situation And understand the discrimination But fuck it, Life's handing you lemons Make lemonade then But if I can't batter the women How the fuck am I supposed to bake them a cake then?"

Title	Seeking support and guidance
Author	manthrowingmyownway
Upvotes	11
Comments	13
Date	July 26, 2017 5:27 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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