So I have been arguing with a hardcore, religious, Christian tradcon friend for a while now, trying to tell him AWALT. I guess I am just a masochist.

Now the reason why we are arguing is because he asserts that there is a spiritual component in male-female relationships. He states that marriage is sacred and blessed, and that there are elements of spiritual love and companionship. He believes that marriage is beneficial to Dad, Mom and kids. It is a great thing because you get companionship, kids and love. Love here does not necessarily mean sex.

I assert that women are designed or evolved (whatever floats your boat) to sap the resources from men. Children take from women, women take from men and men produce. Marriage is to produce kids and raise them with a father in order that they grow up well-adjusted. There is no other reason for it. Cohabitation is the same thing as a marriage without kids.

The crux of our disagreement is about the importance of the husband-wife relationship. He thinks it's spiritual and transcending. I say that it is an exchange of resources and protection for sex and kids. We disagree on my position that women offer nothing UNIQUE to men except sex and kids. He thinks that women can offer something in a relationship aside from sex and kids. He believes in the oft-mentioned "relationship," of the tradcon bluepills.

Assuming that I'm correct, why do so many intelligent young men believe in the false narrative of the "relationship"? Male friendships are infinitely better, as the only difference between friendships and these "relationships" is the availability of sex. The extreme majority of women can't joke, don't like male hobbies, don't take risks, are vain, unintelligent and are only interested in topics related to mate-attraction.

I hear this claptrap all the time at the nearby Christian college. So many guys talk about managing their "relationship," elaborating on the dynamics of give-and-take and Christly sacrifice. These men cannot see that they share natural and fun friendships with other men without needing to compromise, cajole, satisfy and placate the other party.

Why don't men see relationships with women for what they are? It is their resources and attention for her SEX.

TLDR:

Male friendships don't require men to think so fucking hard to keep them going. They are also fun. Whereas male tradcon relationships with females require them to spend 90% of their mental horsepower trying to keep her happy, yet men think the latter is more special than the former while denying that it is for SEX.