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I’d start to read into divorce strategies and talk to a male divorce lawyer to get some solid advice to lay the groundwork if I were you.
How much longer is your education going to take? Sounds like you’d be best to initiate divorce as your education is in the last year or so, or maybe when just completed. This way you get to spend your money on your education vs her and the spawn. Lawyer should be able to give good input. Keep her on a financial leash and push her to make more money.
One advice I hear is never leave the house and the settlement and everything is completed, otherwise it will become her house.
Depending on your career you may be able to start a business from it to mask real income or go to another country to work, perhaps a non extradition one and skip payments, or just hunker down live off less and pay for the mistakes but enjoy your freedom, which is more valuable than money.
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Withdraw all 50k and purchase gold with most of it. Get your new passport, birth certificate, cash, gold etc and a one way ticket to SE Asia (I prefer Cambodia myself). You get the idea. You'll be ok for at least 10 years if you live a frugal lifestyle which will give you more than enough time to figure out what to do next.
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40-45k in gold isn't that big of a bag and will only weigh a little over a pound. I would, of course, split it up into several chunks and stash it in luggage and even mail a portion of it to myself overseas.
Crypto could work, https://coinatmradar.com/ should help in finding ATM's to convert bitcoin out of a wallet into cash.
https://www.shiftpayments.com/card is a debit card which will directly access your coinbase wallet. With this shift card linked to a "high yield investor checking" account with Charles Schwab and the corresponding Schwab debit card, you can move movey from bitcoin to schwab and then extract cash out of any ATM around most of the world without paying ATM fees or Currency conversion fees. Schwab recompensates you for those fees. Of course all of this could be shutdown/confiscated via a court order.
And simply paying for products/services with bitcoin is also an option. I've seen a few businesses in the past two years who accept payment via bitcoin. Bar/restaurant/accommodations, it's just a matter of finding them. They'll usually have it posted on their business door/window that they accept bitcoin payments.
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