Sorry if this sounds so vague and incomplete. I am confused and my eyes are all swollen up
I thought that I had a pretty happy marriage with "Jonas". We have been together for over 11 years now and married for 9. We have twins (f8).
Jonas works in a branch of business were he spents 3 months outside and 3 months at home. During this time he will visit us and we will visit him. It is I convinient but he earns really good. So good so that I needn't work if I didn't want to.
During all those years I have never suspected him if cheating. He was always "super honest" with me and would even tell me about attraction to other people he felt.
So this comes all of the blue for me. Jonas is away on a business trip for the weekend. A woman knocked on my door. She introduces herself as "cherry". When I asked her what it was about she broke down crying. I took her in and after calming her she started to tell me this story about Jonas. Apparently she and Jonas have been together for over 6 years and have a little boy (3)together.
We were both fooled because he keeps his life there completely separate from our life here. He has 2 different sets of social media accounts. And as his parents sadly passed away in a car accident 15 years ago he didn't have to introcude either to them.
At first I was livid and screamed at her. Till I calmed down as she was just a victim.
Apparently chery found out my(our) husband has an apparemment that was paid for by the company (were he would take me if I visit) trough some bank statements. She searched his keys and went snooping. There is were she found out about us and decided she wanted to tell me the truth after thinking for over 3 months about it.
We both cried our eyes out together. Cursed out Jonas and now she is sleeping on my couch.
She is not legally married to Jonas as he sold her the "I don't believe in marriage Spiel". The only legal spouse he has is me. I know I have to divorce him but maybe I just need some extra advice and a little husband roasting. Also should I keep in touch with chery and should we introduce our kids?
Edit : I guess reddit only takes stories serious if it has happened over and over again.
Thanks for the few helpful advices I have gotten and a serious fuck you to the people making fun of me or calling me a troll. I honestly thought that someone would listen to me here but I guess it's if I wanted that I needed to have better grammar and a less crazy story.
Thanks for the people that did tho. Cherry has left and I will pick up my kids from my sister's right now. I will be leaving the house for a few days to get my ducks in a row and begin legal proceedings
[β]AlbertCohol21 points22 points23 points (0 children) | Copy Link
What a dumbass! As if it isnβt bad enough to have one wife, he got himself two.
[β]TowerOfMG12 points13 points14 points (1 child) | Copy Link
Jonas, brother, you are such an idiot.
[β]fingbacca0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Slow clap for this. Well done.
[β]TaiYongMedical2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
How pointlessly tragic.
[β]mgtowguy33 points4 points5 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Fucking Chad. LOL.
[β]DCfueledbyPopeyes2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Truly upside down land.
[β][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
I feel nothing for the women.
As long as heβs paying for his kids everything they need then who cares?
Heβs paying for everyone right?
Theyβre strong independent women right?
What more do they want?
I think heβs dumb for doing any of it.
But if heβs taking responsibility for it all then who the fuck cares?
Napoleon Bonaparte complained about this. He said men should be allowed to have more than one wife because once she gets old and fat, he might as well not be married.
Why are men such idiots?
[β]Lorist1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
My bullshit detector is ringing off the charts. And I don't even have a good one.
"full blown secret family" Oh my, fully blown? That's terrible. (production note, Close Up on the back of an SUV with a daddy, mommy and two little girls stickers, zoom out to typical suburban home).
"Sorry if this sounds so vague and incomplete." early apology suggests they know what's to follow is a lie, so you should perceive it as vague and incomplete, not as a lie.
"I am confused and my eyes are all swollen up" yet you can write 12 paragraphs, perfect grammar and an "edit" belies any confusion.
"We have twins (f8)." nice touch.
"branch of business were he spents 3 months outside and 3 months at home." What branch could that possibly be? That business don't exist.
"he will visit us and we will visit him." WTF. Huge red flag, what husband with twins "visits" his family outside of divorce. Ever? A wife who's husband is away for business would have said "We visit him when he's out of town". What has happened is that the writer has confused the voices of two characters and their perspectives. A wife who was cheated on wouldn't do that.
"So good so that I needn't work if I didn't want to." Motive for not investigating what the hell a husband is doing away for 3 months of the year for the last 8 years? I don't understand why a wife would just throw that out there.
"He was always "super honest" with me and would even tell me about attraction to other people he felt." Why does that sound like BS to me?
"So this comes all of the blue for me." Soap Opera Drama, get ready to clutch your pearls.
"Jonas is away on a business trip for the weekend." I thought he was away for 3 months. Get your story straight. Or are you saying, he was living with your family, not the other, so if the girlfriend left him to come crying to you he wouldn't be suspicious so she had to come when he was at neither household, but then how did she know he was going to be out of town and away from both of you and know it was the perfect time to visit? Convoluted.
"A woman knocked on my door. She introduces herself as "cherry"." Even a soap opera name, but then so is Jonas.
"When I asked her what it was about she broke down crying." this sounds like the set up for a joke.
"after calming her" more dramatic story telling, here the writer has made her heroine sympathetic and likeable to the reader.
"He has 2 different sets of social media accounts. And as his parents sadly passed away in a car accident 15 years ago he didn't have to introcude either to them." how convenient, I wasn't wondering how to have two separate relationships, but thanks for the advise anyway. And it had to be a car accident, tragic, while it's dramatic I question if it takes sympathy away from the heroine, you may want to rewrite that bit. And maybe the biggest slip up is this "either to them" when the first person author suddenly falls into the second person describing herself. The character in the first person would have been more likely to write from her own perspective, "so he never had to introduce either me or cherry to them." or "neither of us to them."
"At first I was livid and screamed at her. Till I calmed down as she was just a victim." There it is folks, the V word." Cue the pump-organ, grab your hankies.
"Apparently chery found out my(our) husband has an apparemment that was paid for by the company (were he would take me if I visit) trough some bank statements. She searched his keys and went snooping. There is were she found out about us and decided she wanted to tell me the truth after thinking for over 3 months about it."
My gawd. Honestly. You just tied up all the loose ends and convicted him. This soap opera is a little bit standard though, couldn't you have invented a more original receipt for the other woman to stumble upon? Because bank statement leading to Keys leading to apartment leading to the wife is a huge investigative leap. I mean, did she use the odd key and start trying to open every apartment door in town until one opened and low and behold there was a photo of him (grinning) with you and the twins hanging over the mantle? And why did he have a bank statement if the company was paying for it? And how does an bank statement yield an address? That is super sleuthing.
"We both cried our eyes out together. Cursed out Jonas " Of course you did. I can see it all now. The hugs, sharing a hanky, the embarrassed looks, then the humiliation and sudden rage. So much said in such a economy of words.
"and now she is sleeping on my couch." again, sympathetic heroine is more likeable to the reader.
"She is not legally married to Jonas as he sold her the "I don't believe in marriage Spiel." That dirty rascal!
"I know I have to divorce him but maybe I just need some extra advice..." Do you now?
"and a little husband roasting." So you came to MGTOW to roast a man? Is this a prank you have to play in order to get into a sorority? If MGTOW's take your side, you get to be a pledge?
"Also should I keep in touch with chery and should we introduce our kids?" That is rich. Ask for advice even though you wouldn't possibly need it. And the pathos hidden within that innocent question. You should consider writing for film or TV.
"Edit : I guess reddit only takes stories serious if it has happened over and over again." WTF, everyone here seemed to be convinced of your lie.
"Thanks for the few helpful advices I have gotten and a serious fuck you to the people making fun of me or calling me a troll. I honestly thought that someone would listen to me here but I guess it's if I wanted that I needed to have better grammar and a less crazy story."
Okay, so you didn't get into the sorority and now you're mad at reddit for your inability to tell a convincing story, yet your still trying. Points for that, I guess.
"Cherry has left and I will pick up my kids from my sister's right now." How fucking long did she stay? and what happened to her toddler while she was
sleeping weeping on your sofa
"I will be leaving the house for a few days to get my ducks in a row and begin legal proceedings" Voice over as an SUV drives slowly over the hill into the sunset. (production note, the husband sticker has been scraped off of the rear window).