Ultra depressed, need help

Paladin2903 · 2016-12-03T05:15:53+00:00

You're not old, my friend. Especially in this day in age. Hell, 30 is basically like 21 or 22. Especially being male, you have the clock on your side. This is where life starts to turn in your favor. 30 is where women start to lose value, and you start to gain it. It only gets better, as a male.

I know it sucks to lose a job, but this is a new beginning. And no, that isn't just some cliche line. I speak from experience. I've been exactly where you are.

My best advice is to take up a trade that is in demand. You can always make money with trades. Hell, even a regular construction laborer makes great money.

So you have to move back in with your folks for a while. It happens (and has happened) to even the best of us.

Your attitude and drive is what's most important right now. The world just punched you in the face and knocked you down. Get back up and beat the shit out of that motherfucker. ;)

lonewolf-chicago · 2016-12-03T06:05:58+00:00

I was there 2.5 years ago. Lost my apt and moved with a friend in another state. I could NOT find a job. Borrowed money from relatives and landed a a job finally after 9 months of being unemployed. In March ill be employed for 2 years and just now paying back the last person I owe.

It is gut wrenching. It is humiliating. It was emasculating.

I listened to Alan Watts.. The man that brought Zen. To the U.S. It was comforting and I learned a lot.

I lived in the moment. I had nothing to lose. I finally started working and have done well since.

It has been a very difficult road, but I get to tell my daughter and show her that you never give up.

Sometimes I tell her about the journey and things I thought. I promised myself I would not steal, I would not commit a crime and twice she has said that I'm basically a hero and that I am inspiring. She can see what's proper behavior when you fall on bad times.

I definitely found out who my friends were. Who my decent relatives were. I had people who straight out used it as a way to ridicule me and to emasculate me. Some lent a hand. Almost nobody came to my rescue but rather a very small group of people did a little bit that made a difference.

I went off on one of my relatives that basically turned her back on me. This just happened over Thanksgiving weekend.

It was a very very tough road but I am back and things are getting better month by month year by year things are getting better, slowly but surely.

So you can do it. Just keep going.

cynicalsimon · 2016-12-03T05:42:41+00:00

Your going to get a pm. Your welcome btw

Dark---Horse · 2016-12-03T11:11:17+00:00

Strong people show their mettle in tough times. I am 56. Two years ago, in the space of two months, marriage collapse and lost my job. After divorce rape, ended up with half mil mortgage, 3 kids to feed (part time), and no job. Freaked out? Could not afford to be. I found a way to get by. You're 25 years younger, no kids no debt. Pick yourself off the floor and find a way to get back on the wave (love the analogy!)

im_moreofanideaguy · 2016-12-03T05:29:30+00:00

Here you go, friend. That's what I would do if I lost everything. Check out his window cleaning videos. He lost his job and started cleaning storefront windows, saving his family from homelessness. You can get started for under $100. Now he owns successful window cleaning and landscaping companies.

project_mayhem_ · 2016-12-03T06:30:27+00:00

four years ago I was in serious jeopardy of becoming homeless. i'll be debt free in a few months. anything can happen if you work hard and live MGTOW. be patient, though, because these things don't happen over night. best of luck to you.

martyfunkhauser_ · 2016-12-03T12:39:26+00:00

There's a scene from 2.5 Men that really helped me before I took the red pill, where Alan gets divorced (again), and moves back in with Charlie. His mother comes to visit, and tells him that he has hit rock bottom, and that the only way is up.

Look at your life from that point of view. You've had some shitty times thrown at you. Now is the time to dust yourself off, pick yourself up and go out there and grab life by the pussy.

ThisIsNotForTheLivin · 2016-12-03T12:49:11+00:00

Early 30s

Still young.

lost my job

Lots of jobs around you, I'm sure. Lower your expectations and needs and you'll do fine.

My industry is dying

You'll have to start learning new skills. This is how the world works nowadays. It's difficult and exhausting, but you have to adapt. Don't beat yourself up, it's not your fault.

Live alone, don't have any friends.

So much time and money all for you then!

I guess I'll have to move back in with my parents

Read up on eastern Europe. Most of us have to do this. Take Italy for example, most people live with their parents till they're 40. No shame in that and that's not even your fault, it's just how "the economy" is.

Feels like the world is just shitting on me constantly.

Cause it is. The key is to swim through that pile of shit. You'll be shat on your entire life. Do not give a fuck.

Just feel like an old failure.

You're not a failure, but you probably know what it's like.

Now, it'll take time to recover, give yourself some time and don't beat yourself up. It will suck, you will be shat on, but eventually you'll do fine, just don't give in.

RSWPlanespotter79 · 2016-12-03T06:16:59+00:00

Talk to people on here. Find some hobbies to keep you busy and get your mind off things

monkmode34 · 2016-12-03T07:11:32+00:00

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Trevalyn · 2016-12-03T10:40:16+00:00

Hey man, I'm midwest America here, I've got a job for you if you are in my area or want to travel. PM me.

lollipoopex · 2016-12-03T13:15:39+00:00

Try to focus on the positive side. Not having a job means you now have time and freedom until you start to work again. Do what you want, think of something new you could do. I was jobless for a year after college, in that time i made some youtube videos, learnt a bit of coding, but i remember feeling like shit was unevitable.

Just stop with that validation thing, focus on how to solve your problems. Thats life in a nutshell, solving one problem after another. The only realiable validation you get from yourself, your work.

Also try to keep some routine to your daily life, working out, computer, eating, socialising...

scouse_till_idie · 2016-12-03T13:22:26+00:00

Volunteering somewhere really helped me when I was in a similar situation, I had nothing, no job, no money, no car etc now a couple of years later I'm doing great, you just gotta grab your balls and make yourself take that risk mate - like I said, volunteering somewhere with people who needed genuine help allowed me not only to help them but progress myself too.

geocitiesuser · 2016-12-03T13:57:39+00:00

My industry is dying.

try freelancing

something's not adding up here.

mutageno · 2016-12-03T14:21:23+00:00

It's tough. But my little piece of advise: don't feed your depression. Don't feel sorry for yourself. Accept the world is bullshit. Do your best. Try no to bother other people. Give back to the people that help you.

Fuck shame for a setback. Use it to bounce back up. Perhaps you picked the wrong profession. Work it out. Be frugal and also pay fucking rent to your parents, cash or any other way you can. Not owing them one, pay. Gain self respect, respect the good ones, and others will respect you.

You can pull yourself out of this hole. Think how many people did in 10x worse situations.

Reinvent yourself. Ditch all the bullshit: social media, tv, reddit, games. Or at least compartamentalize it to say only on a specific day.

Learn stuff online, we live in an amazing time, a lot of stuff is out there for free. Get a library card while there.

TVTestPattern · 2016-12-03T15:37:52+00:00

Your setbacks are not permanent... neither are your successes.

Act accordingly...

iAmTheMasterOfMetal · 2016-12-03T16:14:39+00:00

Which industry are you in?

Fictitiousfallacy · 2016-12-03T17:52:51+00:00

Brother you have all the support and validation you need. You can come somewhere like this sub and get people offering to help you out and shooting you all kinds of well wishes. Keep your head up man. You will persevere, you're a man, that's what we do.

NaughtyFred · 2016-12-03T19:23:08+00:00

At the moment, if all the world has to offer you is a big steaming pile of poop then withdraw from it as much as you can while you focus on you and only you.

There is always hope.

redsfan277 · 2016-12-03T21:09:15+00:00

What do you do my friend?

I am going through the same thing. Got fired and now im trying to see but honestly think of this as a you time. Dont worry too much about the bills man just focus on yourself and this is the time you can try and learn a hobby...im actually learning how to program in Unity and make video games...its something I always wanted to do and have started to learn and its fun.

I will prob look for a new job but i def wish to make a living on my own at some point.

I sometimes feel like a failure myself as well but honestly dont compare yourself to someone else man...to do anything in the west you need money so try and live minimalist lifestyle but work on yourself.

omegapro95 · 2016-12-03T21:52:50+00:00

this sub is not for depressed people, search for websites for that, you prob think im being rude, im not. this is focused on mgtow.

hertus · 2016-12-03T22:23:53+00:00

I do recommend moving in with your parents to save money.

Zombocom1911 · 2016-12-04T02:40:52+00:00

Feels like the world is just shitting on me constantly. Have no validation in my life. Just feel like an old failure. What escape can I have?

Embrace it, use it to make you stronger. If life kicks you in the teeth, just grin and bear it. No need to try to escape from it, that would be like saying forgive and forget. NO.....If you patiently wait long enough , I believe you will get your revenge, with interest.

Shiprecker · 2016-12-03T07:43:13+00:00

MGTOW: Capable of Anything Learn to validate yourself internally, you are your own best friend.

Title	Ultra depressed, need help
Author	gsdsdaeas
Upvotes	28
Comments	31
Date	December 3, 2016 5:07 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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