I decided last week to give myself a vasectomy on my 28th birthday...which is tomorrow. However, I am only 95% sure this is the right decision.

The reason for wanting to get this procedure one is for a couple reasons.

  1. I have become very anxious about sex since a pregnancy scare earlier this year. I basically got a girl pregnant and when she told me about it, I had to convince her to get an abortion (which she did and not my proudest moment)... which later made her resent and threaten me with false ra**.
  2. I enjoy my life right now, because all my business is conducted online. I have been traveling the world, in a new country every few months for the last 3 years and fear this may come to an end if I do get someone pregnant.
  3. I have never been in a long term relationship although when I was younger I did want. However, now I don't really plan to until I hit the wall because to me it makes more sense to always get a new younger model rather than stick with the same one.
  4. I have a hard time using condoms...I used to be very careful to wear condoms and began thinking I had erectile dysfunction but then I started risking it with the pull out method a few times and had no issues.

The 5% of me that is against it is against it for the following reasons:

  1. When I do hit the wall in 15-20 years and stick with a girl half my age, I'll probably want a kid. The problem with the vasectomy reversal is that it is not guaranteed and reduces the quality of the sperm. The problem with IVF is there is a higher chance of birth defects. The problem with freezing sperm is that I'm in South Korea for the next month and it is expensive and a real hassle to get it done here.
  2. I feel a bit of shame when I think of what my parents would think of me (although I would never tell).

So, these are the thoughts that I having, with the procedure being in less than 24 hours away. Although I was fine with the decision for the whole of last week I have been getting cold feet...rationally I think I should do it but emotionally i'm a bit unsure. Any advice?