Wall-hitter struggles with reality

lostapwbm · 2016-04-28T00:52:43+00:00

In order to win clients in management consulting, my firm would add a twenty-something woman to the job. Sure, I was knowledgeable about the area, but my appearance was part of the reason I was put on the project team.

Meanwhile, some more qualified man was still looking for work because he didn't have a pair of tits.

Women learn about the link between their sexual desirability and their value before they have even learned to speak.

What kind of sick jamook is telling infants about sexual desirability?

Having recently turned 40 and a stay-at-home mother of two, it's been six years since I noticed a man check me out.

So she took the Mommy Track from "successful" office eye-candy to glorified babysitter/stay-at-home mom.

To be clear, I do not miss feeling threatened, being harassed or feeling objectified. It drove me crazy when male colleagues were more interested in my cleavage than my ideas.

Bet you still deposited those paychecks though, didn't you cupcake? (for our non-American English speakers, paycheques)

It's not so much sexual desirability that I miss. And it's not that I was staggeringly beautiful when I was younger. I wasn't. But my appearance fit within the bounds of female acceptability, which was essentially my passport to feel welcome in public space.

She was an HB 5-6, which means that she was not "holy shit" sexy, but she was cute and "obtainable," so guys felt like she was close enough to their level that they could try her.

My friends talk about being ignored in shops and being pushed out of the line at bars. We lose our names, being referred to instead as someone's mum. Professionally, we're shuffled off to back-of-house roles and our photos are left off corporate documentation.

Why not? Colleges are churning out thousands of HB 5-6 Basic Beckys every semester who can be the new office eye candy.

In my 20s, I made the mistake of confusing my f--kability with my credibility. I didn't see the distinction between being valued as a professional and valued as a potential Friday night girl.

Is...is she about to step off of the hamster wheel? I'm holding my breath here!

Now that I have lost my f--kability and my social and professional value has diminished accordingly, I understand that any power that I thought I had derived from my youth and beauty was only ever an illusion.

Oh man. The suspense is killing me here! A woman is about to take the red pill in real time!

But the reality, for women at least, is that the capacity to turn on a bloke is inseparable from judgements about our worth.

Whoops, nevermind.

PANTSONMIXTAPE · 2016-04-28T02:18:16+00:00

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bonusfruit · 2016-04-28T01:39:55+00:00

Her body is slowing down but her hamster is still running at top speeds

anon11211 · 2016-04-28T03:00:52+00:00

Well, honey, when you were younger, would you have even given the time of the day to a plumber? An electrician? A perfectly GOOD man who was not taller than you, who did not earn as much as you, who was not among the top 20% in terms of hotness? Of course not. You were probably sleeping with VPs and CEOs and treated 90% of men like shit. What went around came around, that's all.

Vega-Pinto-Rust-BOOM · 2016-04-28T01:51:09+00:00

In a western world of equal opportunity, she decided to use her looks to try and get ahead without learning any marketable skills.

The milk is very sour

mgtowguynow · 2016-04-28T00:47:33+00:00

Aww look her ego came crashing down!

Welcome to the wall sweetheart, as far as being seen as eyecandy? Them days are done.

Boo-fucking-hoo...

mugen_is_here · 2016-04-28T02:34:00+00:00

It drove me crazy when male colleagues were more interested in my cleavage than my ideas.

Then, maybe you shouldn't show your tits on a professional environment. But no, that would get you less attention, and we all know that people only pay attention to you because you have a wet, warm hole.

Teflon0819 · 2016-04-28T01:03:01+00:00

"In my 20s, I made the mistake of confusing my f--kability with my credibility. I didn't see the distinction between being valued as a professional and valued as a potential Friday night girl."

Welcome to the core of the problem with so many women. Now your next step as a feminist is to disavow your personal accountability and blame the patriarchy for tricking you into thinking what you did.

But the reality, for women at least, is that the capacity to turn on a bloke is inseparable from judgements about our worth.

Attagirl!

asete · 2016-04-28T05:21:55+00:00

"In my 20s, I made the mistake of confusing my f--kability with my credibility," writes Kasey Edwards.

of course you did, you're a stupid bitch.

I literally have zero sympathy for this old cunt. her only value to this world was as a hole, and she ensured that was the case by embracing her role as a hole.

TAUK2014 · 2016-04-28T01:53:00+00:00

But when it came to ensuring credibility for the team, that was a job for a grey head. Putting together project teams, we would often joke about how we needed to "wheel in some grey hair"

No fucks given for the grey hair who slogged his guts out.

Now that I have lost my f--kability and my social and professional value has diminished accordingly, I understand that any power that I thought I had derived from my youth and beauty was only ever an illusion.

She gets grey hair and we're not supposed to laugh?

Isaiah4verse1 · 2016-04-28T00:53:29+00:00

What are you gonna do about it, hunney?

CClavin · 2016-04-28T02:42:24+00:00

Welcome to ugly town lady, where I'll shave your back if you shave mine :D

WidmerBeer · 2016-04-28T05:30:25+00:00

Now someone tell her that 80% of all men have been dealing with the same thing since they were pre-teens the moment they discovered the opposite sex.

She'll most likely respond with "That's not true, every guy that my friends and I have ever liked had TONS of girlfriends." Well, no shit lady...

chillmonkey88 · 2016-04-28T03:15:53+00:00

I feel so sinical yet joyful reading these "fall from grace" with stories but at the same time I think they do both men and women good in terms of self actualization.

For the good of men - it opens their eyes that women aren't always going to be that beautiful golden vagina and should open your eyes that if women want to be with you they need to bring more to the table than tits.

For the good of women - to break this gender war feminist sjw propeganda that divides us further everyday. The author implies that being hot helped yet still has a job and kids and successful life rather than crying and whining and protesting that life isn't fair. I think the author owns that and might regret aging but didn't for one second blame anyone like you'd see in other post wall affirmation stories by women.

Imagine a fugly tumblr user wearing a "F your beauty standards" tee shirt reading this" her first thought would likely be "fucking men!" But maybe just maybe it also might be "man, this woman is right and maybe I should stop having so much self pity and better myself". Hit the gym and start bettering herself rather than blaming men.

Again these "fall from grace" posts always make me happy.

victor_knight · 2016-04-28T06:30:29+00:00

We've known for quite some time now (for both men and women, actually, these days) that employers hire primarily based on looks. In short, if you have the same or close enough skills as someone else but are better-looking (and slimmer, of course), you've got the job, not that other person. Of course, some bullshit story will be handed to them.

BukM1 · 2016-04-28T07:34:33+00:00

what a fucking entitled delusional cunt.

The reason you get completely ignored proffessionally princess is because you never actually developed any skill or value because you allowed yourself to get everything "Handed to you"

your male equivalent was living the life you complain about now in his youth and has forged himself a skillset and worth to get recognition and attention, you didnt because you relied on looks.

now its switched and you are invisible with no skills and he is with skills and not invisible, and you dont like it.

tough titties you entitled bitch.

exit-stage-right2 · 2016-04-28T07:36:35+00:00

she is a feminist and wants to have her cake and eat it too. she is a hypocrite, a true feminist wouldn't give a rats ass about her fuckability. But she rammed the wall and now misses her sexual currency. Boo hoo hoo, you got old, you got fat, you got ugly, kiss my ass bitch. Try working hard in life because I sure as hell wasn't born with a sexual currency

UpYourMut · 2016-04-28T08:53:55+00:00

Shes been out of work for at least 6 years - how does she know that women aren't being used as 'grey heads'? Maybe if she didn't abandon work for her own selfish reasons she would have developed her credibility.

gundahir · 2016-04-28T06:56:25+00:00

I wonder how many guys in office she fucked while she already had her current husband

Allanlemos · 2016-04-28T11:30:48+00:00

This kind of texts always remind me how much I love to be a man.Even though we have to struggle since early in life,we have a lot of room for improvement,we can increase our value to society,but women on the other hand,are nothing but depreciating assets,they have an expiration date.

givecake · 2016-04-28T03:17:13+00:00

We need to be so careful in our treatment of girls. She is right to say that girls learn quite young that beauty is how a female controls a male. If girls were encouraged to dress modestly, and according to their natural figures, while also encouraged greatly to develop their natural abilities as far as possible, they would both have great value outside of looks and youth, AND could avoid both the manipulation of men and the disappointment that age/kids bring to their power.

Oh.. would you look at that. I've just described traditional Christianity.

Vaping_Hitler · 2016-04-28T12:19:28+00:00

Writing recently on Role Reboot, Cecily Kellogg argued that with age, she's now judged on her credibility rather than her looks. This is the upside of losing your sexual desirability. But for many women, things don't work out so well. In my experience, older women were rarely called in to close a deal or impress a client.

How can she write these sentences right next to each other and not get it? EG older women are merely young vaguely competent women who got older.

In the work place, there comes a day when you look at a longstanding female colleague and think: why'd we hire this dumb bitch? She doesn't know shit.

SigmaDiabolicum · 2016-04-28T18:17:30+00:00

Fucking LOL. My heart bleeds for her.

I love articles like these, they almost make the bullshit we have to go through worthwhile.

Taffy212 · 2016-04-28T20:11:57+00:00

Boo fucking hoo, welcome to reality. Get on with it.

Title	Wall-hitter struggles with reality
Author	Arzu1982
Upvotes	66
Comments	47
Date	April 28, 2016 12:29 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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