I poke around r/PurplePillDebate hoping to bump into some different perspectives or a an interesting discussion. Sadly the vast majority of women can never debate with most men because we are intrinsically different in what we value. The women ALL post about themselves, their feelings and their experiences or their friends, no matter how abstract the question or if the debate is about population level phenomena. They have no notion of anecdotal evidence not counting as a rebuttal of population level statistics. They can't cite sources, they can't follow the train of though of the action or attitudes they recommend to determine what their likely outcome for society would be if they were widely adopted. They do not seem to see past themselves. There are some dumb ass guys like that out there too but with women it is the great majority.

This leads not just to a failure to have meaningful debate but also to a deep difference in values. If you look at the big picture, you see Nikola Tesla as a genius whose work in the field of electronics made the modern world possible. If most women look at Tesla, they see a failure, a man who may have died a virgin and never got rich off his inventions unlike Edison. They cannot value achievement that doesn't come with social status, which implies it is never the achievement they value, just the fame and clout. So they would hail Elon Musk and not the real Tesla, and never bother with reading the financials of Elon's companies or checking the manufacturing process, lack of innovation, missed deadlines, flat out lies about self driving etc. That all takes time and effort, it is easier to just follow the fame. Such a fundamental difference means that whilst a man with no internal drive, no real vision of his own, no personal creative or intellectual passions is perfectly capable of a blissful relationship with most women, any man with an active mind will find naught but disappointment there. I've had in depth talks about history, military tactics, theoretical physics, the law and all sorts of other subjects with random guys on the street who don't do it for a living but have intellectual curiosity and value great achievements whether society lauds them or not. I have however failed to even have a decent conversation on legal realism with female lawyers who do that stuff for a living but only do what they must to get money, have no further interest or passion, same with female doctors, chemists, designers etc. If they do not get money from it or clout/social capital, they cannot see its value, they don't see or care about any great human march towards progress, anything bigger than themselves and their experiences.

Esther Vilar wrote wonderfully on the subject in both The Manipulated Man and The Polygamous Sex. I highly recommend both.