AITA For refusing to take my girlfriend to a concert after she invited me and then uninvited me?

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TL;DR at the bottom.

Ok so... I’ve been with my girlfriend now for almost 4 years and things are great. We have our ups and downs but hey who doesn’t.

Recently she invited me to go to a concert with her in a town that’s 4 hrs away, I said of course I would go and everything was fine, we booked tickets, parking, etc. (our plan was to drive down and back home straight after the concert) flash forward 4 months to 2 weeks before the concert and she turns around and says I can’t go anymore because she wants to go with her other girlfriends, so I’m like that’s cool, I’ll just stay home.

But she asks me if I will drive her and her friends down to this concert 4 hrs away, then sit in the car and wait in the car park for her for another 4 hrs and then drive 4 hrs home. I say no and she looses her mind, saying that I’m a horrible boyfriend and why won’t I take her down to this concert and sit in the car, in a car park and wait for 4 hrs with nothing to do.

She goes on being cranky at me for a week about it until eventually I give in and say I’ll drive her and wait, but her and her friends have to chip in for fuel. But then she gets cranky all over again saying no. I “offered” to take her so I should pay the fuel.

So now I’m sitting in a car park, it’s 8pm. I’ve been here since 6pm wondering. AITA?

TL;DR - My girlfriend of 4 years invited then uninvited me to a concert and then expected I drive her 4 hrs there, wait 4 hrs then drive 4 hrs back

UPDATE: Thank you everyone for your input, After a lot of thinking, today I made the decision to break up with her, it was hard and the next little while is gonna really suck. But I can see that it was the right thing to do.

As someone said it was one of those “I can see how crazy this is now that I’m not apart of it anymore” moments, and just didn’t realise at the time. As they say. Hindsight is 20/20

Now that I’ve broken up with her I can also now see some of the things she used to do could be also classed as domestic violence, so once again. Thank you everyone.