Advice needed

YouSaidChicken · 2021-03-30T16:13:08+00:00

You overly invest in things.

Stop doing that. Embrace a IDGAF mentality and stop worshipping pussy.

It's just a moist hole you masturbate in, you have some other emotional hole in your life you need to work on. Women can't fill it, they will just exploit it. You'll be sniffed out by predators as a little bitch to be fucked with.

So stop giving a fuck about stupid shit. Part of adulthood is not caring about the little things like a child, so do that. Simply stop caring about things that don't matter.

newlife_3 · 2021-03-30T22:53:53+00:00

Bit of an odd request here but how could I go about intentionally shutting down my emotions?

If you have emotions it's impossible to just shut them down. The only thing that is possible is to tell them to shut up and let the logical part of your brain be at the steering wheel, but you will still have emotions and they will try to yank you out of that serene state. And don't try to hold that state for a really long time, otherwise your emotional mind will feel depraved and you will glide into depression. Use it as a stepping stone to try and grow good emotions. You archive that by concentration and willpower, otherwise known as meditation. I learned it as "grow up, don't let your emotions drive you" and my sister learned the same.

I’ve come to the conclusion that I can’t live without pussy or female company but at the same time I know they are all messed up beyond belief.

On one side you still have the craving for a woman and on the other side you have the fear induced by your logical brain, that is in conflict with your craving. Pair that with the craving that wants to rattle at your believes stemmed from your logical brain and the now induced fear. With that rollercoster it's no wonder you want to just kill of your emotions and be done with it, but like everything in life it isn't that easy and you need to unravel it to get better. And don't be scared to ask for help, it's only human to need some help.

I want to learn to be heartless like these women that damage man after man with no emotional toll.

Ohhh they sure as hell know it, at least their logical brain knows it. Why do you think so many of them want to be hit, called slut, cheap whore or otherwise be degraded when fucked? It's just that they had a lot of conflicting emotions, some coming from their biologie, and they chose the easy way out. And if it's revenge your after, then karma, fate, reality or whatever you want to call it will serve it cold. They will pay it when they are older and want children and double when they don't want to die alone.

Reddit1984Censorship · 2021-03-30T16:14:11+00:00

I learnt to shut down empathy for others by practicing yoga both the phsyical and meditation. In the practice i trained my attention to not be disctracted by thoughts, feelings or sensations, wich happens to be what is needed to shut down empathy wich is to develop control of your ''attention'' to not go where you dont want it to go.
Your attention is your private property and is under your command, is not for others to use it as they please.
I believe evil women do it naturally by being irrational in their minds, when emotions is all they process then theres always a rationalization on why nothing is their fault because they dont need to be cosistent logicaly in their minds. ''Oh i did that to that person and that person got damaged by it? Nah, this things are completely unrelated because they feel right to me if i think of them in this way'' An irrational mind can do that as well.

Gaiinahat · 2021-03-31T04:04:00+00:00

You don't shut down your emotions. You're a person. You have feelings. You have desires. You have needs. Accept them. You're also a man. You have to keep your wits about you. You don't have to be heartless, you have to be smart. Keep your emotions to yourself, and don't act on them, especially in front of women. You don't have to live without pussy. You don't have to live without female company. You have to be smart about it though, and don't go sticking your dick in crazy. Pussy is all the same, no matter what shape, size, or color it is, and there's so much of it out there, you already have your pick of the best, as long as you keep your shit together.

Joshua886 · 2021-03-30T16:21:03+00:00

The cycle of hope and subsequent rage is the only way to go from desire to apathy. You will relapse and that is ok. One day you won't have to tell yourself that you made the right decision, you will feel it. This is the path and you have a choice to follow it or not. I hope this isn't you, but a lot of men reach this point because they never desired anything more than to be a husband and father, appreciated and respected. In this case it is easy to lose interest in life.

S_Taera · 2021-03-30T19:05:35+00:00

Bit of an odd request here but how could I go about intentionally shutting down my emotions?

You don't, you're a human, you're a man, that's what makes you grew stronger, that's what makes you able to learn and see a bigger picture everytime shit happen, you cast away your emotion? you turn into nothing but empty shell, a psychopath.

I want to learn to be heartless like these women that damage man after man with no emotional toll.

No emotional toll? wrong, everytime a person does something that's against his/her conscience and his/her word aren't in line with their actions, they got a heavy sanity toll, that's why they become more and more insane everytime, that's why you keep seeing hateful unreasonable crazy sorry excuse of human being growing rapidly everywhere nowadays, this is one hell of a recipe to create a psychopath.

Once you gave up your humanity you're already losing in life, everytime you get hurt you have a choice to be a monster or to be a bigger man, walk away before it's too late..

I_am_the_Julio · 2021-03-31T00:20:06+00:00

Just adopt an IDGAF attitude, it’s better than shutting down your emotions completely. If you learn to be heartless like “these women that damage men with no emotional toll”, then are you really any better than they are? Those kinds of people are obviously bad so why would you want to become one of them? Its honestly better just to go your own way, focusing on yourself and trying to build yourself up, than it is to become a part of the problem.

Dry-Abroad5403 · 2021-03-31T01:11:11+00:00

I'm sure there are many out there who have been able to shut down there emotions, but I don't think it's the majority.

What I think you want to do is control your emotions, which is actually an incredibly important and useful skill to have. Outside of personal relationship uses, it really helps in all aspects of your life.

The only way I was able to control my emotions was to be burned and realized I couldn't do anything about it - and that translated into me understanding that if something negative happens, and I cannot do anything about it, then I just ride the wave and don't let it have any effect on me. It's incredibly tough to do at first - in some cases you're going to want to lash out, and you cannot. At the end of the day, however, you just have to let yourself know that things are okay.

You're going to have things that take an emotional toll on you. That's fine. It's natural. However, the real gist of this is do not let your emotions cloud your decision making. This was the single best thing for me to realize, and once I started making decisions purely from logic, compared to emotion, life saw some major improvements. Find your own form of an IDGAF attitude.

Gamer25862 · 2021-03-31T03:50:55+00:00

I've stopped caring about women, I don't know how but I did. Maybe it happened after I learned more about feminism.

cleats4u · 2021-03-31T03:58:37+00:00

Once you want more than a piece of ass (companionship-time) you've gone into Disney World or the Magic Kingdom. It's a pussy, you are relieving a biological need. It's not yours it's just your turn (today). If you can't do it that way...you better go monk.

reaper555 · 2021-03-31T15:28:58+00:00

You can't shut off your emotions they are an integral component of being a human. You don't need anything as a man. This is all-or-nothing thinking. You might want women or female company but you don't need it. You can make healthy choices like hanging out with your guy friends, start a business, pick up a hobby or a project. Do something that is going to benefit you for you.

I don't have the capacity of being a heartless person like most women. Nor would I want that gift. My love and compassion are for my closest friends, my niece, my dog and for people that have less than I have. Not going to waste it on entitled women who don't have a shred of respect for men.

Solo_and_Simple · 2021-03-31T12:44:33+00:00

You can shut down your emotions in various ways -- intense distraction, alcohol or drugs, some antidepressant medication, suppression, intellectualization, etc. However, you'll run into problems:

- None of these strategies work long-term. They all backfire in one way or another

- You can't shut down feelings selectively. You can only do it globally. That means that when you shut down your ability to feel negative feelings, you shut down your ability to feel positive ones as well. So, you're less capable of happiness, interest, care, satisfaction, etc.

- Emotions are a source of information, and when you cut them off, you cut off a source of information; you become less able to handle your problems. At the very least, emotions are information about what you are thinking (because that's where emotions come from), which provides the gateway to actually solving the problem.

Instead of trying to get rid of your emotions, I'd suggest trying to learn more about them, and specifically about how your thoughts are creating them. When you can do that, you'll have some leverage over the problem.

Good luck!

Title	Advice needed
Author	newlife_3
Upvotes	1
Comments	18
Date	March 30, 2021 4:05 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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